Was I so rude???

No need for the backlash. Personally if you'd have asked me I'd have just said 'oh sorry'. As long as you did ask politely I don't see the issue.

You can't tell people to be quiet but you can report the cashier for shouting at you to his manager. He should have served the customers quickly and kept the line moving so I'd complain about his behaviour.

Or maybe your just entitled!

The world doesn't stop because you have a baby, the sooner babies get used to noise the better

@Mulberrypie
You can of course tell people to be quiet. They of course don’t have to comply.
Stop getting hung up on whether you were rude.
You spoke up and it takes balls to confront people and you should be proud you did so.
Rudeness is subjective. So long as you know you weren’t rude then you have nothing to worry about.
Babies are hard work and I have empathy. There’s nothing more rage inducing than someone waking a sleeping newborn but it’s life and it will happen.
Don’t be ashamed for requesting but understand that sometimes the request will not go down well.

I feel for you OP, but what you did wasn't reasonable. You were in a public place and about to go back outside where there could be any amount of noise so asking people to do keep their voices down in a shop was pretty pointless . But the others were also unreasonable to shout at you which must have been scary for you and the baby.

Pmsl at the demographic in Home Bargains 🤣

God forbid what might have happened in Primark eh?

OP, you were frustrated tired and upset and didn't mean any harm but it's a shop where there's noise, yesterday my ears were assaulted by a toddler having a meltdown but I ground my teeth to stumps and finished my shopping......hmmmm I wonder in Harrods do toddlers have meltdowns, or ladies have a bit of a raucous laugh?

Op they were rude, but you weren't in a library, I would just ignore their rudeness, but I would bear in mind that other folk don't know what's going in in someone's head and possibly thought it was your issue telling them to be quiet.

I've four adult sprogs now and honestly it's not good to have silence all the time, my newborn had to put up woth the others playing and laughing and napped through it all.

It gets better honestly, don't take it to heart.

So one person in one store, out of over 600 stores, was wearing a Tommy Robinson shirt. This is not representative of an entire demographic is it really?

Really?? You expect people out in a public place to apologise for going about their day, and then go quiet, just so a baby can sleep? IN a shop? IN a public place? 😂😵‍💫😂😵‍💫

I can understand your reasoning as you must be tired yourself but I would have just sucked it up and thought about the positives, which is that it’s much better for you in the long run if your baby can sleep through noise.

You were being a bit unreasonable, but not rude, asking them to be quiet.

However, they were unkind, unreasonable and gross for shouting at a new mum with a baby.

I wouldn't take it to heart OP, it's a bit of a non-event in the great scheme of things x

You were being unreasonable, you were in a public place. Babies need to learn to get used to noise. I used to purposely vacuum around mine, put the tv etc. Babies do not need complete silence, get them used to noise, so much easier.

Please try to just let it go. These things tend to stick in the brain but everyone has bad days. You could go to the same shop 50 different times and not have that happen again. Don't let it put you off getting out and about, and don't waste time second- or third- guessing what you could have said to make it go differently.

You can't really tell people to be quiet in public during the day, but I can totally understand why you did. I remember coming back from a walk and baby DS had finally gone to sleep in his buggy. A man in a sports car stopped to ask directions, then as he drove away he revved his engine and DS woke up. If I'd had a gun I'd have shot the driver!!

OP any decent person would have said sorry and turned the volume down so as not to wake the sleeping baby but unfortunately too many people these days are rude and obnoxious, you have just met two such god awful common examples. Please forget all about them as they really are not worth the headspace. Enjoy your baby, things will get easier.

I can remember cringing and silently cursing when people were loud when one of my babies had just fell asleep, however there is no way I would ever have asked anyone to be quiet in a public place, I would consider moving away or grin and bare it. I’m not surprised they reacted in a hostile way!

You do sound like an overtired and overwhelmed new parent, as I remember being too.

I don't think you were actually rude but you really can't ask people to be quiet or try to control noise levels in such a very public place. It's doomed to failure, I'm afraid.

Your baby needs to learn to deal with normal daytime noise like this during daylight hours, especially when out and about. You'd have been better just leaving this one.

You have control in your own home, though I made no effort to keep the house unduly quiet during the day. They had to learn the difference between night and day somewhere along the line.

Their response to you did sound over the top and quite rude, which was unnecessary but I would give it no more headspace now. Just remember that you can't control people's volume in public, and that things will get easier for you and your baby in time. Baby will learn to deal with it and there's only one way that happens.

😂 Truly we are living in a dystopian nightmare.

Tbf, I'd have done similar and worse, for a few tins of baked beans, a few days from payday last month 😂😭

Oh op, this is going to be one of those times you'll look back on and cringe.

I did far too many PFB things when I was in the midst of it and sleep deprived, most of us probably have, and I can laugh about them now he's 24, but at the time I really couldn't understand why the world wasn't bending over backwards to accommodate my PFBs needs.

Being sleep deprived absolutely sucks so you have my sympathies, but you can't expect random people to act differently on your say so.

Next time your baby falls asleep just go somewhere and grab a coffee and go for a walk around the park or something. Home Bargains can wait.

I think I need more info about exactly how you asked.

You are absolutely allowed to ask anyone anywhere if they would mind being a little quieter and there was no reason at all for them to be rude back.

Unfortunately some people like the sound of their own voices far too much to be able to pipe down for a few minutes.

Forget about it OP they were obviously lacking in any empathy for a new mum.

Yes absolutely we should all be meek little ladies when we're out and not laugh or behave in any sort of animated way, how dare they.

You don’t really go up to people in a shop and ask them to keep the noise down🙄🙄

A hardworking, will put up with almost anything one I would say. Hopefully found something with a better working environment I hope.

Its not normal for children to run around in shops screaming surely?

There are a few factors here.
There's every chance they did not see a sleeping baby. They probably seemed especially loud to you because you were very tired which is understandable.
Your description of them does suggest some negative judgement on your part and perhaps this came across in your tone/ face.
Overall it is a bit much to ask people to be quiet in a public space and I think you should've either moved away or just accepted it.