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I wait all day to get back into bed

142 replies

Frigginfreeezing · 04/02/2025 21:56

Is this weird, some sort of depression or normal?

I just can’t wait to get back into bed at night

Heater on, fluffy pjs, just warm and under the covers with my phone and just peace.

I don’t have this in summer as much, so I know it’s to do with the cold and wanting to be warm and relaxed too

I think about it towards late afternoon a lot

Anyone else the same?

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Fluffyc1ouds · 05/02/2025 09:37

I'm with you! The days feel like such a waste sitting at a desk all day. I want to get back into bed the second I'm up!

Midnightlove · 05/02/2025 09:32

HamptonPlace · 05/02/2025 09:27

They do. Speaking from experience.

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Absolutely

HamptonPlace · 05/02/2025 09:27

AmberElliston · 04/02/2025 22:06

Come on, op. Do you really think depressed people think things like I can’t wait to get my fluffy pj’s on and get cosy and relaxed?

They do. Speaking from experience.

Midnightlove · 05/02/2025 09:19

I've just taken DS to school and now I'm back in bed 🤣 yes I'm probably a lazy sod

tattoonewbie · 05/02/2025 09:16

I woke up and thought this exact thing about how I couldn't wait for bedtime having only just woken up. I am hoping it's SAD rather than depression but it's a close call and I am generally low at the minute and not finding joy in much

Blobbitymacblob · 05/02/2025 08:55

Winter is for hibernation, or as close as we can manage.

Just one question- are you warmly dressed? I can’t bear to be wearing thick layers but I’ve discovered silk vests and (real) wool jumpers are vastly warmer than synthetics. Keep an eye on the charity shops, especially in the summer.

NormaleKartoffeln · 05/02/2025 08:48

Franjipanl8r · 05/02/2025 08:11

Are you getting enough vitamin D and fresh air? Lack of both of these can keep our body in sleep mode.

It's normal to want to sleep/rest more in winter, but it's also a good idea to get out in the fresh air as much as you can too - exercise is important but so is being outside (as opposed to in an office, a school, a factory or even a gym).

JoanOgden · 05/02/2025 08:47

PoltergeistsStartLowKey · 05/02/2025 07:47

I think we are designed to...not hibernate as such but go into a minimal state in the winter. I think, because we don't, we have a host of issues as a result.

No animal stays rabidly active as we are expected to all year. It's unhealthy.

I definitely feel the urge to just stay in a dim cool environment and just sleep in a warm bed at this time of year in the UK.

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I entirely agree with this. My cat slows down a lot in winter and just wants to eat and nap a lot of the time. So do I but sadly I still have to earn a living and run my house Grin

I have a busy life and generally don't get to bed until 10.30, but it's still the highlight of my day!

NormaleKartoffeln · 05/02/2025 08:43

Newfoundzestforlife · 05/02/2025 08:18

Of course they do. Depression doesn't mean you can't appreciate anything in life.....for some depressed people all they have to look forward to is cosiness and solitude.

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I think depression doesn't always look the same - someone once told me it's more about changes as opposed to actual behaviours, and I think that's partly true.

NormaleKartoffeln · 05/02/2025 08:42

Zanatdy · 05/02/2025 07:52

Well you’re posting on a public forum, and so people can respond to any comments they want to.

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Sure, you can, but it's still the OP's reply I am actually interested in (not your attempts to start a fire in a swimming pool).

Newfoundzestforlife · 05/02/2025 08:18

AmberElliston · 04/02/2025 22:06

Come on, op. Do you really think depressed people think things like I can’t wait to get my fluffy pj’s on and get cosy and relaxed?

Of course they do. Depression doesn't mean you can't appreciate anything in life.....for some depressed people all they have to look forward to is cosiness and solitude.

marshmallowfinder · 05/02/2025 08:15

Oh yes, this is me completely. I love it.

Sinkintotheswamp · 05/02/2025 08:14

I do this. It's the only time no one needs me.

Franjipanl8r · 05/02/2025 08:11

Are you getting enough vitamin D and fresh air? Lack of both of these can keep our body in sleep mode.

MrsPeregrine · 05/02/2025 08:00

I understand where you are coming from OP, but I think it’s sad that people are going to bed earlier because they are cold and can’t afford overpriced gas and electric prices. I feel like we are being ground down into accepting this as the new norm when really it’s unacceptable.

Almostwelsh · 05/02/2025 07:59

Electric light and central heating has only been available for a relatively short time compared to human existence. Until fairly recently most people would have gone to bed early in winter and slept a lot more in winter than summer.

Possibly a lot of seasonal depression is a reaction to us not following our natural winter rhythm.

theressomanytinafeysicouldbe · 05/02/2025 07:55

My bedroom is my sanctuary, sometimes I go up to bed 7.30 - 8 after the kids are fed (they are older). I put my PJs on when I get in from work at 3pm if I don't need to go back out. I can't think of anything better - literally - than sitting in bed with a cuppa and a good book or Netflix!

Zanatdy · 05/02/2025 07:52

NormaleKartoffeln · 05/02/2025 07:23

I was asking the OP, not for other's opinions.

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Well you’re posting on a public forum, and so people can respond to any comments they want to.

DevonDiva · 05/02/2025 07:52

I think for me I’m an introvert and getting into bed is the end of having to interact with others, which is why I look forward to it.

hideawayforever · 05/02/2025 07:52

Ohwhatfuckeryitistoride · 05/02/2025 07:41

My dh works one night shift per week and has done for ages. My absolute favourite thing is early tea of something he doesn’t like, lock up and into bed to watch a crap film or guilty pleasure tv show really early. Backfired last year when I missed the big Aurora sighting.
He retires completely soon and I’ll miss it.

yes, this is me, my husband works 4 nights a week, I just have my tea, shower and in bed by at least 7pm as he leaves for work, then bliss of watching tv, or reading a book all snuggled down in bed with the night ahead of me. love it.

Theoldwoman · 05/02/2025 07:47

Same. Grief is crippling me. It leaves me so so exhausted. I’ve just had blood work done and everything is fine!

PoltergeistsStartLowKey · 05/02/2025 07:47

Frigginfreeezing · 04/02/2025 21:56

Is this weird, some sort of depression or normal?

I just can’t wait to get back into bed at night

Heater on, fluffy pjs, just warm and under the covers with my phone and just peace.

I don’t have this in summer as much, so I know it’s to do with the cold and wanting to be warm and relaxed too

I think about it towards late afternoon a lot

Anyone else the same?

I think we are designed to...not hibernate as such but go into a minimal state in the winter. I think, because we don't, we have a host of issues as a result.

No animal stays rabidly active as we are expected to all year. It's unhealthy.

I definitely feel the urge to just stay in a dim cool environment and just sleep in a warm bed at this time of year in the UK.

Ohwhatfuckeryitistoride · 05/02/2025 07:44

Just thought, you know what else is lovely? When you’ve got up, showered and got back into a still warm bed. Reminds me of snow days.

FrutenGlee · 05/02/2025 07:42

Depends if it’s a relief from stress/ pain / burnout/ depression/ too much responsibility to be in your bed, versus if you are just taking joy in simple pleasures. Good to check in with yourself how you’re feeling. .

Ohwhatfuckeryitistoride · 05/02/2025 07:41

My dh works one night shift per week and has done for ages. My absolute favourite thing is early tea of something he doesn’t like, lock up and into bed to watch a crap film or guilty pleasure tv show really early. Backfired last year when I missed the big Aurora sighting.
He retires completely soon and I’ll miss it.