DD demanding chocolate when she's on her period

I always crave chocolate for a couple of days when it’s that time of the month. I’d hate it if someone controlled and told me I was ‘not allowed’ to have some.

This.
It's actually a lack of vitamin H, makes some ladies on period crave chocolate, regardless of age.
I read it in a book. 😐

I must have come from a hard house, definitely no pampering when I was young. Mum would have told me to take paracetamol and reminded me it was running club night 🤣. I won many races while on my period and really would expect to be pampered, although I do eat shed loads of chocolate at any time of the month!

I always have chocolate when I'm on. I'm not overweight; I don't have a sweet tooth the rest of the month, so I don't buy it. I will, however, buy some for DH when he's in pain or the DC if they're unwell/as a treat. Again, they don't have a sweet tooth often, so no emotional eating.

Buying chocolate for a period isn't giving anyone food problems. 🤣

I would not have an issue with chocolate but the demand. Any demand would mean a resounding no

For me, chocolate would be the sort of thing kids/teens buy from pocket money/allowance. It's not something I'd have in the house normally.

If the 80s/90s are anything to go by, then the 70s treatment of periods must have been barbaric, or entirely absent.

Personally I had to have my mother and grandmother keeping a candlelit vigil round my bed all night and absolutely not letting go of my hands when I started my periods...

And ok I guess boarding school/periods was not a good combo. Yes I suffered. Dreadfully. Literally. It was horrific.

So wrap your daughter in cotton wool, if you have that luxury.

You actually should buy her chocolate.

1.5 days before bleeding starts, chocolate for some reason is a very very common craving and it does help.

So yes, you should.

Only once a month.

And why not look after your baby when she is hurting, and feels vulnerable and unwell? Periods are very debilitating, it is a special few days, we need care and love. Yes pamper her. Look after her like a baby again. Why not?

I always liked chocolate when I was on my period and I’m not overweight.

This seems ridiculous. Not everyone has difficult periods or needs pampering.

Also don't fall for the "every body else's parents...' line. It wasn't true when I was at school in the 1970s and it isn't true now.

OTOH, the fact that she's making an issue of it might be a cry for some attention and I'm a firm believer that if someone is attention seeking it's not a hobby, it's because they need some attention.

Sit alone with her , tell her you don't want to treat her like a baby or make her periods into a problem so why not compromise. You'll up her allowance/pocket money by £x so if when her period is due she thinks she needs chocolate she has the money to buy it but if not it's hers to spend as she chooses. And if when she buys it she still needs a bit of pampering , come to you and you'll have a movie night together.

I meant it more as "This is not a thing that happens". I'm all for being kind, but expecting service is something else entirely!

I must be a bad mum too! My daughters are 16 and 19, and it's never crossed my mind to buy in chocolate (or pamper them) when they're on. I've never been pampered either!! Having said that, there's usually a range of snacks and treats available for whenever - they are more than old enough to fetch their own snacks. Or they can walk 100m to the corner shop and buy their own!

I don't think that it's a healthy choice to use chocolate to compensate for having a bad day or time or as a reward. That's how emotional food addictions start. I've been overweight most of my life as a result.

I mean is it really a big deal? Just buy her a chocolate bar for once a month.

yes I mentioned upthread I'm sure the choc craving is about magnesium (which can be a bit lower when menstruating) I think but can't quite remember. Dark chocolate is obviously best but not everyone likes it esp young people ime. I imagine it's also our body chasing serotonin on our period too.

Also can't remember the details but there was a study where toddlers ate the food they were deficient in? Not saying she has a deficiency but, yes, you're right that our cravings often mean something.

Of course sometimes we just fancy cake too for no reason! But it's simply wrong when some competitive undereaters say cravings never have scientific basis.

Pampering- absolutely not, catch a grip.

Chocolate- for her period? No. Because she fancies a treat, yes, why not?

She's 14 for heaven's sake.

a banana eery day, vat B12 and a regular run or cardio sport will help periods...

dark 90% chocolate maybe beneficial, but of course thats not the type of chocolate she meant was it

I buy youngest dd a big bar of chocolate.

Is it really such a big sacrifice to get her some chocolate, painkillers, a hot water bottle and a little tlc?

Does she not get pocket money to be able to buy her own? That way if she's spent it all you can just say we'll when it's gone it's gone? If she's secondary school age does she not get 10 or 20 pounds a month to spend for herself?

My 13 year old craves sushi and spicy noodle soup during her period. I buy her a small packet of sushi from the supermarket and make her homemade noodle soup. She rarely lets me spoil her so I look forward to the ritual. We both have horrific periods so anything to get her through it.

I always crave chocolate at that time of the month.

I find the cliche of women demanding chocolate and princess treatment on their period bizarre and infantile.

I have had periods for getting on for 25 years and never had the need for chocolate or 'pampering'... in fact I can't think of much worse, if anything id much rather be left alone if its bad.

I mean if its really bad then someone getting you sanitary products or painkillers or watching the kid so you can nap etc... just general human care (like you would if someone you love had a migraine or flu etc... and you could help) is nice to have (although something many don't have access too because single adults usually look after themselves) but not throwing a fit demanding sweeties and pampering.

This with knobs on. 👏👏