DD demanding chocolate when she's on her period

Yeah, you have NO idea then. Endo pains are recorded as worse than childbirth. So off you trot and leave us with our painkillers and chocolate!

I remember some time ago I had time to kill. I was intrigued by some of these apps that allowed anonymous chat. It really gave me insight into the strange predilections of some. One prominent and recurring theme I identified was young men who liked to "look after" girls once a month. "Look after" is not a euphemism for sex, it involved things like buying them chocolate.

I wonder if the OPs daughters have come across these types and give a skewed impression

I’ve been using chocolate like that for over 50 years, no food addictions here (except maybe chocolate🤔). I’m alive and well (physically and mentally) and will be eating chocolate on my deathbed hopefully.

My ds12 goes round the shop to buy chocolate for dd15 when she is on her period. He's also been known to take a hot water bottle in for her. Dd tells him he is daft but it always makes her smile.

DH told him once when he was around 8 that it helps, that some girls like dd have quite painful ones and that it's a kind thing to do when someone is in discomfort.

I don't think it's 'pampering' to be nice to people when they are in pain.

What did I miss? People do this for their daughters? My mum would have laughed at me for asking for chocolate but didn’t have the relationship where I even told her about my periods.

@niadainud Crusts?

I assumed it was a typo for crisps.

In my house, periods … it’s just another day.

This.

No harm in a little maternal kindness when your DD is getting used to having periods.

Some food banks/ schools put a bar of chocolate in their period product bags. I get the cravings so really do see things from your daughters perspective. It might not be considered essential, but these things that we can do as parents are nurturing and acknowledge our children’s challenges, showing that we have their backs

Please be joking

Surely she gets some pocket money that she can spend on chocolate when she wants it?

You’re not an outlier! I have teenage daughters and in no way do I pamper them (including buying chocolate) when they have a period. I’m sympathetic when they moan but that’s as far as it goes, although I offer a hot water bottle sometimes. I’m friends with lots of other mums and as far as I know no one does any pampering. I imagine “everyone else’s parents” means one or two at most.

Is this a joke?

The op has clarified that there isn't chocolate in the kitchen cupboard.

That the daughter has eaten her Christmas chocolate.

But that op hasn't eaten all her Christmas chocolate and the daughter asked if she could have some of that.

The op isn't even being asked to go out and get chocolate, but just to give her daughter some chocolate that she has in the house and hasn't eaten in six weeks

When you’ve already walked a mile and a half home from school and feel godawful with cramps and are a bit over-emotional and weepy, heading out to the shops in February drizzle is very unappealing.

DD’s older brothers would fetch some for her if I or her dad hadn’t already sorted it. A pack of chocolate buttons or Maltesers is a nice thing to do for someone who is feeling low.

The OP, for anyone who hasn't noticed has a second thread running about not wanting to buy her daughter makeup remover.

There seems to be bigger issues and problems in the dynamic going on than meets the eye.

Mumsnet: Women and girls should advocate for themselves and feel free to express their needs.

14yo girl: I would like some chocolate when I am on my period.

Mumsnet: Chocolate??!! On your period? I never had chocolate on my period! Hell, I never even allow it in my house! Buy it yourself if you must but don't let me even sniff it on you! And don't ever expect special treatment at your "time of the month" again, you're pathetic!

OP says she's demanding, but she hasn't actually clarified the words used. She also thinks her DD is out of order for asking her to spend a couple of quid on makeup remover.

Between the two threads, I get the impression OP just doesn't want to get anything "unnecessary" for her DD.

And also, some women can't function well during periods. I feel faint when I'm on. I'd do it if I had to, but luckily DH is a sweetheart and doesn't make me. Neither did my dad. Neither does my brother for his partner.

Same way I wouldn't make DH limp in agony to the shop if he wanted chocolate. Because, you know...I love him and it's nice to generally be nice to loved ones in pain.

I always get my daughter a bit of wholenut when she’s on her period. It’s the only time she’s really bothered about it. Wondering why it is such an issue?

is it me or is everyone missing the point
shes probably allowed chocolate and allowed to feel a bit shit but DEMANDING her mum to buy her stuff which i imagine shes fully capable of doing herself is the problem?? she can still function i presume?!!?
it's the entitlement and rudeness for me

my mum would buy me feminax, a bar of chocolate, and make me a hot water bottle if it was particularly bad - I don’t understand what’s wrong with giving her a little treat / a £2 bar of chocolate?

Ah, this reminds me of when my mum used to buy me a massive bar of Dairy Milk when I was suffering with my period. Even now she buys me one if I come on while I'm staying with her - and I'm 36

As for everyone saying "if she suffers go to the GP" - I saw my GP regularly for heavy periods from the age of 14 - I only got a diagnosis of PCOS two weeks ago. There's very little help out there for heavy periods except for the pill, sadly.

Im due on a few days and right now i could eat enough for an army.
I dont eat chocolate use to but cant have it now.
But all i want is bloody junk food this will carry on until the 3rd day of my period and then i wont touch any junk.
So far its crisp about 6 bags to day pies and sweets plenty of sweets right now im eating gummy bears and crisp just so peckish but i dont want food just junk.
I feel like a pig my boobs are killing me my belly is bloated and i have 2 spots ill be normal soon i swear.
Happens every month.
In my next life i want to come back as a man thanks for the rant.

Ridiculous. There's these things called shops and most humans are issued with legs and you can use them to visit the shops and buy chocolate all by yourself.

This.

This isn't the hill to die on, OP.