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While I'm here - is make up remover a toiletry parents should provide?

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Homeymum2 · 04/02/2025 16:38

We supply of course deodorant, soaps, shampoo, conditioner - and even fancy hair products - but I don't buy the make up - so I feel like the removal is also her responsibility -

I'm not opposed to make up - I'm just consider it a luxury to buy with her spending money - not mine

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Person1234 · 04/02/2025 18:26

The real question is: why does her request bother you so much?

Anxioustealady · 04/02/2025 18:23

Why have children if you're going to resent providing them with what they need? Yes you should buy toiletries for children.

WhatWouldTheDoctorDo · 04/02/2025 18:23

I buy my teen son’s skincare, so it’s targeted for his hormonal spot prone skin.

I’d encourage a daughter wearing make up to get into double cleansing in the evening - a cleanser that’s heavy duty that will remove make up and then something lighter for a second cleanse and in the morning. Doesn’t have to be expensive though. I’d consider that toiletries that I would provide.

Onelifeonly · 04/02/2025 18:23

I buy it for myself anyway, but my make up loving dd has always bought her own versions. I'd say it is no big deal either way. If you don't use it, let your dc get their own.

21ZIGGY · 04/02/2025 18:22

Micellar water is trash. Get an oil based cleanser as a first cleanse then she can use the face wash you already buy as a second cleanse

aCatCalledFawkes · 04/02/2025 18:20

sprigatito · 04/02/2025 18:16

@Completelyjo why not? People have been washing with soap for centuries.

That doesn't mean it's a great product to use on your face and I certainly wouldn't give it to a teen who was prone to spots. There are products on the market that a designed to be used on your face and really don't cost a lot either.

BreakfastClubBlues · 04/02/2025 18:20

I also bought her a decent razor with a subscription for blades to be delivered

@Barrenfieldoffucks I'd love to know more about this for my DD?

MerryTealHedgehog · 04/02/2025 18:19

Its tight just buy her what she needs.

Fairyvocals · 04/02/2025 18:18

Seriously?

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sprigatito · 04/02/2025 18:16

@Completelyjo why not? People have been washing with soap for centuries.

aCatCalledFawkes · 04/02/2025 18:15

Well not specifically makeup remover but cleanser that removes grime, sunscreen etc as well as make up to clean there skin absolutely. My daughter uses it twice daily including when she isn't wearing make up as part of her skincare routine.

Barrenfieldoffucks · 04/02/2025 18:12

Oh and deodorant and her choice of sanitary products etc.

MereDintofPandiculation · 04/02/2025 18:12

cestlavielife · 04/02/2025 16:41

Give a sufficient budget allowance and they buy all their own toiletries
Gets them budgeting

Agree with this.

But in practical terms, you don't want her skimping on cleanser, so it would be worth buying it.

Completelyjo · 04/02/2025 18:10

AllIWannaDoo · 04/02/2025 18:08

Oh for goodness sake. Are you talking about eye make up remover? Because soap will remove make up perfectly well. I can't believe this is even a question.

It really won’t. A bar of soap really shouldn’t be coming anywhere near someone’s face.

Dishwashersaurous · 04/02/2025 18:10

Unless she's using lots and lots of makeup then a basic micellar water/ face wash is all that's needed.

But you should be helping and encouraging her to remove make up to protect her skin

Barrenfieldoffucks · 04/02/2025 18:10

Homeymum2 · 04/02/2025 18:06

I do buy face wash 🙄 - it's just not specific for removing makeup - more targeted for blemishes

Surely all face wash will remove make up if used properly/thoroughly?

RaininSummer · 04/02/2025 18:10

Biy her a bottle of micellar water and some reusable bamboo face pads. That will keep her going ages.

Barrenfieldoffucks · 04/02/2025 18:09

nosyupnorth · 04/02/2025 16:54

I'd consider an appropriate facial cleanser a standard toiletry (and for most teens dealing with hormonal changes to their skin proper cleanser is appropriate and nevermind any 'in my day we just had soap and water' attitudes), and a facial cleanser should remove makeup.

If she's wanting premium products or getting through gallons of the stuff because she's having to use loads to take off caked on foundation/waterproof mascara etc then there is an arguement she should be contributing, but a basic product in sufficient quantities to wash her face (including of light makeup) morning and evening should be considered an expected thing to provide, either buying it for her or included in the budget for her to buy her own toiletries.

Agreed. I but decent face wash we can share, likewise moisturiser, shampoo, conditioner, hair protectant, serum, shower gel etc.

If she wants anything different or fancy she gets it, unless it is a specific thing/need and not just a 'want'.

I also bought her a decent razor with a subscription for blades to be delivered.

I'd rather she used decent stuff properly and didn't end up damaging her skin etc.

But the , I don't mind her using my products, hair styling equipment etc as long as she looks after it, tells me if it runs out and if it goes into her room she tells me if I'm looking for it.

Completelyjo · 04/02/2025 18:09

Homeymum2 · 04/02/2025 18:06

I do buy face wash 🙄 - it's just not specific for removing makeup - more targeted for blemishes

Why not buy the one she wants to use though? Unless she’s being specific about a mega expensive brand then it’s just annoying for a 14 year old to have to buy their own cleanser! They aren’t in supermarkets, they can’t drive, they probably aren’t often in shops. It’s an every day item.

EineReiseDurchDieZeit · 04/02/2025 18:08

Oh so you're the OP of both this and the chocolate bar period thread?

She is asking you for basic levels of attention and concern and you behave like you resent her. You don't seem to show her kindness

Financially are you very frugal or something?

I feel sorry for her, I don't think she is asking for much actually

FedUpandEatingChocolate · 04/02/2025 18:08

How is this even a question? My DD is welcome to use my face wash that's kept in the bathroom, and she has her own micellar water that I bought.

Unless you're on a very tight budget, you're talking a few quid for months worth of product.

delphinedupont · 04/02/2025 18:08

Crushgrape · 04/02/2025 17:56

She’s 14, OP recently made a post asking if DD was unreasonable asking for chocolate whilst on her period.

OP why don’t you just buy her a facial cleanser? You can get them for £3-4.

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Crikey, then absolutely I would - I’d want to make sure she’s taking care of her skin and not sleeping in makeup. If she’s asking for some high end fancy brand then fair enough, but a micellar water or similar should be a basic.

AllIWannaDoo · 04/02/2025 18:08

Oh for goodness sake. Are you talking about eye make up remover? Because soap will remove make up perfectly well. I can't believe this is even a question.

Msmoonpie · 04/02/2025 18:07

You’re the one who won’t buy her child a bar of chocolate ?

I assume money must be extremely tight ?

Because otherwise it sounds as though you don’t even like your DD let alone love her.