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To let DD get her eyebrow pierced for her 15th birthday?

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Sparrow7 · 05/02/2025 10:44

DD is insistent that this is the only present she wants. My local piercer won't do it until she's 16 but she's found another in town that will do it as long as we both take ID. She says she knows the risks that it could grow out or get ripped out but I don't really think that she believes anything bad could happen. What are peoples experiences? I don't really like piercings (I don't even have my ears pierced) but I am bringing her up that it is her body, her choice, so torn on what to do? In case it makes any difference she is a great kid who is trustworthy and doing well at school. None of her friends have any piercings other than ears.

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CaptainAwkward · 05/02/2025 10:52

There might be problems re school but if she’s willing to accept that she might have to take it out for school or time it so that she can wear an ‘invisible’ transparent stud (has to be healed properly) then I’d let her

All depends on her maturity personally too I suppose?

Some teenage girls are utter mingers when it comes to hygiene and taking care of things
If she’s the sort who’s responsible and will follow the aftercare given with no grumbling then that’s great

Only you know what sort of kid your DD is

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Sparrow7 · 05/02/2025 10:51

They are quite relaxed compared to some schools, bright hair dye etc is allowed.

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GrammarTeacher · 05/02/2025 10:51

No. No decent place would do it at that age. There’s a reason for that as well.
And I’m a fan of piercings!

LoveWine123 · 05/02/2025 10:51

Personally, I wouldn't let her. Part of the concept of "her body, her choice" is the responsibility of looking after said body and making responsible decisions. My main concern at this age will be someone ripping it out or it getting caught in something and causing damage. It won't happen is not a good argument and it's not showing she understands the risks. On a personal level, people don't always look at it at the right way - is this the image she wants to portray?

TheAzureSwan · 05/02/2025 10:50

She is a child.
Surely parenting is about saying no when something isn't appropriate?

TwentyTwentyFive · 05/02/2025 10:50

Sparrow7 · 05/02/2025 10:50

The school are fine with it as far as I know. I have seen several kids with facial piercings around when I've been there for events.

I'd be very surprised if it was allowed? Have you checked the schools handbook?

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Sparrow7 · 05/02/2025 10:50

The school are fine with it as far as I know. I have seen several kids with facial piercings around when I've been there for events.

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RomiStorm · 05/02/2025 10:48

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HipMax · 05/02/2025 10:48

Her body her choice at 18.

It's hideous anyway

Regulus · 05/02/2025 10:47

Do school allow it? Mine doesn't allow facial piercings.

TwentyTwentyFive · 05/02/2025 10:47

Well presumably she wouldn't be able to have it in at school so it would heal up pretty swiftly and be completely pointless?

Iamallowedtodisagreewithyou · 05/02/2025 10:45

I wouldn't, no.

Ears or belly button sure - but nothing visible.