DD demanding chocolate when she's on her period

Some people crave chocolate around their period starting each month. But chocolate bars nowadays mostly have palm oil and are designed to make people overeat. Instead have some cocoa available flour milk,oil available and she can make herself a microwave chocolate mug cake.

It's funny how this thread is half women with a just get on with it attitude and half stories of how men are really nice and supportive about it.

Bleeding from your genitals is actually horrific if you think about it.

Having a bit of chocolate around sounds fine. Demanding is not.

And what does she mean by "pamper"? What sort of thing? Because this does sound a bit ridiculous.

People are acting like chocolate is actual medicine. It is not. Using chocolate as comfort food, is a bad idea.

I'm with you. Sympathy and understanding if she is in pain of course. But I think this bizarre obsession with eating chocolate just because you are on your period is a really bad food habit to get into. Eating sugary foods when you are in pain/sad/cold/tired/emotional etc is not a healthy relationship with food and treats..
And I'm suprised at how many people keep chocolate in their house as a standard. I mean, I'd love to be able to but I have zero self control and would just inhale it immediately. Luckily I live alone so can manage my habits by not having junk food in the house. But my poor relationship with food is something I am very aware of and wish I'd been helped to develop better habits as a child/teen.

How is she asking? Is she asking nicely, because she craves it/thinks it might help? Is there never chocolate in the house , so it's a specific ask? Does she have her own money she could use?

If she's rude and actually demanding and kicking off over it , I wouldn't buy it on principle.

We do have treats in the house that she has access to anyway, including on her period and she has her own ice cream(helps after braces being tightened too) and the pampering mostly consists of me asking if she's ok, reminding her to take painkillers, maybe making a hot water bottle for her , and letting her to take it easy.

Ops dd isn't a soldier, she's a kid getting to grips with having a painful period.

And as for the "women died so we must get on with it", fuck that, we aren't allowed to admit periods are painful and want a bit of comfort or chocolate because women died for equal rights years ago?

I hope you never complain about periods, or pregnancy, or childbirth or menopause, after all, women died so we have to keep our pain silent in order to respect them apparently, FFS.

Why would you not let her have chocolate? Or give her some money to buy some.

It can take 8 years to get an endometriosis diagnosis. In the mean time a bit of chocolate is not a huge ask!

This is such a weird thread. I have no idea when DD is on her period. She gets on with her life and continues to do multiple types of dance and play football and hockey.
There's chocolate and treats in the cupboard if she wants them at any time.
Teaching young women that life stops during a period feels like a Victorian throwback. If periods are too painful or heavy then see the GP for options to help.

I make my dd a cup of tea and a hot water bottle. We always have chocolate in but I’d happily buy something special if she asked. Why not? I also do these things for myself or DH will, and dd makes me a cup of tea regularly and would do anything else if I asked. It’s just being caring, isn’t it?

Obviously “demanding “ isn’t the right approach but she’s trying to let you know she would like to feel a bit more cared for.

My DH looks after me every month. I don't ask, but I reliably get treats, baths, nice meals, back massages. He does those things anyway but they ramp up when I'm on. What's wrong with that? I'm not a female soldier. I'm a grown woman who gets cramps so bad I feel nauseas when I'm on. Why the fuck wouldn't my DH do nice things for me? 🤣

This doesn't compute for me. I always have some chocolate in the house and certainly by the time my children were teenagers they were helping themselves to it in the evening. I wasn't monitoring their intake, with the proviso that they knew if they ate it all before the week was up, I would not be buying more until the weekly shop.

Also, doesn't your dd have some sort of allowance or pocket money with which to buy her own? She should have some money of her own otherwise how will she ever learn about budgeting and saving for things?

I don't keep chocolate in the house but I buy it in when I have my period. I make myself a hot water bottle and snuggle up if I'm feeling a bit rotten. So yes, I'll do that for DD when it happens, if she wants that. I used to believe in powering through and denying my need for rest and treats. Nowadays I believe in recharging and looking after myself, and I model that to my kids.

Well here you go, if you need convincing. Dark chocolate can help with periods.

https://www.medicinenet.com/is_chocolate_good_for_cramps/article.htm

www.avogel.co.uk/health/periods/4-ways-chocolate-can-help-ease-your-period-symptoms/

And here is the reason why we have entitled adults. Having a period is part of normal life for females. Who pampers you every month? Do you take to your bed for the duration ? Women died for the women of today to be taken seriously and to be treated as equals and attitudes like this set us back half a century. Can you imagine a female soldier on the front line demanding time for a pamper session because she has her period ? No she just has to bloody well get on with it.

Nothing wrong with a bit of chocolate on your period. I had dreadful PMT and painful periods (endometriosis and adenomyosis) my mum never believed me as she never had any issues with hers.

I used to work with a guy who sensed my PMT and would leave me little bars of chocolate several times a month. He never mentioned it or said a word about it but they turned up like clockwork 😂.

What miserable attitude!

I have a son but if i had a dd I'd definitely buy her it.my periods were very painful In the early years and I often craved sugar.

if she needs some extra sofa time, a heating pad, and a chocolate bar then she should be free to make that decision. Unless money is especially tight, there should be some period snacks in the pantry. They aren’t a necessity like menstrual supplies, but every woman knows that eating what your body is craving during that time helps with the negative symptoms.

This is cute. I would hope to do this sort of thing with my daughter when she is older! I never had a relationship with my mom and I would've loved this type of thing. It's getting added to my mental list of how to be a good parent 😂

Never been asked - though they have hot water bottles - plug in ones - and heated blankets and I'd offer pain relief - though they do know where that is. They both had access to some money as well and if asked would pop out and get.

I use to have horrendous periods what I wanted was rest and heat pads and decent pain killers.

Not sure a whole routine/ritual needs to be created but some basic consideration and sympathy wouldn't be hard to do.

Period pampering? I’ve never heard of this. I survived without being pampered, and I continue to survive today without being pampered.

Why can’t people cope with normal life anymore?!

Demand and ask are different. Is she being a little cow and trying to make me feel like shit about not having chocolate on demand at 10pm on a random Tuesday night? Or is she asking "if you're popping to the shop, can you pick up a bar of Cadbury please". The two would get a very different result in my house.

Also i think its a bit ridiculous when people "pamper" too much. We should be empathetic but unless it's a really bad out of the ordinary period then we need to teach them to build resilience!