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While I'm here - is make up remover a toiletry parents should provide?

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Homeymum2 · 04/02/2025 16:38

We supply of course deodorant, soaps, shampoo, conditioner - and even fancy hair products - but I don't buy the make up - so I feel like the removal is also her responsibility -

I'm not opposed to make up - I'm just consider it a luxury to buy with her spending money - not mine

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Amba1998 · 04/02/2025 18:07

Homeymum2 · 04/02/2025 18:06

I do buy face wash 🙄 - it's just not specific for removing makeup - more targeted for blemishes

That’s all that’s needed. Literally.

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Homeymum2 · 04/02/2025 18:06

I do buy face wash 🙄 - it's just not specific for removing makeup - more targeted for blemishes

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Crushgrape · 04/02/2025 18:05

Bjorkdidit · 04/02/2025 18:01

Perhaps a solution would be for the DD to get a decent but affordable allowance and for her to buy these things herself?

Then she will be able to see that money doesn't grow on trees and if she's buying fancy cleanser and expecting monthly pamper trays it will encourage her to think carefully about what she buys as she can't have everything she wants?

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OP mentioned in first post that she has spending money so assume she does have some pocket money.

However, would you really not buy a facial cleanser or get a bar of chocolate for your young teenage daughter. It’s not exactly asking for a new car or iPhone is it. Come on, you’d actually begrudge your child of that?

BeaAndBen · 04/02/2025 18:03

Micellar water from the supermarket in the shopping, usually. It’s not a big ask.

Crushgrape · 04/02/2025 18:03

Completelyjo · 04/02/2025 18:02

If you don’t think it’s your job as a parent to purchase face wash and the odd chocolate bar for your barely teenage daughter you’ve got a really messed up idea of parenting.

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Thank you! x

Completelyjo · 04/02/2025 18:02

Bjorkdidit · 04/02/2025 18:01

Perhaps a solution would be for the DD to get a decent but affordable allowance and for her to buy these things herself?

Then she will be able to see that money doesn't grow on trees and if she's buying fancy cleanser and expecting monthly pamper trays it will encourage her to think carefully about what she buys as she can't have everything she wants?

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If you don’t think it’s your job as a parent to purchase face wash and the odd chocolate bar for your barely teenage daughter you’ve got a really messed up idea of parenting.

TeenLifeMum · 04/02/2025 18:01

Reusable make up cloths.

Bjorkdidit · 04/02/2025 18:01

Crushgrape · 04/02/2025 17:56

She’s 14, OP recently made a post asking if DD was unreasonable asking for chocolate whilst on her period.

OP why don’t you just buy her a facial cleanser? You can get them for £3-4.

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Perhaps a solution would be for the DD to get a decent but affordable allowance and for her to buy these things herself?

Then she will be able to see that money doesn't grow on trees and if she's buying fancy cleanser and expecting monthly pamper trays it will encourage her to think carefully about what she buys as she can't have everything she wants?

Dishwashersaurous · 04/02/2025 18:00

Oh god is it the chocolate period girl?

Do you resent your daughter op? Buying chocolate and make up remover for a 14 year old girl is pretty normal, basic parenting.

Crushgrape · 04/02/2025 18:00

YABU if you mean a £3-4 facial cleanser.

YANBU if you mean your DD wants you to buy a £30 premium make up remover because it’s something she’s seen on TikTok

BarbedButterfly · 04/02/2025 17:59

Yes, I consider providing skincare including makeup remover pretty normal. An oil based face wash covers both

Dishwashersaurous · 04/02/2025 17:58

Does she have an allowance to buy things or not?

But I'd say it a pretty basic thing for a teenager

IncaDove · 04/02/2025 17:58

I buy it with all the other toiletries. It doesn't cost very much and sits in the bathroom where any of us can use it.

SemperIdem · 04/02/2025 17:57

I’m quite into skin care so would want to provide an age appropriate cleanser etc for my daughter when she’s of that age.

It doesn’t have to be extremely costly to be good (eg cera ve) and will last ages.

Amba1998 · 04/02/2025 17:57

Well since teens gets oily spot prone hormonal skin I’d be providing a face wash, that face wash can then be used as makeup remover. I wouldn’t want my child buying into all these makeup remover wipes and other bits anyway. A proper face wash is all that’s needed

Crushgrape · 04/02/2025 17:56

delphinedupont · 04/02/2025 17:55

How old is she though? If she’s 25, still
living at home then she can buy it herself. Anything under 18 then I’d just stick it on the family shop.

She’s 14, OP recently made a post asking if DD was unreasonable asking for chocolate whilst on her period.

OP why don’t you just buy her a facial cleanser? You can get them for £3-4.

AllIWannaDoo · 04/02/2025 17:56

Make up remover? Do you simply mean a face cleanser? Just suck it up and buy it.

FabFeb24 · 04/02/2025 17:55

Also it depends how much money your daughter gets. It varies a lot from family to family.

delphinedupont · 04/02/2025 17:55

How old is she though? If she’s 25, still
living at home then she can buy it herself. Anything under 18 then I’d just stick it on the family shop.

FabFeb24 · 04/02/2025 17:54

I buy Tesco micellar water for my dd. I occasionally buy Simple or Nivea cleanser too so yes I provide it as it’s a basic and they are a reasonable price.

Completelyjo · 04/02/2025 17:52

I can’t imagine penny pinching my child to this extent.

ItGhoul · 04/02/2025 17:50

Is this about your 14-year-old who you apparently believe to be demanding and entitled because she wants chocolate when she's on her period?

I personally would consider a facial cleanser to be a standard toiletry, not a luxury. At 14 a proper cleanser is a good thing to use whether she wears makeup or not. For a teenager I'd consider a cleanser and a moisturiser to be ordinary, everyday toiletries. They don't have to be expensive.

ShaunaSadeki · 04/02/2025 17:22

I do buy DD La Roche Posay, despite being happy with Superdrug hot cloth cleanser for myself, but her skin is really bad and we are trying this before seeing the Dr and going down the medication route.

For other purchases of this nature I would usually buy something basic but half decent for her and if she wanted something fancier she could make up the difference with her own money.

But for the most part, I like looking after my DC and providing for them and helping them to feel that they are worthy of nice things and being treated/treating themselves.

EineReiseDurchDieZeit · 04/02/2025 17:18

Buying her a cleanser in her hormonal teen years is a basic - doesn't need to be flash and it will do the job of a makeup remover

HelenHywater · 04/02/2025 17:17

I'd buy it if they put it on my shopping list (simple wipes or similar). Often get cerave for them too. My dds seem to prefer to use my cleansers and exfoliant stuff though which I don't mind about. I buy more expensive make up / skincare products as presents for them for birthday/Christmas.