While I'm here - is make up remover a toiletry parents should provide?

I can’t imagine having such a cold and transactional relationship with my own daughter!

Resenting buying them cleanser and a bit of chocolate when on their period. Calling it “pampering”.

Do you not love your child and want to demonstrate that at all?

Is it ? I hadn't even noticed poor girl imagine craving a bit of chocolate and mum says no !

Careful with that reach, you might topple over.

Is your daughter actually a step daughter that you don't happen to like

I think it depends how old the person is. If they're old enough to buy their own make up then they are old enough to buy remover but if this is for your school age child it isn't a hill I would die on.

I buy all decent standard toiletries. Skincare specific for spots/dry skin etc if needed.
Including makeup (basic kit from secondary school age, I had spots and remember how much a little concealer and blush helped my confidence)
Anything fancy or extra expensive is Xmas/birthday/buy it yourself, so yes I’d buy make-up remover 🙂

Isn't a make up cleanser the same as a fash wash? I would buy that.
How old is your child?

It's the same woman.

I haven't RTFT, nor the chocolate one, so this may have come up already - but I'm beginning to wonder if these threads are reverses...

Mind you there was a post yesterday by someone asking whether they should be obliged to buy chocolate for their 14 year old when they had period pains!!

Another one who has come from the chocolate thread and feels incredibly sorry for your DD.

And yes, you should provide make-up remover as part of her skincare routine. She's 14 so can't earn money to buy it herself.

As others have said, there must be some serious backstory to your own childhood here OP....

Just buy her a bottle of micellar water and some cotton wool pads surely. Why are you being unnecessarily tight?

Put a bottle of something like simple cleanser in your trolley with her monthly bar of chocolate!
I'm actually wondering if you even like your DD!!

Me and DD (14) share facewash, cleanser and other bits and bobs. She also used spot treatment stuff which thankfully I don't need. She's quite happy to equally "borrow" my rings, scarves, jumpers and whatever she fancies. I don't mind - it makes me think (ha!) I'm pretty cool.

FGS, just pick up a £2 bottle of make-up remover and a bar of chocolate from Tesco for your poor daughter, or you're on a fast route to becoming Whydomykidsnevercomehomeymum2.

Yes, of course but I'd buy the chocolate. I don't see the issue with either. I'm setting the standard for what my teens should accept in future relationships, caring, kindness, compassion, occasional nice gestures/treats etc... I also work with a lovely group of women and we all buy each other chocolate when it's needed, so I would 100% do the same for my own child.

Between this and the chocolate you’ve got a really really bizarre approach to parenting that I find baffling and I’ve never encountered before.

Did you buy her nappies when she was a baby? Did you buy her pencils for school? Why bring a child in to this world that you don’t want to provide for? She’s 14 what do you want her to do to buy these things for herself? Get a job sweeping chimneys?

I buy my 14 year old skin care including make up remover, why wouldn't I? If she wants something fancy off tik tok etc then she uses her wage from her part time job.
I also buy my 18 year old son face wash even though he's earning reasonable money as an apprentice.
Do you actually care about this girl?

What do you wash your own face with? Surely not ordinary soap? It'll sting like fuck.

I've never thought about it. When dd was 14 I treated her to make-up and skin care stuff because I wanted her to have nice stuff, use it well and look after herself. I made a fuss of her when she had her period, her favourite dinners, etc.

It's called mothering.

She's 26 now and earning well. She's at home about half the week. I still ask her if she needs tampax when I go shopping. I often buy her something nice. The last time I went up to London I bought her three chocolate mice from Fortnums as a little treat. She was thrilled.

She never asks and is generous of spirit. She often texts me on her way home to say "hey mum, do you want me to pick anything up for you".

You reap what you sow @Homeymum2

What about getting a reusable makeup remover cloth? They work pretty well apart from with waterproof mascara

How old is she? I think caring for your skin is really important so personally would buy it to teach DD a good skin care routine. Doesn't mean it has to be majorly expensive. But I'd have my limits, when they get to a certain age and are earning then it's over to them.

I buy decent skincare and she can access whatever she needs. Unless you're on an incredibly tight budget I've no idea why you'd gate keep that.

Buy your daughter make up remover and chocolate! #teamdaughter

Yes of course provide it.

Ideally the one she wants as long as its in reason. If she wants a £50 one you can't afford then obviously a basic is fine.

Would you want her going to bed wearing makeup??