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I wait all day to get back into bed

142 replies

Frigginfreeezing · 04/02/2025 21:56

Is this weird, some sort of depression or normal?

I just can’t wait to get back into bed at night

Heater on, fluffy pjs, just warm and under the covers with my phone and just peace.

I don’t have this in summer as much, so I know it’s to do with the cold and wanting to be warm and relaxed too

I think about it towards late afternoon a lot

Anyone else the same?

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PassingStranger · 06/02/2025 21:11

Yes love my bed in the winter. The teddy bear bedding is glorious.

Airspice · 06/02/2025 20:33

I’m the same op! Me and my best friend always laugh when we go away together or have a ‘sleepover’ at each others houses as I always get into bed exclaiming very loudly ‘I LOVE bed’!! It’s become my mantra 🤣

Saggyknickers · 06/02/2025 20:29

I'm like this. Ive been thinking about it a lot lately and my take is that in the modern world we don't take so much consideration into the natural rhythms of out bodies in the changing seasons and the natural human draw to hibernate and seek home comforts in the cold winter months, I've always experienced SAD in jan/feb but now instead of trying to fight against it I just accept it and see it as natural. I get out for a walk every day as I think it's important to do physical activity to ward off depression but yes, another bed-lover here.

I bet cavemen spent most of their time in their caves staying warm when not out catching food!

ssd · 06/02/2025 20:25

God i love my bed. I write a wee journal every night about my feelings/wellbeing in bed before i read my book. Settles me down.

LeaveALittleNote · 06/02/2025 19:36

I feel like this all winter, but I do have SAD. I rarely feel like this in the summer. I just love to be warm and relaxed.

I also love a good dream.

pomers · 06/02/2025 19:34

Me too, especially in winter

TylwythTeg · 06/02/2025 19:01

This is completely me!! I long for getting into bed - telly, cuppa, warmth, snuggliness and no-one mithering me! It’s only in recent years I’ve been this way, since my LOs are old enough to do their own thing now. It’s even better when my OH’s not here and I can have ALL the pillows and starfish!

Nikki75 · 06/02/2025 18:58

I think there's something really comforting about doing this in winter .
Sometimes we need the peace and cosiness to recharge ourselves.

Rhaenys · 06/02/2025 18:55

I struggle so much in the darker months. If I didn’t have daylight bulbs in the house, I think it’d be unbearable.

MaddestGranny · 06/02/2025 18:45

It's not for nothing that it's called "The Best Place In The World"

  • especially November till February.
Dittyditty · 06/02/2025 18:07

I have a lovely life with my wonderful husband
But at this time of year I would be delighted to live in bed......as long as I had a steady supply of drinks and snacks !!!

Dogsbreath7 · 06/02/2025 18:05

This is my modified winter hibernation from when the clocks change end October till spring and clock changes in March.

notatinydancer · 06/02/2025 07:30

Yes. The worst part of the day is getting up , the best part is going back to bed.

fatandtrying · 06/02/2025 07:22

I've had a message off my friend already saying..... gosh is it bedtime yet? I had to giggle and thought to myself, won't be long 😂

Devon24 · 05/02/2025 21:22

Sweet dreams everyone, snuggle down and enjoy your bed 😊

fatandtrying · 05/02/2025 19:52

and bedtime for me...... hope it happens for you all soon 😂

Butteredtoast55 · 05/02/2025 19:33

I feel exactly the same. Confided this to my friend who said she makes her bed each morning and says to the bed, "Have a lovely day and I'll see you later" 😄

85pinkballoons · 05/02/2025 16:27

I'm in bed right now and I'm blissfully happy. I've had a busy week so far and I'll be busy tomorrow and Friday, but the rest of today is free.

I have the house to myself, the room is warm and peaceful, I have hot tea and cake, a book and Netflix. I can't think of anything I'd rather do on my afternoon off, I find it so restful and restorative to snuggle into the blankets and drift away to another world through books or films. A bit of mumsnet scrolling is nice too Smile

peachystormy · 05/02/2025 10:20

I am the same OP

OnlyThickBeans · 05/02/2025 10:02

It’s normal in winter IMO.

AmberElliston · 05/02/2025 09:54

Midnightlove · 05/02/2025 09:32

Absolutely

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They don’t in my experience.
They think things like I can’t wait for this day to be over or I can’t get up and face the day.

AmberElliston · 05/02/2025 09:52

Newfoundzestforlife · 05/02/2025 08:18

Of course they do. Depression doesn't mean you can't appreciate anything in life.....for some depressed people all they have to look forward to is cosiness and solitude.

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Do you think the OP sounds depressed? Do you think she is genuinely wondering if looking forward to bedtime is a symptom of a mental illness?

overthinkersanonnymus · 05/02/2025 09:46

Whatisthisbs · 04/02/2025 22:08

Bed and a cup of tea. Brings me so much joy

Me too. Especially if DP is downstairs watching the football, so I get two full hours on my own in my favourite place.

notnorman · 05/02/2025 09:42

StormingNorman · 04/02/2025 22:14

I’m like this too. Going back to bed is the first thing I think about when I get up in the morning (after snoozing for 40 minutes).

Me too.
Think we must be related 🤣

Ilovelowry · 05/02/2025 09:37

I often lie in bed after my alarm goes off and work out how many hours it is until I can go back to bed.

But I hate a hot bed, it has to be very cold between the sheets and then I sleep deeply.

Yesterday I was on the bed by 7.45 and asleep an hour later. Bliss. Having teenagers is a dream compared to the years of lying with small people and trying to escape from their rooms without the floorboards creaking.