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Was I body shamed at Mcdonalds

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L9ucy · 04/02/2025 21:12

Went to Mcdonalds drive through as a treat, my DD wanted to pay, so handed the 5 pound note from the back seat. The man working on the drive through thought it was funny and said ''it's a good job I'm slim'' I have no idea what being slim had to do with it, he could reach but not because he was slim.. feel it was a dig at me

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Goodweekincoming · 04/02/2025 21:33

Get a grip! You were in NO WAY body shamed.

sometimesmovingforwards · 04/02/2025 21:32

Are you this much hard work everyday?

LovelyDaaling · 04/02/2025 21:31

The gap behind your car seat was small. He was concentrating on taking the money and thinking about passing the food through that gap. Sounds like the comment was meant for your daughter and he was being cheery to her, and no dig at you. It's the sort of thing many people would have said in the same circumstances.

TwentyTwentyFive · 04/02/2025 21:31

Not sure why you asked to be honest as everyone has said he didn't and yet you're ignoring all the comments and seem convinced you're right?

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L9ucy · 04/02/2025 21:28

ATuinTheGreat · 04/02/2025 21:26

If he had to put his arm behind you to reach into the back of the car to get the money, then slim arms would obviously be helpful!

It’s a bit of an odd thing for you to do - why didn’t you drive further forward and open her window?

No - you were not “fat shamed” and to be honest these days being a stone overweight is barely noticeable, let alone make you a target for random people to comment on your weight.

You obviously have your own issues with it though.

I have already said that I did drive forward a bit. Her window was open. I asked DD to give me the fiver but she wanted to pay and he was ok with it and found it funny

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Moonlightstars · 04/02/2025 21:28

Honestly, he did nothing wrong. You made he squeeze through the window to get the money. He made a comment about being able to fit through the window. If you are conscious of being chubby that is your issue.

Futurename · 04/02/2025 21:28

It's just a thing people say. I say it when I squeeze past something and I'm quite fat 🤣

INeedAnotherName · 04/02/2025 21:27

L9ucy · 04/02/2025 21:25

I said body shamed, not fat shamed, I would like to lose a stone yep but I was confused why he was talking about weight

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Surely body shamed is usually the same as fat shamed. It's very very rarely said against skinny people.

Pinkissmart · 04/02/2025 21:27

Christ. He made a filler comment.
Sometimes things fly out of people’s mouths but it doesn’t mean it was a dig. It was just a thing to say while engaging in a transactional exchange.

And wasn’t your daughter handing him cash from the backseat which made it awkward?

ATuinTheGreat · 04/02/2025 21:26

If he had to put his arm behind you to reach into the back of the car to get the money, then slim arms would obviously be helpful!

It’s a bit of an odd thing for you to do - why didn’t you drive further forward and open her window?

No - you were not “fat shamed” and to be honest these days being a stone overweight is barely noticeable, let alone make you a target for random people to comment on your weight.

You obviously have your own issues with it though.

NinetyNineRedBalloonsGoBy · 04/02/2025 21:26

Yawn .. not everything is about you!! Get out of your head and stop being egocentric and you'll find life much more fulfilling and rewarding

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L9ucy · 04/02/2025 21:25

INeedAnotherName · 04/02/2025 21:24

If you think someone is fat shaming you does this mean you are actually fat and ashamed of yourself?

PS he was talking about himself.

I said body shamed, not fat shamed, I would like to lose a stone yep but I was confused why he was talking about weight

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INeedAnotherName · 04/02/2025 21:24

If you think someone is fat shaming you does this mean you are actually fat and ashamed of yourself?

PS he was talking about himself.

nellythe · 04/02/2025 21:23

L9ucy · 04/02/2025 21:21

I am a stone bigger than I would like to be, yes.. but I was just confused why weight was bought into it, he said it like good job he is, as you're not, thats how I saw it. I'm no sure. He didn't have to stretch that far as I moved forward a bit so he could reach

Weight wasn’t brought into it though. It’s a standard British quip. He wasn’t actually commenting on anyone’s weight.

SleepToad · 04/02/2025 21:23

Christ I'm rather a large chap and often use the line "good job the diets working" when I have to squeeze in somewhere/past someone.. Done it for years even when I was 2 stone heavier!

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L9ucy · 04/02/2025 21:22

MyFlightWasAwfulThanksForAsking · 04/02/2025 21:20

If you are sensitive about not being slim, maybe stop going to McDonald's...

As I said, a treat, which was for DD, she paid for her happy meal with the 5 pound

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Futurename · 04/02/2025 21:22

Is this a serious post?

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L9ucy · 04/02/2025 21:21

I am a stone bigger than I would like to be, yes.. but I was just confused why weight was bought into it, he said it like good job he is, as you're not, thats how I saw it. I'm no sure. He didn't have to stretch that far as I moved forward a bit so he could reach

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nellythe · 04/02/2025 21:21

A very standard quip about HIMSELF given that it sounds like HE was having to fit through a space. Absolutely nothing aimed at you and I’m surprised your thoughts went there.

MyFlightWasAwfulThanksForAsking · 04/02/2025 21:20

If you are sensitive about not being slim, maybe stop going to McDonald's...

RaininSummer · 04/02/2025 21:19

Don't be daft OP. As someone above said, a large amount of their customers will be fat. He made a joke which tapped into your own feelings.

RoseAndRose · 04/02/2025 21:18

He had to be slim to reach round.

You are oversensitive

Are you overweight? If so, how do you feel about that?

(Never, ever, blame others. Look to yourself)

Ablondiebutagoody · 04/02/2025 21:17

Paranoid

Anonymous2003 · 04/02/2025 21:17

You sound very insecure and paranoid