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Was I body shamed at Mcdonalds

188 replies

L9ucy · 04/02/2025 21:12

Went to Mcdonalds drive through as a treat, my DD wanted to pay, so handed the 5 pound note from the back seat. The man working on the drive through thought it was funny and said ''it's a good job I'm slim'' I have no idea what being slim had to do with it, he could reach but not because he was slim.. feel it was a dig at me

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MemorableTrenchcoat · 04/02/2025 21:51

So, because he’s slim, and you’re not, you think that if he comments that he’s slim, in the context of contorting to reach something, he’s actually criticising your body? What absolute nonsense.

doodahdayy · 04/02/2025 21:51

You're projecting.

FrauPaige · 04/02/2025 21:51

Thank god you didn't go and speak to the manager and have this poor server's employment affected

HebeHerbivore · 04/02/2025 21:50

As if he had enough time to clock your weight and think ‘I know, I’ll show old fatty there, I’ll make a quip about being slim, that’ll teach her’

How do some people make it through the day?

You going to sue McDonald’s OP for hurty feelings?

ImthatBoleyngirl · 04/02/2025 21:50

You're projecting your feelings onto someone else.

FictionalCharacter · 04/02/2025 21:49

L9ucy · 04/02/2025 21:21

I am a stone bigger than I would like to be, yes.. but I was just confused why weight was bought into it, he said it like good job he is, as you're not, thats how I saw it. I'm no sure. He didn't have to stretch that far as I moved forward a bit so he could reach

No. No. He didn't refer to you at all, only to himself. This is a really unhealthy way to think.

edwinbear · 04/02/2025 21:49

He was having a bit of a giggle with your DD.

Iloveyoubut · 04/02/2025 21:48

I think maybe you’ve felt self conscious with him saying that but he was probably just trying to make light of the fact he was contorting himself to reach the money and if anything it might have been a lighthearted dig at the fact she could have passed the money to you to give to him instead of watching him hang out of the window to get it.

BunnyLake · 04/02/2025 21:47

L9ucy · 04/02/2025 21:21

I am a stone bigger than I would like to be, yes.. but I was just confused why weight was bought into it, he said it like good job he is, as you're not, thats how I saw it. I'm no sure. He didn't have to stretch that far as I moved forward a bit so he could reach

Maybe it’s just not all about you.

soupyspoon · 04/02/2025 21:46

WilmaTitsDrop · 04/02/2025 21:44

I think someone's one nugget short of a Happy Meal here.

So now you're literally nugget shaming her.

Poor OP

MumCanIHaveASnackPlease · 04/02/2025 21:46

Do you normally look for reasons to be a victim OP?

Msmoonpie · 04/02/2025 21:45

No wonder people don’t dare to speak to anyone anymore.

Literally anything as demonstrated here can be taken as offensive. Its ridiculous.

I don’t like using the snowflake to describe as people but if the shoe fits….

WilmaTitsDrop · 04/02/2025 21:44

I think someone's one nugget short of a Happy Meal here.

Carryingcarrying · 04/02/2025 21:43

Gosh this is an odd post …

PinkiOcelot · 04/02/2025 21:43

Paranoia somewhat?!

soupyspoon · 04/02/2025 21:43

Op will claim she is being mental health shamed in a minute

Emma543 · 04/02/2025 21:42

Ah Jesus here we go another AIBU where everyone says YABU and the poster just argues back.
why post??

Tiswa · 04/02/2025 21:41

To be honest I think you have probably done more fat shaming by posting a thread saying that you feel you were body shamed by ‘gasp’ being a stone overweight / heavier than you would like to be than you were at McDonalds

MidnightMeltdown · 04/02/2025 21:40

Here we go again.... another mumsnet professional victim.

You clearly don't have enough to think about OP

bakebeans · 04/02/2025 21:39

What are u on about??

Whattodo1610 · 04/02/2025 21:39

Wow OP get a grip! This is a normal thing to say in these circumstances - especially as he was interacting with your young dd. You clearly have insecurities about your weight - so do something about your weight, or your attitude towards it 🤷‍♀️

borntobequiet · 04/02/2025 21:39

No better place.

pimplebum · 04/02/2025 21:39

You say you are a stone over weight ?
and you think a fast food employee was shaming you because of a tiny ( and yes a stone is a minuscule amount of weight to be over weight by )

are you normally this paranoid about your weight and stranger comments ?
do you think you may need therapy ?

FrustratedandBemused · 04/02/2025 21:38

L9ucy · 04/02/2025 21:25

I said body shamed, not fat shamed, I would like to lose a stone yep but I was confused why he was talking about weight

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He was talking about his own weight. Do you always think people are talking about you when they’re talking about themselves? Feels a bit narcissistic.

Tetchypants · 04/02/2025 21:37

He was talking about his weight not yours, as he had to lean out of a small window to reach the fiver that was not quite aligned with him and was further away than if an adult was holding it.

Dear god, why would you think anything else?