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While I'm here - is make up remover a toiletry parents should provide?

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Homeymum2 · 04/02/2025 16:38

We supply of course deodorant, soaps, shampoo, conditioner - and even fancy hair products - but I don't buy the make up - so I feel like the removal is also her responsibility -

I'm not opposed to make up - I'm just consider it a luxury to buy with her spending money - not mine

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MrsClatterbuck · 04/02/2025 17:14

FoxtonFoxton · 04/02/2025 17:08

I got a massive bottle of Garnier micellar water the other day (700ml) for £5. I wouldn't mind providing that at all.

M & S we're selling Garnier micellar water 400ml bottles for 1.84 instead of £5 a while back on clearance. I bought 4 and they lasted approx 10 months. I checked Boots and theirs were £7.99 at the time. Felt very pleased with myself.

PeskyPotato · 04/02/2025 17:13

I'd buy make up remover myself but not make up. It's part of especial cleansing

Bjorkdidit · 04/02/2025 17:10

catin8oots · 04/02/2025 17:05

God no wonder so many posters kids hate them

It's literally a couple of quid

I'm sure the OP would be fine with it if it was literally a couple of quid and it lasted a reasonable amount of time ie weeks/months.

But no doubt the DD wants some premium stuff she's seen on Tiktok that's far more expensive and needs replacing a lot more frequently.

Neveragain35 · 04/02/2025 17:08

Unless money is very tight or DC is asking for something ridiculously expensive I would buy it. My teen DDs have a monthly budget for clothes, luxuries etc but if they asked for make up remover in the weekly shop I would get them a supermarket brand.

FoxtonFoxton · 04/02/2025 17:08

I got a massive bottle of Garnier micellar water the other day (700ml) for £5. I wouldn't mind providing that at all.

WoahThreeAces · 04/02/2025 17:07

I buy face wash for both my teenagers - my son rarely uses his 😂 and my daughter can use her own money if she wants something fancier. They both use Simple face wash.
I don't buy make up (unless it's a gift) but I do but then both pimple patches.

catin8oots · 04/02/2025 17:05

God no wonder so many posters kids hate them

It's literally a couple of quid

bathbooknap · 04/02/2025 17:03

If she's in education (rather than full time work) then yeah, I think its reasonable to buy her a 2 quid make up remover. Not a £15 cleanser though.

VoodooRajin · 04/02/2025 17:03

I buy whatever they need

Sparklebelle1024 · 04/02/2025 17:01

I buy my pre-teens skincare, there’s certain ingredients young skin should avoid and I don’t want her buying things that may harm her skin. She comes with me and we choose together in a budget, teaches her budgeting and also buying appropriate products for the skin she has. Seems to work well. She’s only going to be 13 this year but skincare seems to be a bigger deal than it was when I was her age so I want her to learn and use it appropriately

CarliLove35 · 04/02/2025 16:59

Just buy some Aldi Lacura face wash, it's less than a quid for 200mls.

JeMapellePing · 04/02/2025 16:58

I buy soap, shampoo, conditioner and deoderant -- my choice, my budget. They get pocket money. Anything else comes out of pocket money.

NeverDropYourMooncup · 04/02/2025 16:58

Buy a big bottle of baby lotion and some cotton wool, total cost about £4.

If she wants something different, she pays for it (and it'll probably be covered by Boots points soon enough if she's a big spender on makeup).

beAsensible1 · 04/02/2025 16:57

no but a face wash is

sprigatito · 04/02/2025 16:56

It all sounds unnecessarily adversarial Confused is this normal for you? I would just buy my dc the things they need. It's a few quid.

Iamallowedtodisagreewithyou · 04/02/2025 16:56

Has she asked for this, how old is she, and what money does she have?

nosyupnorth · 04/02/2025 16:54

I'd consider an appropriate facial cleanser a standard toiletry (and for most teens dealing with hormonal changes to their skin proper cleanser is appropriate and nevermind any 'in my day we just had soap and water' attitudes), and a facial cleanser should remove makeup.

If she's wanting premium products or getting through gallons of the stuff because she's having to use loads to take off caked on foundation/waterproof mascara etc then there is an arguement she should be contributing, but a basic product in sufficient quantities to wash her face (including of light makeup) morning and evening should be considered an expected thing to provide, either buying it for her or included in the budget for her to buy her own toiletries.

Purplecatshopaholic · 04/02/2025 16:43

Good grief, really? Seems a bit stingy to me. A cheap cleanser is hardly breaking the bank.

cestlavielife · 04/02/2025 16:41

Give a sufficient budget allowance and they buy all their own toiletries
Gets them budgeting