DD demanding chocolate when she's on her period

Chocolate is proven to be helpful to some women during their periods. You as adult can choose when you ‘fancy’ some, the OP’s daughter is a young girl asking for support during this time (may have missed a post but she may have only very recently started having periods and still coming to terms about ‘dealing’ with it).

Teaching kids that they’re ok to have moments of tlc is a part of parenting. I still get myself lucozade and a packet of Jaffa cakes if I’m poorly, because that’s what my grandmother always did when we were under the weather. Does it make a cold go away? No. Does it connect to a feeling of love and being cared for? Absolutely.

I would totally do this, it's a nice bonding thing.

I always crave chocolate on my period and I'm 46 🙈😂

I'd buy her some chocolate or give her a couple of quid and tell her to pick some up on her way home from school.

Exercise is supposed to help isn't it so a bike ride might be a good idea.

😂To the shop to get the chocolate?

My DD has money she can use for snacks on the way home from school- it's a 20 min walk to the bus stop then 20 mins on the bus. 3 days a week. She sometimes buys nothing, sometimes something healthy, sometimes chocolate or cookies etc.
At nearly 14 she knows what eating healthily looks like, she exercises and is a healthy weight so I trust her with making her own decisions on what to eat - if she fancied chocolate before her period I wouldn't care at all. I would buy myself chocolate if I really fancied some so why not my DD?
Not sure she needs "pampering " exactly but a bar of chocolate and a nice bath is perfectly normal right?!

I think the 'outrage' from some posters is because the way the OP worded her first post was a) it was a demand and b) this is some new default setting for periods among 14 year olds = mum goes out and provides chocolate.

Thank you. I’m proud to be mumsy. I have two great kids (young adult sons). When my younger son went back to uni after Christmas break he said although he’s happy at uni he really loves being at home and would have loved another couple of months here. That to me is successful parenting and I did it by myself. When he was a young teen he loved chocolate so I bought him a tin that had ‘chocolate lover’ on it and filled it with chocolate bars so he had is own supply.

I'm sorry you had to go through that.

It sounds as if you saw useless drs. I thought PCOS was fairly easy to diagnose these days with a scan and medical history etc?

I had prescribed meds for period pain 40 years ago from a GP as an young teen.

I don’t think anyone is saying treat her to a round the world cruise, they're saying get her some chocolate and a cuddle if she needs one. Your Jackie magazine is her bar of chocolate.

And for other people, a bar of chocolate and none of that other stuff. We’re all different.

I still don’t understand what the pp meant by that sentence. Would she say that about someone who had the flu or gastroenteritis or appendicitis? Didn’t she say herself she has never suffered period pains? If so, she has no idea what it can be like when it’s debilitating.

For me bubble bath, Jackie magazine, pain killers if necessary. That was it.

Everyone got copious amounts of chocolate at Christmas - she's eaten all hers

Um yes, because it's February!!!

FFS what a tight arse!

30 years, numerous hospitalizations, iron transfusions and blood transfusions, thousands spent on treatment, replacement bedding, mattresses and clothing and fighting to get a diagnosis and help. My GPs answer was get pregnant (that made it way worse).

Showing a bit of compassion and empathy is not a weakness neither is needing it on occasion. A cuddle, hot water bottle and a bar of chocolate maybe a bubble bath or face mask the odd time would cost about £2. Simple acts of kindness can mean a lot even if it's a mug of tea and a chocolate hobnob. Can't understand why anyone wouldn't do them for a loved one.

It's perfectly possible to be stoic, get on with things, capable and strong and also appreciate some chocolate and a bath (for example) as a way to deal with pain and discomfort

Exactly. I've lost count of the number of times I've thrown up before work (or at work) due to pain and just cracked on - but that doesn't mean I don't also appreciate getting home to a hot bath or a hug, or some empathy.

It's perfectly possible to be stoic, get on with things, capable and strong and also appreciate some chocolate and a bath (for example) as a way to deal with pain and discomfort. Nothing wrong with self care, and it's nice to be looked after a bit too.

When I was young my periods were excruciating, and I have a very high pain threshold. Labour/deliveries were a doddle in comparison.

Some women do have painful periods but medical help is there. GPs can prescribe painkillers or some young girls take the Pill.

<hollow laugh>

It took me 22 years to get my PCOS diagnosis, despite several scans, blood tests and medication trials.

In the meantime I would spend 2-3 days a month in debilitating pain. If I was lucky, I wouldn't vomit - I'd just be doubled over on the toilet for several hours instead.

It was only two weeks ago that I saw a gynaecologist who realised I needed something stronger than ibuprofen and paracetamol.

Cycling?!!!
I’ve never heard it called that before!

my heads thinking who can eat chocolate whilst riding a bike!?

No, I think she read it somewhere or has seen a meme of I need chocolate when I’m on my period.

I don’t have chocolate all the time in my house, I buy it we eat it. It’s not always there.

Some women do have painful periods but medical help is there.

Oh you sweet summer child.

You might get some real help after a decade, IF you persistently advocate for yourself.

Absolutely but the point stands. I don't really get all the period fuss (biologically lucky, I guess) and my mother would never have spoken to me about it at all, let alone provided chocolate. D
D and I have a more open relationship which is lovely and I would shop for her period needs if asked. I don't think either of us have ever had a chocolate craving during a period either, we just get on with life. DD has been known to go to bed early a hot bottle but that's about it. Perhaps we're strange.😜

Maybe her dealer is out of town?

Why can a 14 yr old not buy any?

@NightFeeds Sorry but giving your son that message is very wrong for many reasons.

It's sending out the message that all women suffer with periods and need to be treated with kid gloves. I know you've tried to balance it with 'not all women do' and it's not licence to behave badly, but....

It's possibly planting an idea in his head that, if he's ever a senior manager, he would think twice about employing a menstruating woman who's may be out of action for 4 days a month.

Women have worked hard for equality especially in the workplace. If you plant this idea that we all fall apart for 4 days a month , plus the PMS moods beforehand- what hope do we have?

Some women do have painful periods but medical help is there. GPs can prescribe painkillers or some young girls take the Pill.

When your son starts dating or eventually has a partner, he will find out for himself how that woman feels because she will tell him.

While we don't keep chocolate in the house as a rule, if DD was struggling with a period from hell and asked if we had any chocolate I would damn well nip down the road and get some for her.

She wouldn't "demand" anyway, she would ask nicely.