Was I so rude???

In that situation, those 2 ladies were having a bit of fun with the male cashier. He might not have even wanted the attention but he is inclined to be polite and respond to customers within the remit of being a cashier. I doubt you felt like interracting with anyone, being a new mum is exhausting - your focus is your baby, yourself and buying what you need without any disturbance or distress. Meantime, the world keeps turning and other people just carry on with their day to day lives seemingly without a care in the world.

I hate unwanted noise of any kind - it is everywhere - in the supermarket people are constantly chatting on their phones, people shouting outdoors instead of just talking and we have a neighbour from hell who has to shout all her business and anyone else's every time she opens her mouth, her language is atrocious. I once asked her not to use that language in front of the children (meaning in earshot of them) - mine and hers - but the response I got was a mouthful in front of all her family who are just the same. People like that don't change but neither will we. It's like black & white, good & bad, polite & rude, sensible & stupid - it takes all sorts to make a world.

Next time in Home Bargains suss out the queues before you head to the till and aim for a queue of 'lone' shoppers with a cashier who doesn't interract but just gets the job done. Ear buds are also a godsend xx

I love home bargais. I think it's a shop for everyone:)

‘I'm laughing at the sneery posts about the Home Bargain's demographic. Just before Christmas I bumped into our director ( local authority) there with his wife. They were buying stocking fillers for the grandchildren. As the wife said, 'you've got to love a bargain!'

I’d never been in Home Bargains, until a friend who was visiting from Italy sang the praises of its luggage , he got a really cheap extra suitcase there. So we went to have a look, and DH now buys their bird peanuts every fortnight.

The friend is a Marquis.

Are ladies defined by their airs and graces, ability to STFU in shops, not answer back when asked to keep the noise down in a shop?

Yes

Just because you haven't heard men shrieking, doesn't mean they don't.

Don't be silly.

What a dodgy as fuck response

More on shrieking/squealing women here -

www.thecut.com/2013/12/why-adult-women-squeal-like-teen-girls-sometimes.html

@Clarice99

'What about shrieking men? Or is it just women who should keep the noise down in public?'

Don't be silly. I've never heard a man or any men to shriek or be shrieking! loud guffawing perhaps but not shrieking!

@justalittlehandhold If you actually believed some of the shite that some posters sit and type🤣

Thy live in squillion squid houses, earn a squillion squid a year, have strapping six foot rugby playing sons and make a cooked chicken last a week. In reality they are bored as fuck and like to come in here and pretend to look down on others.

You get them popping up on threads like these, usually followed by a head tilt and tinkly laugh😁

OP, I sympathise with you in that it is so hard when baby is young and not sleeping! Many times I used to shush innocent family members around the house for talking too loudly or trying to make a cup of tea whilst dc was napping. (Yes, I know I was annoying!)

BUT, strangers chatting in a shop? YABU. You could have just waited elsewhere in the shop. They do have a right to be there too. They shouldn't have been rude to you but you were unreasonable.

I think it’s you who was trying to be superior actually, quite confused, with your “we all know”.

You sound an utter snob!

Do you think OPs sleeping child had a dummy on a clip?

Thank you for pointing that out- I did actually correct it when I realised it had auto spelled it.

I know you're desperate to virtue signal so who am I to deny you the pleasure of feeling morally superior...those of a lower socio economic status often found with tattoos and small children with earrings and dummies on clips.

Satisfied now??

I love HB btw, but if I’d been the customer in front I’d have gone into whisper mode because I still remember the awfulness of this stage. Should I have to be quiet in a shop - no . Would I feel for OP and pipe down - absolutely

I feel for you OP. At this point your whole life revolves around sleep - needing it desperately, not getting enough to function,fantasising about an uninterrupted 5 hours etc. when your baby does finally nod off, you’d do just about anything to ensure they have a good rest. I can totally understand what you did in HB. You’re desperate. But while it would nave been lovely to be given some empathy and consideration, usually there isn’t much of it around at times. The cashier certainly should not have joined in with supporting the customers but diffused the situation.

All I can suggest is that if it’s at all possible, unless going into a shop is essential, at this stage if DD does fall asleep while your out, try walk around or get to as quiet a place as possible and hope for the best. Unless you’ve been through this it’s hard to appreciate the total preoccupation with ensuring your baby sleeps. Sending support and love.

😂

You might be a bit too high class for Home Bargains sorry 😂

Oh come on, stop being silly 😂.

It's stressful having a baby that doesn't sleep, but you can't expect people to be quiet in public because of it. If he can't nap in noisy places, you can either go somewhere quiet, like a library or a quiet coffee shop, or go home. If your baby was loudly crying in a shop and someone told you to be quiet, you'd also find that annoying.

It’s hard when you’re exhausted and your baby won’t sleep, my 20 month old still isn’t the best sleeper but those early months especially are so so hard. This comes from a place of respect and understanding from another mum. Unfortunately our babies aren’t of interest to anyone else out in public and it’s not their issue. Unless its somewhere you would expect baby sleep to be a priority which really will only be in your own home then other people can and should be free to act however they want even if it’s annoying. One day your baby will be screaming or running around a public place and someone will think it’s not appropriate and you will be oblivious it’s an issue cos they are just being a child.

If two adults are allowed to be loud and jumpy and the tills then two children are allowed to be loud and jumpy at the tills.

If two adults are allowed to be loud and shrieky in a restaurant then two children are allowed to be loud and shrieky in a restaurant.

I’m 100% right 😊

First thing I noticed when I moved back to Britain was how rude a lot of people had become. Manners seemed to have gone out the window.
Any reasonable person would have just talked at a normal volume.

Want quiet go to a library.

I put in my monocle and give them a hard stare.

You didn't do anything wrong - at times people are really noisy and just don't realise.
Was on a train once and I asked someone to stop making a loud beeping noise next to me. (Was both annoying and over loud noises affect me due to a chronic condition I suffer from). Boy did I get aggro until she and her friends got off the train.
Big hugs

What strange behaviour if I'm out with my very loud very hyperactive 4 years old and see a sleeping baby we make sure he doesn't wake them nothing worse than a baby who's just dropped off being woken