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Feel like crying! What is it with references??

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LavenderFields7 · 04/02/2025 17:10

Been a stay-at-home mum for 10 years, decided to try and return to work - no luck with paid job positions due to zero ability to provide references. Fine. I will do 6 months free voluntary work - nowhere will take me without 2 references 😭 A charity shop rang me today to say they can’t accept my application offering 3 full days free work a week for 6 months because I can’t provide professional references. They didn’t even ask what qualifications I’ve got (hint, I’m ridiculously overqualified for till work). This is the 5th volunteer role I’ve been rejected for. AIBU? Is this normal for volunteer jobs?? Why don’t they make it easier 😢

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Treeleaf11 · 04/02/2025 17:13

Do they have to be work references? Would a friend/acquaintance be OK?

HPandthelastwish · 04/02/2025 17:12

Do your children do clubs? Volunteer there they won't want references, then use them as references for future applications