DD demanding chocolate when she's on her period

I think it depends. If daughter is clearly finding her periods very hard and it might feel like a struggle for her to get chocolate when she wants, then yes I might well get her some chocolate to be kind. On the other hand, if it's just a matter of "I am on my period therefore you should get me chocolate because everyone else has chocolate" then I'd tell her she's welcome to get it herself! (we don't have chocolate in normally, not a big deal, we just don't)

If she wants chocolate and has her own money then she can buy her own bloody chocolate

Otherwise OP pick your battles and make sure you always have it in the house if this becomes a regular

Periods are so horrible, particularly for teenagers, shouldn’t there be a little sugar to offset that salt?

That’s true, plus I think sometimes kids just want a hand to hold (so do I and I’m an adult).
If that hand comes in the form of chocolate from Mum then it’s something small, inexpensive but might mean a lot to the teenager.

@xRobin the issue is OP hasn't clarified if her DD simply asked or actually demanded.

If nothing is ever done voluntarily, I can see a child asking for chocolate/hot water bottle/a bath/some sympathy.

See I think what your Mum did is perfect, and for you looking back, it’s something your Mum did for you that helped.
However, if you demanded a bath and a hot water bottle, I’m sure you’d have received a different result.
I don’t agree with giving in to anybody’s demands, but I also don’t agree with some poster’s view of “get on with it, we all had to”.

No. If she wants chocolate she can buy her own - presumably she has some sort of pocket money?

It's normal to crave sweet things when on a period .
I wouldn't stop her having them but I wouldn't take kindly to demanding from anyone.
Just have a cupboard stocked with a few things it's reasonable to feel you need sweet things at this time of the month you don't need to fall out over it .

Eating chocolate when you're on your period I don't think is the reason for the obesity crisis (it's not only women who are overweight for a start!)

I eat chocolate every day, and I barely get periods. Both DD and I love chocolate and it's a staple in our household. (I used to have an ED and feel shit about eating all kinds of things, now i eat chocolate because i enjoy it) She probably eats more of it when she's on her period. The only (very slightly) overweight person in the house is DH and he neither menstruates or eats chocolate regularly!

Surely there's a middle way with this?

Yes, we need to be sympathetic with our daughters.
But making it a 'special occasion' and 'demanding' chocolate as a default setting is going too far.

I had terrible period pains in my teens but not every month.
My Mum would run me a hot bath and give me a hot water bottle.
Once, I was sent home from my Saturday job as I couldn't stand up and serve in the shop for the pain.

That prompted me to go to my GP who gave me meds for PMS (to reduce bloating) and pain killers to use as needed. That was decades ago, and treatment has moved on. I've friends now (who are older, retired women) who were given the Pill in the early 1970s to help with periods.

If DDs need support with their periods, do it, maybe take them to the GP, or do whatever they need.

But 'demanding chocolate' seems (as some posters have said) to be something they're picking up from their peer group as if it's a necessity!

Sorry… did you just compare a teenage girl wanting some chocolate with an adult female infantry soldier who is fighting for her country?
I’m pregnant so don’t currently have periods but I’ve always been very lucky to never suffer through mine so I crack on as normal.
I was rearranging my daughter’s bedroom furniture last weekend because I can still do it myself. My daughter helped with what little she could (she’s 7). So am I raising an entitled adult? Because I believe in moderation.
A mini pamper (a film night and some ice-cream) once a month is not raising an entitled adult. It’s strengthening a Mother/Daughter relationship and creating a well-rounded adult.
An entitled adult comes from parents who tell their children “you’re special, you’re the best, you’re a winner in my eyes” despite the fact they might be behaving little shits.
Good god.

Same, I didn’t have “the best” parents and was only allowed downstairs for dinner.
I’ve got one daughter and another on the way and I hope to treat them a lot better than I was. I crave that close Mum/Daughter relationship so I’ll create one myself 😅

@Aroundthetwistyvines here are hardened US cowboys being floored by it for just a few minutes. It is a good compilation.

Chocolate, Sanitary products, paracetamol and hot water bottles are provided automatically in our house. I don't think it would matter who needed them! I never expected my DC to get their own. It's something we do keep a stock of for such occasions.

I don’t feel shit after eating chocolate. I love chocolate but preferably Belgian or Swiss.

I don't remember any special chocolate or pampering from my parents, but we did tend to have some sort of treats in the house most of the time, so I wasn't exactly deprived. I think it's odd to expect to be pampered, unless you're actually ill. Obviously provide access to ways to alleviate the pain, if she's uncomfortable, but I wouldn't be lectured to about a lack of pampering. Similarly, a polite request for chocolate is fine, but not a demand.

FFS. Maybe you have never had the choc/sweet cravings but your daughter obviously does. She's not a baby for gawd sake, she's a young woman by nature (though still a child really) dealing with her shitty periods. Some women struggle more than others or have different symptoms/cravings. Either give her the money to buy it or keep a special supply in the house for her when she needs it. Chocolate is not drugs FFS. A bit of female empathy needed here. If my mum had done.that to me when I was 14 I'd hate her forever! Lighten up.

I demand chocolate from my husband when I’m on! There’s got to be some consolation prize, right?

A decent DH/DP with an ounce of empathy.

Surely a teenager has pocket money and can buy her own chocolate? Poor mum - who 'pampers' her when she is on her period?!

Oh, I have to show dh this, please post the link!! 😂

Oh the medicinal values of chocolate and wine can never be underestimated! Xx

I'm so sorry. That must be absolutely miserable for you. I'd be telling the whinging sod to get on with it himself while you have a bath and some chocolate. You deserve far, far better than this.

@MyNDfamily ah, so you are the "appliance" ie when you "break down" and don't perform your usual duties it is an inconvenience. Totally shit realisation.

There are lots of Period Simulator videos of men who can't handle the pain for a couple of minutes never mind days, nights, and going to work and expected to function. You could show your family these for fun, find the best ones where there is also a woman on her period and attached to the same machine at the same level and the man is not coping. It might help your sons to understand. Maybe ask your Dh if you can kick him repeatedly in the balls whilst expecting him to continue functioning.

You really do have my sympathies.

Wow, that's lovely. My DH gets cross that things aren't done around the house. I do have PCOS and struggle massively though. There is no understanding from my house of boys/ men.