If you’re vegetarian but DH isn’t, do you cook him meat?

I'm an omnivore, my husband is a pescatarian. I would never dream of cooking meat for him and I wouldn't expect him to cook meat for me. When we cook at home we have vegetarian meals or meals that only contain fish, not other meat. If I was desperate for a steak or something (which doesn't happen) I would cook it for myself at a time when we weren't sharing a meal. When we eat out we each order what we want to, which will sometimes be something with meat for me. It's not complicated!

I'm veggie and my husband is not. We agreed at the beginning of our relationship that we would eat veggie at home. We raise our children veggie and the only time he eats meat is occasionally when we eat out, and he has a pork pie at christmas. There is never meat in the house otherwise.

Veggie since a young age, DP isn't. I cook mostly but not exclusively. He has really taken to veggie food, which is lovely. I cook him meat occasionally, if he sees something great at the butchers or reduced but I wouldn't agree to this habitually, certainly not every day. It's against my principles and I don't want to do it. Happy to do so occasionally. If he wanted meat more often, he can do it himself but I would ask for high welfare standards. He does cook fish himself (he's much better at cooking it). Eats what he likes when out, all fine.

Veggie for more than 20 years now and my DH LOVES all things meat. Luckily in our house he does the majority of the cooking but when I am cooking, like you I am happy to throw say a chicken burger in the oven but that’s about it. Other reasons aside, I don’t know how to cook meat - I was a young kid when I went veggie - so there’s not much I can cook that isn’t easy! If your DH is unhappy with your efforts (and you’re trying here, you’ve not refused to touch meat) then I’d tell him to sort himself out and you just do you because he’s being bloody ungrateful.

Also, I couldn’t stomach the smell of it in my house, and in the oven and dishwasher etc.

it makes me smile when people are cooking meat and ask if I’m not tempted by the smell.
it smells of old blood and rancid fat to me now, so….no.

My DH is vegetarian and he cooks meat for the rest of the family. Probably 3 or 4 meals a week will contain meat for the meat eaters. He does most of the cooking as he enjoys it

I've been vegetarian for 32 years. That's my personal choice, I prefer not to eat meat.
I cook all the food in the house so I cook my husband meat ( maybe twice a week normally, but more now he's on chemotherapy as he has a huge protein requirement otherwise not fillable without)and have always given my children meat. My personal belief is it's good for small children to have a little bit of meat a week to meet their nutritional requirements, to give them more easily attainable haem iron and protein etc ( especially considering they often are picky and only eat small quantities.) not eating meat is my personal choice, they have their own choices, I'm cooking it, not eating it for them

I am a meat eater and I think your approach is completely fine. the line gets blurred I think when you're a SAHM and the deal is that you do all the chores etc and he does all the work that brings in money, but I think the compromise you're already offering is perfectly fine.

Similarly, DH was veggie for a few years. I wasn't cooking him completely separate meals. the compromise was that I tried to make meat meal that were easily adapted for av eggie version and when I really really just wanted a meat stew, I got him a ready meal or something from the freezer. I felt fine about that.

Same
we never cook meat in the house. We share the cooking. DH never mentions it!
if we eat out, sometimes he’ll have meat, more often not. He says he doesn’t miss it.

I've been vegetarian for nearly 25 years. Husband isn't. I choose this diet purely as I think it's morally abhorrent to eat the flesh of a living creature. As such, I would never cook meat for him. I do most of the cooking so he either eats my vegetarian offering, or he's welcome to cook for himself. He generally has no problem with this, and not something we ever argue about.

It is unrealistic to expect a vegetarian to cook meat if they don't want or aren't used to it.

They wouldn't be able to taste for seasoning, for example or check if something was properly cooked.

If the DH wants meat that isn't a ready meal he can jolly well cook it himself.

Yes I do. I've been vegetarian for about 30 years, we've been together 19 and have two children who also eat meat.
I struggle to touch it, so have to use tongs/fork etc to hold it whilst I cut it up, but I have no problem cooking it.
The hardest thing is not being able to taste test, so I'm relying on how it looks/smells!

I am single now but when I wasn't no I don't cook or buy meat

I'm veggie (since I was 8) and husband isn't. He does all the cooking, and is very happy to eat vegetarian food at home.

He has bacon on weekend mornings, and also tuna wraps for his lunch (both of which he prepares). Oh, and Christmas day when we have the whole family round (including my ex-inlaws who I still get on very well with) is two kids of meat along with a veggie pie for me (which everyone always wants some of!).

Even if I wanted to cook meat (which I don't, I find raw meat repulsive) I literally wouldn't know how to!

When my children were growing up, they were veggie when they were weaning, and until they were old enough to decide for themselves. They both decided to eat meat, which is fine by me. Meals at home were vegetarian, but I didn't mind buying a pepperoni pizza and bunging it in the oven, or buying ham for sandwiches (which they made themselves once they were secondary school age).

They got plenty of meat at their Dads house every other weekend, or out of the house, and didn't feel deprived in any way (mid twenties now). My daughter has moved to more veggie things recently like tofu and Quorn, as she doesn't like preparing raw meat, but is happy to eat the finished meal if someone else has prepared it!

It seems absolutely daft for you to be responsible for the cooking when you're not prepared to cook to suit the tastes of everyone else in the family.

Can you not swap with DH for a different responsibility? Presumably he's happy to cook both veggie and meat meals?

Same here. I'm vegetarian, that's my choice. I buy and cook meat for DH, DC and grandchildren.

It bothers me not, I cook food that people will eat and enjoy I don't impose my choice on them.

I've been veggie since a child too. DH and 2 DC are not. I do oven things like you and am an expert of cooking fresh meat without touching it. 😅

I get diced chicken and tip into the wok for curry and stir fries. Chicken breasts tipped into a big bowl with a tablespoon of olive oil, lemon juice and seasoning, then tipped into an oven tray.

Implements straight in the dishwasher without touching the worktop, packaging in the bagged general waste. I'm quite squeamish about it.

Totally understand that you do the family cooking as you don't work- all fair enough. But if your provide home cooked meals for the whole family but one adult wants (not needs, it would be different if it was an allergy etc) something specific and different I'd say they need to be prepared to cook that for themselves. On top of that you (presumably) have an ethical reason for not wanting to eat meat so it is unreasonable to expect you to handle it. I know some vegetarians will, but that's their personal decision not something that should be expected of them.

My DH was not veggie when our DC were small (I was and we agreed that the DC would be) but would not have expected me to cook meat for him.

It's so refreshing to see a slightly less rigid view from a vegetarian. Love this.

Was veggie since a child when I met DH and never cooked meat for him but he was happy to eat it when out, never objected to me cooking veggie. About a year later noticed he started leaving meat on the side of plate at family’s houses and wasn’t ordering meat when out. Said he had gone totally off it. We never discussed it and I honestly didn’t mind him having it. He went fully veggie about 18 mths after we lived together and now is happier eating vegan. Eats very little dairy or eggs, usually when others are catering or when out. At home now I tend to cook 90% vegan meals. DS is veggie and does really like cheese.

I dislike the smell and cooking it but to be honest would be more worried about poisoning someone as I will not taste it and have not cooked a lot with meat so wouldn’t trust myself. I’ll put things in the oven if we’ve guests and they want it. And been known to fry mince or boil chicken when my dog was ill.

I wouldn’t cook it on a daily basis.

I think you should just cook a family meal. If it’s good enough for you and your children then it’s good enough for DH. If he chooses not to eat it then he can cook himself something else.

perhaps he can batch cook some chicken cubes / steak cubes / sausages / etc and portion and freeze to have as a ‘side’ with the family meal. )that he is responsible for initial cooking, portioning, unfreezing, etc). And/or have bacon / ham slices in the fridge for a side to add. You shouldn’t be responsible for cooking him something different to the family meal.

I'm vegetarian, dh and the dc are not. I buy and cook meat for them. Doesn't bother me.

But the OP is already cooking meat for her DH, just not the type / as often as he wants.

OP, I'd say your approach is fair. I understand why you do all the cooking, but there is nothing stopping DH cooking a Saturday or Sunday evening meal and making it exactly like he wants.

I am veggie but son 21 is not, I do cook meat for him every day, I have my opinions and he has his, I don’t want to force my opinions on him, some might say that I should mind but I don’t,end of.

My DDs are both veggie, for ethical reasons, I'm not but I only cook veggie meals at home, but eat meat when I'm out.

I think your DH should respect your position that you don't want to cook meat if it's an eithical issue for you. If you just don't like the taste of meat yourself, then I think it would be reasonable to cook him some meat on the side - eg chicken/beef strips to add to a veggie meal.