Sil stalking my Sm

I don’t understand what is wrong with her seeing your posts?

Or having an excuse to have a chat with her own brother. You're priceless.

If you don’t want her seeing things block her or don’t post.

Ignore the usual lot flying in to try and make you feel like shit for asking a question and having feelings op.

Another poster who doesn't quite seem to grasp how posting on a discussion platform works. Especially choosing to ask the question 'Am I Being Unreasonable?'

Nobody is "trying to make the OP feel like shit". Every poster has answered if (and in some cases 'Why') they think the OP IBU. Which is what she chose to ask the internet.

Stop using SM.
Years ago I realised it's just an ego boost or vanity platform for most people.
You'll be much happier I promise you.

Yes exactly. I am really struggling to understand what it is the OP wants. She says she's not bothered that her SIL doesn't comment on the posts, so what is the problem?

What’s your problem ?

1. She asks your h about your IG and you want her to ask you?

2. You’d prefer if she asked any questions publicly under your post?

3. Your h is annoyed that she calls him?

4. You’d prefer her pretending that she doesn’t read your IG?

Not sure why you call it stalking. Does she call your h straight after you post?

Which social media is it?

I think if you re read my post, I did exactly that 🤔

So she is more comfortable interrogating asking her brother about what you have been up to. Given how prickly you are on here, I am not really surprised she doesn't ask you about it.

If it bothers you that SIL doesn't interact with you or ask you about something you've posted, but has gone straight to DH. Have a word with DH, what does he think? Ask him to tell her to stop. Or as people suggest... post these things as stories.
Or not at all.

Why did you post on the grid (whatever that is) when you knew this is exactly what would happen? Nobody, and I mean absolutely not a soul, could care less if you didn't post it on that particular bit of your FB.
I don't think that many people use it anymore, certainly not like they did.

Well there you are then. Job done. Easy, isn't it? Really not worth all the angst. I think the story thing probably makes it worse actually. At least with a normal status update you don't know who has seen it but chosen not to comment. With a story you know, so then you just have even more reason to stew on it and over-think why they aren't commenting.

I hate it when I accidentally click on a story. Sometimes when I've looked at one, the next person's comes up automatically before I have a chance to stop it. I prefer not to see them unless I choose to, precisely because of the expectation that I must then say something trite, gushing and pointless about it, in case that person thinks I am rude not to.

But the op isn't interacting with her sister in law directly is she? or her husband, which is fine as they may all have no time for each other. But op if you and husband wouldn't tell her in real life why have her as a (and the clue is in the title) "friend".

I suppose the million dollar question is why do you not want her to text her brother about things you post on SM? What does your husband think?

I’m literally a ghost on social media, I don’t like/post/share anything at all. But I do scroll, and would comment in person or via text if I felt the need to.

If my sister went skiing/on holiday I would 100% message her and ask her about it? Lots of distant friends/relatives see your post, why does his sister annoy you so much? Why don’t you block her?

I know for sure my SIL stalks my social media. Aside from very obviously copying the content, she once liked a photo of me from 2009 😂

it’s normal to some degree in this day and age but if, like my sil with her copying, it gets too much, just hide your story.

@JandamiHash I don't know, it's that imbalance. A friendly message or a sharing in return isn't unreasonable. It doesn't make a difference if public or private. I know because she either mentions to my husband or sometimes likes things but only if they have a picture of my husband for example. I'd just block but don't want to also cause a fuss blocking one family member but not another

Shock horror. You post your entire life online and people might see it talk about it! Who would have thought....
It's as if it never occurs to some people that not everything must be posted online...

I had something similar with my SIL and MIL. I only put things as stories on Facebook now, as you can see who has looked. Every time without fail, my MIL would be one of the first to look. Within and hour my SIL would look. Obviously MIL would get straight onto SIL to have a look and I’m guessing have a good gossip about me. I just felt constantly watched and talked about but them. MIL is ok, no issues, but SIL is awful. So now I have set it so that every story excludes them from seeing it.

How is it weird to think people are keeping tabs on you via social media? That is literally what it is for. If you don't want that, either remove those people, adjust your settings so unwanted people can't 'stalk' you, stop posting so much personal stuff, or just come off SM altogether.

People talk about this 'problem' as if they have no choice and no agency, like their privacy is being violated against their will. It's absolutely ridiculous. People only know as much about you through your SM account as you allow them to know.

Given how you clearly feel about her, what makes you think she’d want to talk to you in a nice, lighthearted way?

You just want to complain about her, clearly.

If you’re bothered, then block her?

So what are you bothered about exaclty?

Her having conversations with her brother where she mentions stuff you've broadcast on SM? What is it you do want from her?