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Hate speech but not hate

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Tropics4 · 04/02/2025 21:22

Why is everything regarded as 'hate speech'. If I do not agree with your beliefs I don't hate you, I just don't agree. For example I believe in biological sex, not 'assigned gender or gender fluid or neither is gay or lesbian my thing but I don't hate anyone for their stance on it, neither would I be rude or harmful to them or wish to incite any harm to them, but why must my not having the same view be regarded as hate? I think the term hate speech is in itself inflammatory and hateful to both parties, agree or not?

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HereForTheAnimals · 05/02/2025 01:48

You don't agree with me because I'm gay? No, it isn't hate speech, but it's bloody ignorant. Do you think I asked to be born this way? Do you think I chose to be ridiculed and risk losing my family over something that wasn't my choice? Do you think I chose this life?

You might not agree with it, and it might not be hate speech, but you are a bloody ignorant person.

menopausalmare · 04/02/2025 21:28

Hyperbole is very popular these days. Using phrases like hate speech, right wing, echo chamber, far right etc shuts down constructive arguments. It's the modern equivalent of sticking fingers in your ears and saying la,la,la, I can't hear you.

SleepToad · 04/02/2025 21:28

But calling someone who believes they are in the wrong body a freak for example (and I am not...actually going to a trans womans birthday on Saturday) is hate speak. Like I want to limit immigration to the uk...but if I say all ns and ps should be sent back where they came from that is bloody hateful...and by the same token I should be sent back.to Denmark/Germany/France given the recent DNA thing I did!!

However, people who don't like to be challenged shout hate speech because they are not intelligent enough to argue their stance.