DD demanding chocolate when she's on her period

We always have chocolate in the house - do other people not? Me and DD eat chocolate every day and she has more when she’s on her period. I wouldn’t have to buy it for her because it’s there and she can help herself and self-regulate, as can I…

Oh i wish i was 30.No issue with the chocolate and a cuddle but think period pamper sessions every month is over the top.

Christ, dd is on her 3rd period ever and I only know about it when the box in the bathroom is left open!
We're a no fuss house here. If she wants chocolate, there's usually plenty in the fridge. Or the shop.

I always need chocolate on my period, common sense cos it helps with the pain

Christmas was a month ago and she is a teenager for God’s sake. Of course she ate her Christmas chocolate!

How tight do you need to be to not buy any treats for the house during the weekly shop?

It is a state of emergency if there is no nice chocolate in our house (thorntons or milk way don't qualify) and I would go out and buy some - at any time up to about 10pm - regardless of my own or DDs menstrual cycle.

I barely get periods because I'm on the coil but I eat chocolate every day anyway. DD (18) probably eats more when she's on her period. She has always had bad cramps so she gets sympathy, appropriate medication, and chocolate but I've not heard of a period box, pamper evenings, or movie nights for periods.

Fuck me OP. You’re as tight one! Seriously, its not cocaine. Its chocolate, which is un supply in most houses.

you’re creating problems here.

DD (14) is very private. On the odd occasion she has misjudged her supplies she'll message and ask me to pick stuff up for her, or if something has stained she'll put it in the wash/spray stain remover or whatever and then text me to tell me or ask for help.

I'll message her every time I do a Tesco shop and ask if she needs anything.

She wouldn't want to be pampered or whatever, but if she did it'd be no big deal and I would. If it was part of a bigger pattern of not having much resilience etc I'd encourage healthier coping mechanisms etc, but otherwise why wouldn't I?

If I asked DH to grab me a bar of chocolate and run me a bath cause I was feeling crap for whatever reason id expect him to say yes, regardless. And he would. As I would for him!

So you were objecting to sharing your chocolate with your daughter and/or buying some for her? How do you think this makes you sound any better?

When can I come over ?l 😆

I always buy myself and my teenage daughters a bar of dairy milk each month. When they're on their period, they help themselves. Periods are horrible, chocolate makes it so much more bearable.

Well, OP people are saying similar stuff on your thread about make up remover. Are you just tight fisted?

Just had a look in my cupboard....we've got twirls, galaxy ripples, toffee crisps, mint aeros and freddo bars. There's also a chocolate fudge cake and come chocolate cookies.

I'm sure it would make the anti upf crew faint!

Why not do indulge with pampering? Do you not like your children? Pampering just means, running a bath, preparing a hot water bottle, making some tea, sticking on a comfort show. What does this take away from you apart from 20 minutes of time? But it will show your daughter that she's loved and cared for, bolster her self-esteem, teach her that people who love you want to care for you.

My husband had been known to do a midnight chocolate run when I've been suffering.

Periods are normal, but there is a massive range, and being kind to someone in pain is just nice.

If she wants this because she thinks it would genuinely help then I would oblige, because I'd want to help my DD. If it was just because her mates got treated like that and she fancied the same, I'd be less inclined to. It doesn't sound like she's actually suffering with her periods, more like FOMO and less like needing medical help like begging for painkillers, applying heat, etc.

But I had awful periods when I was a teen, I remember lying in the foetal position on my bed whimpering because it was so bad and I would have felt a bit more cherished if my mum had tried to help. She didn't, I was left to it. I would help my DD if I had one (I don't) because feeling that your parent wants to help you feel better and cares, goes a long way to building feelings of security and self-worth. I didn't get much of that so that'll be why...

I'm probably v. old fashioned but I stopped buying chocolate/crispy type stuff for the snacky box when my kids hit early teens. There was fruit, milk and cereal in abundance instead. If they were peckish, I was more than happy for them to help themselves. If they wanted the chocolate, they had to buy it themselves. And no, I didn't have a secret stash because, bizarrely, I not really a fan of chocolate/sweet stuff...

Wow Christmas was over a month ago! When I have my period I could eat a whole loaf as I crave carbs.

I was prescribed a lot of very strong painkillers, and had quite a bit of pampering, after part of my body had been severed off and they had to operate. I didn’t take any of the painkillers for that because it wasn’t anything like as painful as the natural bodily function of my period. I only needed a couple of paracetamol for the post op pain and I used the strong stuff for the next 7years for period pain. Just because something is a ‘natural bodily function’ doesn’t mean it can’t be very painful and unpleasant.

That's different to pampering teenage girls and feeding them chocolate every month just because they have a period.

It is no wonder teenagers have no resilience and schools deal every month with girls who make enormous dramas about having a period- demanding to go home and have a bath and change all their clothing because they have 'leaked through', refusing to do PE or other lessons because they 'don't feel well', expecting to have rules changed for them. DH had a letter last week asking from a mum saying she wants her daughter to be on 'an early lunch pass when she has her period because she feels uncomfortable standing in the queue.' He says the same girl stands in the corridor with her friends outside the girls' loos making a lot of noise every break and lunchtime.

I'm surprised at how many people don't have chocolate in their house routinely. But I like to keep very well stocked cupboards of pretty much most food stuffs

I crave chocolate when I'm with my period. My dh knows me well and he always brings me some chocolate, without me asking, when I'm with my period. I appreciate that.
There's no need to indulge with pampering but there's nothing wrong with giving a wee treat like a chocolate.