DD demanding chocolate when she's on her period

Well I know I have always craved chocolate on my period. If it makes her feel better then why not? I'm sure you do things for yourself that make you feel better.

We almost always have chocolate in, DDs wouldn't have to ask or they would just buy it with pocket money anyway.

Just give the poor girl some chocolate.

@myusernamewastakenbyme and my mum never even told me about periods or what to expect, rarely provided pads and wanted me to use cotton wool and massively kicked off about tampons because virgins and some such. Did i survive? Yes. Was I ok? Yes. Should I have done the same with DD because that's how I went through it?

Running her a bath and chucking her a bar of galaxy doesn’t seem too much effort.

No way.

Make her have an ice bath and wear sandpaper knickers. Bread and margarine for dinner and keep the windows open.

FFS. You are not going to 'ruin' your DD by having a bit of chocolate in the house once a month. I honestly despair at the competitive misery on here sometimes, all in the name of proving that people aren't spoiling their DC. She has hardly asked for Gucci slippers, a rose petal bath and 60 newborn kittens.

🙄

Why would an adult, who earns a wage and has a car and control over the contents of the cupboard, need anyone else to provide them with chocolate/treats, though? The situation of a parent and a 14-year-old aren't really comparable; an adult can do whatever they want whenever they want, whereas a child doesn't have that level of freedom/wherewithal.

My mum had terrible periods when I was a kid and my dad did used to look after her a bit, however. I don't recall her requesting chocolate - she's not really a chocolate fan to be honest - but my dad definitely got her hot water bottles and brought her painkillers and stuff like that.

Getting someone chocolate is hardly making them precious, entitled and lacking resilience and all the other stuff people have put

If a colleague said they had period pain/were craving chocolate I would grab them some from the shop and make them a cup of tea let alone my own family

DD would complain I don’t pamper her because I’m not really the pampering type. But I always gave her hot chocolate or a bar of chocolate and a cuppa, a hot water bottle and painkillers.

What sort of thing does she see as ‘pampering’, OP?

Surely chocolate and a hot water bottle is pretty standard for period pain. And if someone is in pain then normal loving families support them

I guess people's responses can only be based on their own experience.

For me, periods were always a non-event, no pain, no PMS, so reading this I thought it was totally OTT!

It did sound from OP's post that the daughter is demanding it because her friends get it, rather than because she's struggling and needs extra comfort though. If so, I'd be wary of raising precious/entitled DCs as PPs have said. They do need a bit of resilience.

Only OP can know what's actually needed here.

Periods can be really painful and your hormones are all over the place. If you are 14 and it's still all new to you, it can be really unsettling.

Bit of chocolate and care wouldn't go amiss. I have adenomyosis so my periods are super heavy and I often can't properly work for 2 days a month because of the intense pain.

Chocolate is basics here where we are

Doesn't she have pocket money? or are you one of those parents who won't let their children eat chocolate at all?

At 14 she is old enough to have autonomy and old enough to buy herself whatever treats she wants surely?

Your child is asking you for some attention. How hard would it be for you to get her some chocolate and prep a hot water bottle for her. I can't imagine why this is even a question. I have had endometriosis since I started my period. My pain was so bad I was crawling in all fours with every period. My mum and gp told me I was being dramatic and to just get on with it. I would probably have a much better relationship with my mum as an adult if she had shown me some care and attention - a bar of chocolate and some hugs might have been lovely.

She's a child.

My periods are awful and so are my DDs. I do buy her chocolate and give her some slack. Just as I do with myself.

I always crave chocolate and sweet things around my period. It's how I know it's imminent.
Why can't she have some chocolate? Even the easiest period isn't much fun, why can't she have a little treat? I don't get why it's an issue for you.

There's also an element of standard setting.

If I won't nurture my adaughter and show her how she should expect to be treated, why would she expect anyone else to?

It's all very well saying people didn't make a thing of it in our day, but I CAN do better so I WILL do better.

I want my daughter to feel like I'm the mum she wants to live up to being.

You can't pour from an empty cup, so OP, if your mum never did it for you, don't you think it might be nice to give your daughter more than what you had?

I fuck up as a mum in a regular basis, we all do. But this is such am easy win tat I'm baffled you aren't falling over yourself to love your daughterin a way that matters to her.

Why can't she have whatever chocolate is already in the houae and go lie down with a hot water bottle? Honestly your DD sounds entitled.

Plus I personally wouldn't want to give teen girls the message that natural bodily functions somehow make them weak and precious and in need of special "pampering".

Chocolate and pampering for a normal bodily function? Why on earth does she expect that? If she wants chocolate tell her to go and buy some.

So chocolate's not healthy, demanding anything's not great BUT getting my 14 year old daughter struggling with her period a bit of chocolate would be a pleasure. Mine are adults now and I'd do anything to provide a treat or comforting thing here or there.

I agree...I just stick a sanitary towel in my knickers and go to work...never been pampered or bought chocolate in my 40 years of menstrual bleeding.

Jesus Christ, @Homeymum2, get the poor girl some chocolate.

What unacceptable rudeness. Asking for chocolate or correctly articulating its poor parenting to not even get your kid a bar of chocolate.