Possible final straw with DH

You seem to be the only voice who is finding excuses for OP's DH's behaviour. Shit may wash off, but it doesn't sound as though OP's DH has even bothered to try and clean up.

So he is at home and, if he is dodging the question, it's obvious that he hasn't cleaned up the bedroom or the bathroom. What an utterly disgusting man he is.

OK, start with reading the OP. You're not making any sense at all. Accusing a poster for using foul language towards females and misogynie when the poster was clearly on OP's side and telling her to LTB like the majority have told her. If you're not a troll I recommend reading posts several times if you have a problem with comprehension.

He’s grim. The bed shitting was bad enough but 80 year old escorts too??? Rotten.

Leave him to his 80 year old girlfriend. With a bit of luck she’ll already have a commode by the bed.

FFS how old is he? 19? How could he possibly be THAT drunk?!

As others have said, sounds like drugs.

I couldn't put up with a man who intentionally farted next to me, let alone this!

You are married to a complete and utter pig. Do you really intend to stay married to him?

Not bizarre, just don’t know my way around here.

And even more bizarrely, you're responding to your own post?! 🙄

No seriously, objectizing ageist misogyny, shit washes off….might be stuck with those character flaws…

If it’s true…

Really?! Didn't realise the word granny was foul?! And as for judging, I'm actually not, I'm seeing the situation exactly how it is! Obviously your standards are as low as the OPs! Don't know why you've singled me out, when other posters have basically said the same?! But if it makes you happy, that's great, good for you! I suggest you go have a look through active, there are a couple of comments in the threads on there, calling women bitches! Go take your faux "outrage" there! The truth is the truth, don't like it, don't read. HTH
Edited to say, I've just read your post in response to the OP. Have you actually read the full thread and updates??? Your comment is bizarre to say the least! And I can't see the "hilarity" in this post at all, it's frankly disgusting. I think you're the one out of line here!

Run! Fast!

How could you have a single ounce of respect for this filthy creep? You deserve so much better than this.

Well if he hasn't yet cleaned it up, hours later, and has sat/lay all day in a bed full of his own shit, or even just hung around in a shit coated, stinking house then he has issues beyond anything I could even consider dealing with. That's without even adding in the prostitute contact. He's FOUL. I'd have the permanent ick and it would just be the total end. I couldn't even imagine sleeping next to someone like that, let alone sleeping with. If I was you, I'd get an STI test as soon as possible in addition to ending things. He's obviously a massive liar as well as disgusting.

Your language regarding females is foul….and you’re judging others…

this is awful, does he have form for gaslighting?

Oh I really feel for you OP, I would never be able to see him in a sexual light again, he would have to make a really over the top dramatic gesture of love and romance to make it up and even THEN, just GROSS

I had an ex who would piss all over the bed and carpets drunk and that was bad enough. Waking up to shit is just another level of trauma. Imagine if your child had been home???

@BestMumAva Even if it was 'only' chatting (which I seriously doubt given you can nip to see an escort in the time it takes to pop to the local chippy) that alone is more than enough to end the relationship.

Talking to sex workers, shitting all over your house and not even apologising? Is this the life you want for yourself? Would you want your daughter to endure a partner like this? No! Why should it be any different for you?

JHC on a fucking bike!!!
I can't believe you're even saying you're so confused?!
He's a potential granny banger for a start and I reckon if he's been looking, he's already been there, sorry OP! What was his excuse when you found that out?! Other than he was "just looking"? I'd have been gone at that point to be honest!
And then he covers you, the bed and the bathroom in his shit-nami! How the hell hasn't he trodden/dripped it all over the floors, getting to the bathroom more to the point?!
What the hell does he actually bring to the relationship that you're questioning your position?
I think you know what you need to do, get those quackers in a row and get out of there! This wouldn't even be a consideration for me, he's a cheat, a revolting pig AND he wants 80 year olds as shag pieces! 🤢

"I still don't think I have dealt with the stuff about the elderly sex worker either. Do you really think it may have gone further than just messaging?"

I don't want to upset you further as you're having a horrible time but why would it stay at just messaging? He clearly wants to satisfy a sexual desire and it's unlikely he'll do that without some kind of sexual encounter. If he just wants to chat to women in their 80s he could go on a coach trip.

I’m sorry @BestMumAva , he isn’t being open and honest about something you actually saw. I wouldn’t expect him to be honest about something you didn’t see.

I would LTB, this is beyond. He’s so far over the line that he can’t even see the line.

I agree that the previous transgression is worse than drinking himself into such a state that he'd make such a mess (and leave it for you to find, then fail to apologise), but both are bad. I can't imagine living with someone for whom this level of boozing is normal enough that he seems to think nothing of it. That's no kind of life, so I'd get out while I could. It's not good for your child to be exposed to a frequently drunk parent, either.

ExH pissed all over the bed on Xmas eve once and also on holiday.Vile.