DD demanding chocolate when she's on her period

Never happened to me sadly, I’m ravenous on my period!
Totally agree that the DD shouldn’t be ‘demanding’ anything, and there’s no need for her mum to be making a special trip to the shops to meet her demands, but I don’t really see the harm in her putting a chocolate bar in the trolley/online shop for her daughter if she wants one.

At 14, I would have been down at the shop buying my own chocolate after school!

Completely agree this thread is nuts.

My girls have money so if they want chocolate then they buy it. Personally periods have always taken my appetite and made me a bit queasy anyway…

I have 2 DD, now 21 and 19.

The older when she was the age of your DD would beg for chocolate during her period and I would occasionally provide some but often not. She later told me she cried about this; that is, she cried privately, in distress, not in my presence.

She never asked for it because her friends got it, she didn't mention them, she was telling me what her needs were. It was the only request she made. I wish I had heard her then.

The younger never asked - nor craved it - but experienced severe menstrual pain until she had an implant and is now being investigated for endometriosis. She never had an instinct that chocolate was needed.

What I have belatedly realised is that the older daughter benefitted from chocolate and it was unkind of me to withhold it. We each have individual bodies, and our hormones and needs vary accordingly.

My older daughter still asks for chocolate during her period when she's at home, and I am now always happy to provide it. I am grateful that this is the only help she needs to get through her period. It is nothing to do with pampering, but it is showing her love and care by responding to her individual and specific needs.

We always have treats/ chocolate within the house. Not free access as the children are still very young but it’s available to ask for. I would be happy to let me daughter on her period have some chocolate if that’s what she was craving. I’m not sure what the issue is unless she has weight issues?

Because that is a ridiculous, over the top response.

“treat her like a baby” - not many teens would actually want that. It is strange, smothering behaviour.

“A special few days” - it’s an inconvenient few days.

Rather than all this ridiculous “we need chocolate and pampering on our periods” talk, I would rather see a post about how the debilitating impact periods can have on some women need to be taken more seriously by medical professionals, and how that change might come about.

Instead, we get post after post about needing chocolate 🙄

I was recently talking to my siblings about how we were raised, my mother used to be so snide about ‘mumsy mums’ and weren’t we glad she wasn’t like that. We agreed that we would have done anything for a ‘mumsy mum’ in retrospect. Those kids were so loved, their homes were full of warmth. Don’t ever doubt being a ‘mumsy’ mum, you’re doing it just right from my perspective. Sorry to sidetrack the thread…

Why don't you have chocolate in the house anyway?

If she's feeling crabby then some TLC goes a long way.

I’m sure she probably can, but if her mum is doing the weekly food shop it might be easier for her to just chuck a Dairy Milk in the trolley?

Can’t she buy her own chocolate?

This seems a bit miserable tbh OP. Just have chocolate in the house. If you have cookies around anyway it's surely not much of a stretch (and no worse for her).

I admit I’m not one of those ‘no nonsense’ mums, I’m a mumsy mum and when I read some of the posts (not just this thread) how joyless some parents are I’m glad to be mumsy. No daughters but I’m sure if I had one there’d be a drawer just for her period chocolate, and why not 🤷‍♀️

Ah! Yes, you're probably right. I also thought typo, but my brain didn't go to crisps.

I couldn’t get through a period without a giant bar of dairy milk. Periods are rough and I would absolutely have chocolate and sympathy for my DD if she was having rubbish time of it. My mum and I would often by synced so there was always chocolates and tea, hot water bottles a plenty during my periods at home. My mum will often still buy chocolate in for me visiting home. I’m sad for your daughter that this seems like such a big ask! It’s literally just a bar of chocolate? And expecting her to have saved her Christmas chocolate to last til February?? Strange!

I think that basically there's nothing wrong with wanting chocolate.

I would say how it was asked for would have a bearing, also "all the parents do it" would piss me off.

All of that said, if she has been asking just about every month since starting her periods I'd just be buying it with the shop.

When I had my periods I couldn’t go to work, couldn’t leave the house, would be on the floor doubled up with pain, and to top all that off I’d have migraines. It would go on for two solid days then ease off, every single month for years and years. One of the best days of my life was having a full hysterectomy. So yeah it can be like an illness and I didn’t even have endiometriosis.

Why would they be joking? I agree with them, I think some of the responses here quite sad and cold hearted personally. Periods can be absolutely shite and make you feel genuinely ill, why wouldn’t you want to pamper your little girl to make her feel a bit better?

Why does she have to ask for it? Can’t she get some herself? It’s normal to crave chocolate when you’re on your period or getting hormonal migraines

Love this.

‘We had a load of chocolate at Christmas’ is peak Mumsnet. You just forgot to add the ‘naice’ in front, or call it ‘special choc’. My mum was so crap I actually told my grandmother when I first started, and it was pretty rotten for the first couple of years. As an adult, all ‘watch what I eat’ is off for 3-4 days, I’m so bloated and miserable that if a bar of galaxy chocolate helps, damn right I’ll eat a ‘family sized’ one (I’m sure that’s the regular sized one from the 90s).

Sacrilege!!!

OP doesn't want to buy skin care for her daughter either, she seems rather....puritanical in her views on bringing up children.

Some people are so… joyless. Sometimes I even have chocolate when I’m not on my period!

Good for you.

What if you had a daughter whose periods made her vomit? Or faint? Would it just be another day then?

Same when I'm on my period but I'm very lucky to have never experienced cramps or heavy periods like many women do. Surely you know that some women suffer with theirs.