While I'm here - is make up remover a toiletry parents should provide?

When I was about 17 and my mum was frustrated with me (I had failed an exam - but nothing I ever did was good enough) she made an itemised spreadsheet detailing the cost of what it took to bring me up and stuck it to my bedroom door. I’ve never felt more of a burden and years later I still think about it and feel like shit. I am now very much a “do it myself” person even to my own detriment.

Chocolate on your period is a small indulgence and make up remover in my eyes is a basic toiletry, especially when it’s not something incredibly expensive.

Basic makeup remover, yes. If she’s after clarins etc, she can save up?

Well she can use that to remove make up. That’s what face wash is for.

I want to thank you OP. When my 15 year old daughter inevitably moans about me not doing/buying enough I can use your threads as an example of how bad it could be!

I can’t imagine this ever being an issue.

Surely all household toiletries come from the central budget: medicine, sun cream, moisturiser, hand cream, nail polish remover, nail files, contact lense solution, tooth brushes, dry shampoo, shaving gel. Dont they?

If my DC politely asked ‘could you get me some make-up remover in the next shop’ that would seem quite reasonable to me granted it wasn’t a fancy brand.

Same with chocolate, I buy it for myself occasionally so I’d buy it for others too.

I’m hopeful that you are much more relaxed in real life than you appear to be here and it’s just come across oddly.

@Surroundedbyfools

It's the SAME poster! This resentment she has for her child has to have some backstory!!

Blimey I would but my next door neighbours kids chocolate and makeup remover, if I had your daughters details I would send her both. Your family act like it.

Gods sake r u pals with the other poster who won’t buy their daughter chocolate when she’s on her period. Unless ur really hard up for money just buy it! Just seen ur actually that poster. Personally I don’t think she’s asking for crazy things ! Life’s too short to be tight. Especially to ur own kids for small things

Is it that you don't think she should wear make up? And if you buy make up removal then you are endorsing it

Completely depends on age. If under 16 definitely. Mostly because it wll damage her skin scrubbing away with just normal face wash trying to remove makeup. You can buy makeup remover very cheaply.. so just get a cheap bottle.. if she wants something more fancy then she can save her pocket money. But yes I think some bog standard makeup remover is a basic necessity if you have a younger teen wearing makeup.

I would buy a good value make up remover - Simple or similar. I see it as more hygiene than luxury.

Jesus imagine being this much of a nit-picker!

Jeez! Does OP hate her daughter?!

So on the other thread I said I wouldn't automatically get chocolate and make a fuss of my daughter when she is on her period (as unless she is being angry or there are sanitary towels in the bin I wouldn't know straight away!). However, this one seems odd and I do wonder op if your mum either wasn't around or was lacking. But if she is saying mum the next time you are in town/at the supermarket will you get me some make up remover surely you'd just say yes, you seem to be asking for a rule book and there isn't one. Now, if you can't afford it that is different but you aren't saying that. It's all a bit petty as if you think buying her this is a slippery slope to something.

YABU

Just add in a micellar water or balm cleanser if you already buy face wash. It's not going to break the bank is it

My mum was always big on skin care so always got me my cleanser, toner and moisturiser and make up wipes before I could buy my own! I don't have daughters but it's not something I'd have hesitatied to get them if I did!

If she's buying make up just say to her she will need to factor in a bottle of micellar water or similar it's not a massive deal .

Unless you want her to have dreadful skin I’d probably stump up for it. I have boys but cover nice aftershave, hair styler etc.

I try to get my DD to double cleanse as I'm a big believer in it. I think instead she has a quick wipe with a cleansing wipe or a bit of micellar. The lovely cleansing balm from Body Shop is not used!! I love buying skincare. There's Cerave in the shower too

I've 3 teenage girls, one just turned 18. None wear make up but do cleanse/moisturise & i buy whatever they need. One needs a good spot cream at the mo, otherwise it's Cerave/Simple/Clearasil etc Nothing expensive, as money is tight, but i think having the products you need and want to use encourages good personal care habits. And I don't think there's ever a time when there's no chocolate in the house 😄
Fwiw i can recommend Sainsbury's own micellar water & waterproof make up remover, both just a couple of £ and work really well.

Yes I would consider that something a parent should buy. Along with moisturiser. Do you buy her razors too? You don’t mention that in your OP.

It doesn't agree with everybody's skin, though...

But soap hurts your eyes when you try and remove make up from there.

Just buy some makeup remover and some chocolate for your child for gods sake