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What do you have no bandwidth for

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ToxicFrenemy · 04/02/2025 18:32

Having caught up with women's hour from the other day there was a chat about what fo you no longer have the bandwidth for. What are you now no longer doing, to keep yourself sane! Eg not making everyone's beds or picking up socks whatever

Anyway as it was an old one now, I couldn't text in but found that really interesting so wanted to ask "what do you no longer have the bandwidth for..."

I'll go first!!!! 2022 dh and I gave far too much of ourselves to friends who were going through a hard time, they seperated and it was awful They both needed alot of emotional support it was constant. We were supporting on both camps. Our marriage suffered with the emotional strain. And I get divorce is HARD but it nearly brought us to divorce and so we now no longer have the bandwidth to overly emotionally support others in that way outwith our marriage

Aibu? Or what's your own bandwidth boundaries

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C152 · 04/02/2025 19:44

Fuckwits.

user14767230 · 04/02/2025 19:42

Company strategy, new procedures after the last pointless change 3 months ago, "professional development" sessions consisting of some bore droning on about their dog before 20 minutes of best practice tosh that we all do anyway, latest head office SHITE

purplecorkheart · 04/02/2025 19:36

Work Colleagues and Work Clients confiding in me about personal stuff not related to work. I am sorry I do not want to reassure you that your 70+ year old father is actually picking to meet friends for a drink on Saturday night rather than watch you play football is not because he dislikes you.

HansHolbein · 04/02/2025 19:34

Any type of child related fuckery

OhBow · 04/02/2025 19:32

Political 'debates'. People 99% of the time just want to spout their opinions and have no interest in changing them, or hearing yours.

I spent too long in local politics. Do not recommend.

SomethingFun · 04/02/2025 19:27

Making an effort with people who will not make any effort for me.

Youcanttakeanelephantonthebus · 04/02/2025 19:26

Accepting calendar invites on my work calendar.

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ToxicFrenemy · 04/02/2025 19:24

TemporaryPosition · 04/02/2025 19:16

I thought only Scottish people said 'outwith' - seems not!

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I never knew that! Berwick-upon-Tweed and worked with many a Scot! Must have picked it up 😄

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T4phage · 04/02/2025 19:24

Cooking

The dcs have left home and I rarely cook a meal now. Me and dh fix up our own food and it's bliss not having to worry about cooking at the end of the day. Plus I've lost weight. And the kitchen stays tidy.

ThatWordDoesNotMeanWhatYouThinkItMeans · 04/02/2025 19:23

Turning peoples sleeves/socks/trouser legs the right way out before washing. If they leave it in a ball or inside out, that's how they get it back, even if it's all scrunched up and damp. And ironing.
(Laundry-based bandwidth problems this evening, clearly)

StormingNorman · 04/02/2025 19:21

WattleTyler · 04/02/2025 19:01

People saying ‘bandwidth’ when they mean ‘time’.

It’s not really time, it’s the emotional energy.

VoodooRajin · 04/02/2025 19:20

People being pedantic about the word bandwidth

VoodooRajin · 04/02/2025 19:18

ShushImTalking · 04/02/2025 19:02

Self service check outs for a big shop. They do my head in. I just queue for the proper check outs now.

Supermarkets, i just get it delivered

UnhappyAndYouKnowIt · 04/02/2025 19:17

WattleTyler · 04/02/2025 19:01

People saying ‘bandwidth’ when they mean ‘time’.

It's really not the same thing.

TemporaryPosition · 04/02/2025 19:16

ToxicFrenemy · 04/02/2025 19:09

Haha no! I'm actually from the North East! Why

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I thought only Scottish people said 'outwith' - seems not!

RachelLikesTea · 04/02/2025 19:14

’Bandwidth’ and Woman's Hour!

GiddyRobin · 04/02/2025 19:11

Miserable bastards who have no joy in life, and no interest in finding it. Those sorts who just complain about everything, from special occasions to the weather. It's grating and so bloody dull. There's a woman in my village like this, and my God. She could talk the hind leg off a donkey with her whinging. Can't imagine going through life being so whiny!

Fun sponges, basically.

LadyMonicaBaddingham · 04/02/2025 19:11

WattleTyler · 04/02/2025 19:01

People saying ‘bandwidth’ when they mean ‘time’.

Thank you!

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ToxicFrenemy · 04/02/2025 19:09

TemporaryPosition · 04/02/2025 18:59

OP are you Scottish?

Haha no! I'm actually from the North East! Why

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ruethewhirl · 04/02/2025 19:06

ShushImTalking · 04/02/2025 19:02

Self service check outs for a big shop. They do my head in. I just queue for the proper check outs now.

Totally this! Always ends up taking me longer because the scanner whinges at so many things, plus waiting for an assistant... ugh.

ShushImTalking · 04/02/2025 19:02

Self service check outs for a big shop. They do my head in. I just queue for the proper check outs now.

WattleTyler · 04/02/2025 19:01

People saying ‘bandwidth’ when they mean ‘time’.

TemporaryPosition · 04/02/2025 18:59

OP are you Scottish?

coodawoodashooda · 04/02/2025 18:59

Other people's opinions of me.

ladyofshertonabbas · 04/02/2025 18:58

Most things… being unable to open a jar, for enamels.