Possible final straw with DH

Well now we know where he gets his entitlement from! What a silly cow.

If one of my adult ds's called to ask me to come round and clean up their shit I'd think they'd had a brain injury.

Got to make up for losing their winter fuel allowance somehow. And it would seem there’s a market for it.

OP, reading that he got his mum to clean it up has really sickened me. I would leave him for that alone.

But on your updates: he's put your health at risk and lied to you. That's more than enough reason to terminate this relationship.

If his mum rings you up to beg you, tell her the truth about the sex worker.

I'm more shocked at a woman in her 80s on an escort site 😳

Couldn't make it up could you?!

The update about the BJ is truly disgusting 🤢 , good on the friends wife for telling you . Is it possible to wfh in your job or do you get paid sick leave as it’s probably better to get signed off with stress rather than lie .

@BestMumAva .
Thats all the decision making been done for you then.
I wouldnt waste my time on his mum. She clearly merits the disrespect he demonstrates. - (Imagine TELLING your Ma?/far less get her clean up.!)
I think you do the right thing going to parents. The damage is done- got to process it now.Be gentle with yourself.

Only way from here is up.x

It's time to line up those ducks, get a solicitor and divorce the dirty cheat. Honestly, your life will be so much better without him.

And you're allowed to be furious.

Yes, because otherwise the divorce and the issues around visitation with his DD are going to come as a horrible shock to her and she will just blame the OP. Better to have a complete understanding of the context, despite the shame.

Please do tell his mum op. She needs to know about her precious boy

Humour bypass alert!
When some idiot has cut me up on the roads I often fantasise about seeing their car upside down in a ditch a couple of miles further on and me driving by laughing. Would I do that? I don't know, I've never been in that position.

Ugh, my stomach churned just reading about his 'accident' - leave him to his mum, who clearly thinks he's a wonderful human being, and doesn't baulk at the idea of cleaning up her adult son's faeces.

As for the elderly escort - I'm surprised there's a market for elderly lady porn, but it takes all sorts, there are some weird fetishes about.

LTB.

The shitting I could possibly get over if it wasn’t every time he went out but the old woman prozzie thing? He’d never see me or my children again.

I’m so sorry. Have a time to reevaluate options while you’re with parents. I think dick head husband needs to go live with his Mammy

Unbelievable indeed...

Clearly she was just joking

I really don't think the OP was trying to make this into a funny tale to be laughed at.. It was not "story" telling for a laugh.. And by the way you don't need to quote the whole OP, we know who you are replying to.

OP is clearly JOKING.... do you really think posting this is empathetic/supportive/helpful or even kind to her?
Nobody needs the 'speech police' to tell us off when we vent!

He is a disgusting man. Please get sti checked...
And file for divorce.. The sense of relief will be huge...
Imagine never having to see his dm ever again?

I have a lot of sympathy for your situation, but this is a very odd comment....!

As disgusting as his behaviour is.... non of it is illegal or would ever warrant that kind of punishment.

@BestMumAva make sure you're keeping a record of all this (although I know it is horribly tattooed in your brain already) because some of this will be relevant when the issue of residency/custody of your daughter comes up. If he has a drink problem so extreme that he sh*ts all over your house to the extent his mother has to clean for him, and also that he uses prostitutes, he isn't fit to have sole charge of your daughter during visitation.

Coming to terms with all of this won't be easy I know. Sending love and support.

Sometimes I think men cannot lower the bar any further, and then in strolls someone willing and able.

So sorry this is happening OP. You won’t feel it now but you’ll look back one day grateful he ‘ate a dodgy curry’. Sometimes we just cannot see what is infront of us x

Oh OP, that’s awful. BUT you now don’t have to struggle with what decision to make - it has been made for you IMO - he has made it very easy for you now to tell him to fuck off. Dirty deceitful %|*~£#!
Why he’s told his mates what he did with the elderly sex worker, I have no clue, as surely to goodness they would find that disgusting not impressive or funny. He should be ashamed rather than banding the story around like some amusing anecdote.
Thank goodness for the mates wife finally telling you.
Youve quite rightly got the upper hand here OP and you can move on - the situation will be tough, but you can hold your head high while your soon2bXH lies in the gutter covered in his own shit.

The rest of your life starts now OP.
Whatever the future holds for you and your DD, it will be a million times better than life with this deviant, nasty piece of work x

Well on the plus side op, having read your mornings updates, there is no 'possibly' final straw about it.
He is repulsive.

Absolutely take leave for this.

Go to your parents and type in how to apply for divorce in to google whilst you're there.