Was I body shamed at Mcdonalds

I’ve been on MN many years and this is one of the strangest posts l’ve ever read.

Like pp have said - I don’t think it’s a dig at you OP

and rude - if the drivers seat was aligned with the window, expecting the server to perform acrobatic moves in order that DD could amuse herself by paying from a rear window is out of order.
Park and go in to the restaurant if you want to make it in to playtime.

Dear god.

No he wasn’t talking about you.

He wasn’t talking about you. It’s an old joke. I say “Lucky I’m so slight” if I have to squeeze through anywhere.

And how many times have you visited McDonald's. Maybe where you are, but I have only seen families or teenagers and tbh I haven't seen any over weight people or come to think of it actually in city and surrounding areas i live

Your area is obviously outside the norm if nobody's overweight.
Besides, what you see in a McDonald's store is not really representative. Families and teenagers might like to hang out in there but just about everyone else is getting drive through or delivery.

Yes and how dare you claim that all overweight people are way they are, because their diet.
Plenty have heath problems, and not all over weight people eat McDonalds.

And how many times have you visited McDonald's. Maybe where you are, but I have only seen families or teenagers and tbh I haven't seen any over weight people or come to think of it actually in city and surrounding areas i live

It wasn't about you, but you are totally set on making it all about you. You seem to feel the need to be offended, so have at it! smdh

Yikes, I remark that I am slim now and again. Said it this week to a chap who's doing some garden work. I can get between my garden office and the fence to reach a bit of dead space behind the office. He asked how to get behind, and I said "I'm slim enough to get down the side". Yes, I have noticed that he is larger than me, but I'm not shaming him.

I've squeezed into small spaces, or reached my scrawny arm somewhere and commented on it.

Or reached up to get something and commented on being able to because I am tall. Likewise someone may have offered to carry something for me because they are stronger, they're not weak-shaming me, just remarking on a difference.

If you're confident and have enough self-esteem you don't tend to pick apart every comment or view everything as a dig at yourself.

@ButterflyGrace!! 🙈🤣🤣

Do you also get offended when they say 'sorry for your wait'

You've made a leap that could win you an Olympic medal here.

Talk about paranoid.

No, you weren’t body shamed OP. You misunderstood the point of his comment. It was a joke about how he had to lean out to get the money. Nothing at all to do with your size.

No, it's those who don't have an 'everything in moderation' attitude towards food who are unhealthy.

I'm in my mid fifties and due to an underactive thyroid and menopause I'm the heaviest I've ever been in my life - yet I'm still only 9st.

I have 3 adult DC and 5 adult siblings who are all a very healthy weight, yet every single one of us eat and drink whatever we want in moderation.

Not a single one of us have ever had to diet and we all have healthy relationships with food, just as our parents did/do.

No.

Where is your proof to back this up?

Given that 63% of adults in the UK are overweight, are you saying the PP was wrong to assume that a large amount of his customers would be overweight? 😳

A large amount of any retail establishment's customers will be overweight.

A bit off the point but I don't get the body shame/slut shame/fat shame thing.

Shame comes from within. It's a profound emotion, much stronger and rarer than guilt or regret.

if someone told me I was a slut or fat I wouldn't feel shame because I'd know they were wrong. I can't feel shame for something I'm not. I'd be a bit bewildered they thought that and I might be annoyed with their rudeness but their inaccurate statement wouldn't shame me. And even if they were true they are judgements, not facts. There is nothing morally wrong with being some other persons idea of a slut or fat.

OTOH If someone accused me of being lazy or grabby I probably would feel shame because deep down I know I have a tendency towards those traits and I don't like that about me. The shame about this is always present and their comment would bring it to the surface. I'd also be embarrassed that someone had noticed this in me - that emotion would be new and transitory so they could have been said to have caused that but the shame is 100% my own. Nothing anyone else says can cause it.

But as to the OPs point - I don't think someone making a comment that they are slim can reasonably be interpreted as saying someone else is fat. This is coming from your own self image OP.

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you were not body shamed, the guy was being self deprecating. If this is your threshold how do you get through a day?

Quite clearly he just had to squeeze forward for payment more than normal and was not even looking at you, you are over sensitive!

You asked if YABU. Everyone is telling you that you are. It seems you are blanking that out and just arguing your point. Why bother asking?

Bloody hell, someone making a joke about THEMSELVES isn’t allowed now either! 🤦‍♀️

Indeed.
It's completely and utterly out of hand and just sours day to day living.

😂😂it's the MacDonalds that's unhealthy 🫢