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Was I body shamed at Mcdonalds

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L9ucy · 04/02/2025 21:12

Went to Mcdonalds drive through as a treat, my DD wanted to pay, so handed the 5 pound note from the back seat. The man working on the drive through thought it was funny and said ''it's a good job I'm slim'' I have no idea what being slim had to do with it, he could reach but not because he was slim.. feel it was a dig at me

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IlooklikeNigella · 05/02/2025 09:55

Sorry but you are being ridiculous.

BobbyBiscuits · 05/02/2025 09:54

He was making a joke about how he slightly had to awkwardly reach to the back window to collect the cash. If he was bigger it would've been harder to reach. That's why people don't pay from the back.
He was talking about himself. If anything wishing you'd driven the car closer to him to accommodate him reaching out to the back window?

SaltyPig · 05/02/2025 09:51

WTF! No, no, and no again. I think you may have an issue based on the fact you asked after such an innocuous comment.

Vroomfondleswaistcoat · 05/02/2025 09:50

If he'd yelled 'it's a good job I'm thin,' whilst staring aggressively at your face you might have a point. Since he didn't do anything of the sort and just made the standard 'small talk joke' (in the same way as the 'I suppose it must be free, then' when a barcode won't scan or the 'I printed them myself this morning' when handing you new banknotes) he wasn't fat shaming you or anyone else. He wasn't even making a personal remark about himself, he just had his mouth in gear and was saying the things he says to a million other customers. Who aren't, I notice, on here complaining of being body shamed.

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Funkyslippers · 05/02/2025 09:46

Surely he can't see your body size while you're sat in the car?

Loveumagenta · 05/02/2025 09:43

Doubt he could even see you! You’re being a bit sensitive I think… McDonald’s would be out of business if they started criticising their customers! As would any business.

Maverickess · 05/02/2025 09:40

No, you weren't body or anything else shamed, you're being unreasonable and ridiculous and you know it, especially with this "I don't understand why weight was brought into it' - you know perfectly well that it was a comment he made as he attempted to squeeze through the window so your little girl could pay herself, and not a dig at you.
You've just identified someone who wouldn't be able to defend themselves in the face of a ridiculous accusation like this and are using the opportunity to offload your feelings about your own weight.

sometimesmovingforwards · 05/02/2025 09:27

Beekeepingmum · 05/02/2025 08:17

Reading too much into it. He will be sqeezing out the little window. You wouldn't last long at Macdonalds if anti fat people. It is ground zero for the overweight.

Like moths to a flame

XWKD · 05/02/2025 09:05

If you have to ask, then you weren't.

MoonWoman69 · 05/02/2025 09:02

I really do feel for workers in public facing roles these days. It's going to get to the point where they daren't speak to customers at all!
This is a bit of a pathetic post really.
You should have been more reasonable in positioning the car right, he should have been able to make a little joke about himself, without you getting all offended at something that wasn't even aimed at you!
I'm on the larger side, I had to squeeze between a bar and a row of chairs at Christmas to get to the loo. I joked and said, "It's a good job I'm thin". Would you have been offended by that if you were sat at the table?!
What is the world coming to?!

Bubblegumtatoos · 05/02/2025 08:21

1 stone overweight is thin in the UK. I think it was a comment about him and nothing to do with you.

Beekeepingmum · 05/02/2025 08:17

Reading too much into it. He will be sqeezing out the little window. You wouldn't last long at Macdonalds if anti fat people. It is ground zero for the overweight.

AmazingBouncingFerret · 05/02/2025 08:14

Pelting you with McNuggets whilst shouting “ey up fatty!” = Fat shaming

Making a self deprecating comment about his skinny arms = Not fat shaming.

GaraMedouar · 05/02/2025 08:13

You’re overthinking massively OP - nope you weren’t being body shamed!

MrsSkylerWhite · 05/02/2025 07:53

L9ucy · Yesterday 21:21
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I am a stone bigger than I would like to be, yes.. but I was just confused why weight was bought into it, he said it like good job he is, as you're not, thats how I saw it. I'm no sure. He didn't have to stretch that far as I moved forward a bit so he could reach

How was your weight brought into it? He was clearly talking about himself.

Sparklfairy · 05/02/2025 07:51

L9ucy · 04/02/2025 21:21

I am a stone bigger than I would like to be, yes.. but I was just confused why weight was bought into it, he said it like good job he is, as you're not, thats how I saw it. I'm no sure. He didn't have to stretch that far as I moved forward a bit so he could reach

His comment wasn't a reflection on your size at all, and it's unfair of you to feel entitled to think a stranger isn't allowed to comment on their own body, just because you feel insecure about yours.

Bringmeahigherlove · 05/02/2025 07:41

For God sake. Stop the world!! I wish to get off.

Longma · 05/02/2025 07:31

It doesn't sound like body seamount.

It's a fairly standard 'joke' type comment about having to squeeze through the tiny window spaces to stretch all the way to the back seats.

I think you're being a bit paranoid thinking it was a dig at you.

Olika · 05/02/2025 07:20

You sound to be unhappy about your own weight so you took this comment as about you. I don't think it was.

ChopstickNovice · 05/02/2025 07:18

You're overthinking. I have said this or similar if I have to squeeze through two chairs close together - doesn't mean anything about whoever is sat in the chairs.

MidLifeMayhem · 05/02/2025 07:02

Absolutely nothing to do with you, I doubt he even noticed you/your weight, it’s just a standard remark. Please don’t over think it and get on with enjoying your life and enjoying a McDonald’s when you want one.

Trolllol · 05/02/2025 06:57

This is all in your own head OP.

PistachioPickle · 05/02/2025 06:52

L9ucy · 04/02/2025 21:21

I am a stone bigger than I would like to be, yes.. but I was just confused why weight was bought into it, he said it like good job he is, as you're not, thats how I saw it. I'm no sure. He didn't have to stretch that far as I moved forward a bit so he could reach

"thats how I saw it."

This ⬆️ is your issue - perception. Seek therapy because it isn't a healthy way to live.

Bigfellabamboo · 05/02/2025 06:47

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