DD demanding chocolate when she's on her period

It’s all in the tone of the request I guess. Unless she’s being very rude I think you should buy her the chocolate. Periods can be really unpleasant for lots of girls and women. If she’s super rude maybe suggest she’ll get the chocolate when her manners improve?

I don’t think a 14 year old should be implying their mum is a bad parent for not buying chocolate, that’s quite a stretch.

She is almost certainly lying- even if she isn't I wouldn't give in to it- it's a part of life, you have to roll with it, the quicker she realises that the better.

Years ago I wrote a book on dealing with depression, interviewing people of different ages about what works for them. The teenage girl I quoted said when she's menstruating she wants to just curl up and cry. She felt an idiot about it until she told her parents. They gave her chocolate, let her weep and made her cosy. Lovely, I thought and said, that's perfect.

Maybe OP should stop being tight and show her daughter a bit of empathy.

Judging by OP's other posts and threads about her DD, I don't actually think she's doing either. What's very likely happened is the poor girl has asked, OP has said no (a quid for makeup remover?! Horror! Sharing some of her chocolate?! Never!), and her DD has pushed back. Likely tried to explain to OP that her friends get these things, maybe got stroppy as 14 year olds do...because why wouldn't she?

Can easily imagine it to have gone as this;

DD: Mum, can I have a piece of your chocolate?

OP: No, you finished yours. This is mine.

DD: But I'm on my period!

OP: So? I don't need chocolate on my period.

DD: That's not fair! I just wanted some of your chocolate. God, my friends parents pamper them and all sorts when they're on.

OP: <Immediately takes to MN in another miserly rant about her teenage DD>

I'd be hurt if DH wouldn't give me a couple of pieces of his chocolate, just because I finished mine over a month ago. Especially when I was in discomfort.

OP just comes across as tight fisted.

My daughter is 14 I buy her chocolate on her period when I get her pads to be nice, I don't pamper her though whatever that means 🤣 i would get her a hot water bottle if she asked ? but I'd buy her chocolate if she asked me anyway .. she has a go henry card though so she buys what she wants mostly x

Nope.

Science says it’s the luteal phase ie before your period when women are hungriest. That corresponds with what I’ve always found, personally.

My appetite goes through the roof the day or two before my period and I won the genetic lottery in that sense (two to four days of light bleeding and no cramps or stomachache).

Eat on demand is my rule of thumb. I wouldn’t deny anyone access to whatever they were craving at that time of the month. It’s a biological change - nothing to do with greed and gluttony.

I thought it was pretty much a scientific fact that women crave sugary/ salty foods when they're on their period. It's certainly always been the case for me - and I also seem to be way hungrier than normal.

If she has an allowance though, surely she can buy herself some chocolate. That would be my response anyway.

@LooksThroughaGlass it's the wait for gynae

I've had to fight for morphine because nothing else touches the pain. Even though I go to a&e approx once a month for pain management, it's still going to be around 2yrs 6 months from first "I think I have endometriosis" to the operation

Take it back (not all of it) - seems to be a poster been around a few years but only now posting about the outrage of having a child "demand" stuff from her.

There are some shocking attitudes on this thread, but I wish I'd reported this early doors I reckon it might be a PBP - "mums" coming on posting about how inconvenient their (usually female) children are - you always get a few agreeing with them of course and that's more worrying than the possibility of OP trolling to begin with.

This.

My DH has lifelong injuries in his hip and leg (poor bugger got thrown from and trampled by a horse a few years ago). When he shows pain, I'm not sniffing and being stingy on how much affection and kindness I show.

The other day, he walked the dogs and I was making a cup of Earl Grey when he came back. I saw he was in pain and he said he was fine, but he'd love a cuppa. Earl Grey is his favourite and I'd just used the last bag. I poured out my tea into his cup and gave it to him. And didn't tell him either.

No, he didn't ask for the last teabag or "demand" it. He didn't bloody have to! Poor bloke was in agony and I wasn't going to sit there and drink his favourite drink while he felt shite.

So when OP is on about her own daughter asking for some of her precious bloody chocolate while she's on her period, and getting snotty and tight about it? Just...baffles me! I'd have been shoving it her hands! Imagine sitting there depriving your own daughter of something when she feels shit, and eating it yourself!

Not on my watch. I've got no time for this "get on with it, stiff upper lip" nonsense.

Nobody thanks women for being martyrs. Nor do they notice or care if you battle through periods. Do yourself a solid and get someone to buy you a chocolate bar FFS. And stop telling yourselves that asking for basic respect is Making A Fuss

@BunnyLake ridiculous is what it is 🤣

It's not something I've ever experienced in real life either - must be one of those weird Mumsnet anomalies 🙈

It’s as a pp said, competitive stiff upper lip.

It is a staple for some

Absolutely everything wrong in expecting to be pampered for 5 days every month because of something normal.

If you were vomiting, fainting and doubling over in pain for five days every month, I very much doubt you'd consider it normal 🙄

The lack of empathy on here is horrific - I got more sympathy and care from my male gynae and GP!

To me every day on a period is a bad day

Well we’re talking about bad days aren't we? Obviously on the days the period is waning and there's no longer pain life carries on as normal but for a couple of days a month it can be excruciating.

Yes, "during his bad days" not just because he has it.

As I said.

My son and a chronic health condition and during his bad spells I absolutely give him every comfort I possibly could. I’d do same for DD if she was in pain for 5 days

Absolutely nothing wrong with relaxing when you need to.

Absolutely everything wrong in expecting to be pampered for 5 days every month because of something normal.

My husband has a chronic health condition. When he's low, I look after him. I dont make him feel special and pamper him just because he has this condition.