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Friend pulled out of gig and has asked to sell ticket to someone I barely know

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Sundaycoffee · 05/02/2025 16:55

I had a concert booked with a friend in the middle of March and she has had to pull out to attend a milestone family birthday party that has been arranged since we booked.
She has told me she wants to sell the ticket to a friend. This particular friend I have only met twice before in the past couple of years and is nice enough but not someone I would choose to spend the evening with and had I known this I wouldn't have spent £££ on a ticket/ evening to sit with someone I barely know.
She wants full price for the ticket and there are no takers from anyone my side, unless it was at a discounted rate. She's taken the stance that she should be allowed to do what she wants with the ticket she bought. AIBU to feel a bit put out?

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LiesDoNotBecomeUs · 05/02/2025 17:10

Go to the concert -enjoy it.
Perhaps you will become best-buddies with the stand-in companion who shares your taste in music... and drop your flaky-friend.

Lilacpurplegal · 05/02/2025 17:10

I’d try and make the best out of a bad situation and ask for her friends number to chat about gig beforehand and be a bit more comfortable with her on the day.

Lilacpurplegal · 05/02/2025 17:08

It might be a good opportunity to make a new friend?

I understand you feel put out, but if you have tried to find someone to take the ticket at the price your friend wants but she’s found someone who will pay the full price - it’s a no brainer for your friend really.

These things happen and it’s really frustrating, but yabu

Magnastorm · 05/02/2025 17:06

These things happen and it really is her ticket to do with what she wants. Sometimes with the best will in the world, plans change.

Just go and make the most of it - it's a gig, so when the band are on you are not going to be chatting to this person anyway so really, does it matter? At worst you'll need to make small talk for a short while before the band comes on/ in any breaks or whatever.

AnAlpacaForChristmasPleaseSanta · 05/02/2025 17:03

@Sundaycoffee could you offer to buy her ticket off her? That way you get to see the gig and take someone you know/like.

OliveThe0therReindeer · 05/02/2025 17:01

Legally she’s right - she can what she wants. But it’s a poor way to treat a friend, I wouldn’t arrange something like this with her again.

YoungGunsHavingSomeFunCrazyLadiesKeepEmOnTheRun · 05/02/2025 17:00

Yanbu to feel upset, but she is nbu either.

If you don't want to go can you sell your ticket?

Or just use it and go alone?

toomuchfaff · 05/02/2025 16:59

No YANBU to feel put out. I'd not be organising anything with her again.

I think I'd be trying to offload my ticket too, or if you tried to have a meet up with the other person first to see if you could "grow" that friendship before the night?

CastleCrasher · 05/02/2025 16:59

It's unfortunate, but it's her ticket to do with a she pleases- unless you want to subsidise a discount so someone of your choosing will buy it, you're going to have to accept it i think!

Moonnstars · 05/02/2025 16:59

Yes it's ok to feel put out by it but really if your friend bought and paid for her own ticket there isn't anything you can do. She can find someone willing to pay full price whereas you say you can't, so unless you perhaps pay the extra towards covering her ticket so that a friend of yours can come then I think it's just bad luck.

Shoxfordian · 05/02/2025 16:58

It's her ticket so it's fair enough she wants the full amount for it really

Catza · 05/02/2025 16:58

You are there to see a concert. You will be sitting next to many strangers. There is no need to hang out with this friend at all.
Many years ago my boss organised an outing with a few work people to the theatre. All of them cancelled the last minute and it ended up being me and a woman who was an absolute bully at work. No biggy. We traveled there separately and didn't interact at all for the duration of the performance.

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