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I wait all day to get back into bed

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Frigginfreeezing · 04/02/2025 21:56

Is this weird, some sort of depression or normal?

I just can’t wait to get back into bed at night

Heater on, fluffy pjs, just warm and under the covers with my phone and just peace.

I don’t have this in summer as much, so I know it’s to do with the cold and wanting to be warm and relaxed too

I think about it towards late afternoon a lot

Anyone else the same?

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Devon24 · 05/02/2025 05:59

I have given up accepting too many invites in the winter as I just can’t bring myself to want to
go out. The lure of a warm bed and a book, not needing to be anywhere or do anything is too good to miss.

Devon24 · 05/02/2025 05:57

It’s your time just for yourself, why wouldn’t you look forward to that? I think it’s perfectly normal in a busy world. Self care even. Winter makes it more appealing.

Turkeyneck101 · 05/02/2025 05:37

From the minute I get up in the morning I'm planning when I can get back to bed. I put this down mainly to sleep deprivation. I have horrible broken sleep and feel like death in the morning so any opportunity to sleep is grabbed with both hands. When I worked full time I was perpetually exhausted.

Rawnotblended · 05/02/2025 02:39

And, slattern alert, my ex husband used to complain about everything but especially there being “stuff” next to the bed. Stuff is snacks, drinks, books, magazines etc. Sometimes I take a big mug of wine (I use a mug because he said that people who drank out of mugs were disgusting) and lie in bed eating chocolate and laughing to myself. So fuck you, ex!

KeepGettingIll · 05/02/2025 02:37

Could be worth turning up the heating, and/or seeing if you need your thyroid checked or to eat differently to give yourself more energy, maybe see if multivitamins/minerals help? No harm in resting if you want to rest though. Sometimes if you're fighting off bugs too in winter I think it can take it out of you.

Rawnotblended · 05/02/2025 02:36

At last I have found my people!

I turn on the electric blanket with the Alexa thingy so it’s all toasty and the reading light is on. I ensure my Nibs cotton Pjs are ironed, along with cotton pillowslips. And as DP is mercifully away more than he’s here, I sleep in a starfish right in the middle. And Alexa turns off the blanket and the light!

Lavenderandbrown · 05/02/2025 01:39

op I just got in bed with my heated blanket clean and ironed pjs…no one else is home and I slid in and said….aaahhh. Then opened your thread☺️!! My favorite place and time of day…bedtime. And I agree more in the winter but still love the feeling of day is accomplished. It’s 835 pm in my time zone

Happiestathome · 04/02/2025 23:07

I love my bed. I suffer with my mental and physical health, and bed is a place where I can get some relief from the struggles of work/life and recover a little.

Wendolino · 04/02/2025 22:57

Although i enjoy my days, I absolutely love my bed, best time of the day is snuggling down with my book when it's all quiet and peaceful.
I feel really sorry for people I read about who have noisy neighbours and no peace at night, it must be so upsetting.

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Frigginfreeezing · 04/02/2025 22:56

Mindedmy · 04/02/2025 22:50

OP, you have bought back happy memories of my previous child free existence when I occasionally got home from work at 5:30ish and PJs were on and straight into bed to
warch tv (neighbours 😬 ) and drink tea and snooze. Now my kids are getting older, I am excited to think that this time will come again 💕

I used to do similar 💓

Now it’s almost more of an accomplishment too, everything done for the day and…lie down

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CaptainBeanThief · 04/02/2025 22:55

AmberElliston · 04/02/2025 22:06

Come on, op. Do you really think depressed people think things like I can’t wait to get my fluffy pj’s on and get cosy and relaxed?

No we don't because we don't get out of our pjs in the first place! 🤣😬

TheDowagerCountessofPembroke · 04/02/2025 22:53

On a work day it’s all I think about. DH can’t stand being in bed, I think if he was away I might turn in at about 8pm.

FinneganFois · 04/02/2025 22:52

@Missionimprobable

I hear you ! I'm going through the same thing, it's happening more and more often now. In my case I think it's anxiety, as I felt light headed during my shift at work today, and then nauseous. I've been trying to get a doctor's appointment since October !
No advice but hope things improve soon. Flowers

Mindedmy · 04/02/2025 22:50

OP, you have bought back happy memories of my previous child free existence when I occasionally got home from work at 5:30ish and PJs were on and straight into bed to
warch tv (neighbours 😬 ) and drink tea and snooze. Now my kids are getting older, I am excited to think that this time will come again 💕

Scutterbug · 04/02/2025 22:49

I love my bed! I struggle to leave it in the morning and can’t wait to go back at night!

sorechalfonts · 04/02/2025 22:44

make sure you have an electric underblanket and a big iPad to elevate the nest experience. ❤️

BountifulPantry · 04/02/2025 22:42

I did feel like this when I was depressed actually OP. Every day was just about doing the minimum required to get by during the day and then get back in bed asap.

Only you will know how you feel and only a Doctor can give you a diagnosis.

Happyearlyretirement · 04/02/2025 22:42

I love my bed and around 8pm I’m thinking when can I acceptably excuse myself to bed, 10.00 is early. I do go to the gym 5 days a week so I’m not lazy but I love the warmth and comfort of my bed unashamedly.

FumingTRex · 04/02/2025 22:29

I think the key bit is this: “noone wanting anything”

After the school run most days i spend 5 minutes just standing looking at my garden, i also enjoy just looking out of window, i didnt used to be like this but I w because of years of being constantly in demand

ilovemyhamster · 04/02/2025 22:29

Quite often my first thought on waking is "oo I can't wait to get back in here later on". But then I work a full day, go to at least one gym class and end up cooking and get to bed at 10. Then the cycle starts again. I adore my bed

Pigeonqueen · 04/02/2025 22:25

I’m exactly the same.

SpringBunnyHopHop · 04/02/2025 22:25

I’m definitely hibernating but it does feel a bit.. I don’t know. Sad? I feel like I should be making better use of my evenings.

Original poster
Frigginfreeezing · 04/02/2025 22:24

I also really love sleeping, perhaps i’m just a lazy sod

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StormingNorman · 04/02/2025 22:14

I’m like this too. Going back to bed is the first thing I think about when I get up in the morning (after snoozing for 40 minutes).

mynamechangemyrules · 04/02/2025 22:14

I read this and then sort of hop sprinted and tucked up in bed! I think it's the cold which makes it really.
(And this is even for me, I don't have a bedroom or real bed 🤪 but same effect with a roll up mattress on the floor of my kids room)