If you’re vegetarian but DH isn’t, do you cook him meat?

We're the same. I've been a veggie for 20 years and he loves his meat. We just shop and cook separately most of the time! I don't mind cooking him meat now and again, and sometimes he'll eat my veggie food

I love meat (and fish and seafood) but think if you settle down with a vegetarian then there’s no way you would expect then to ever cook non-veggie for you. That’s pretty obvious to me.

Strict vegetarian for over 30 years. And how depressing that all that time time has passed and yet women are still considered to be the default one to ‘cook for their husbands’.

And yes, on the rare occasion I might cook for the family, I do cook meat. Touching it doesn’t bother me but I do keep all utensils and kitchenware separate.

My DH is veggie and I eat meat.

he will cook vegetarian food for me but if I want meat I cook it myself.

I will occasionally do him some meat sausages alongside my veggie ones or something, but he's gone mostly veggie with me. I don't make two meals, just things that would be separate anyway like sausages or burgers I'll do him a meat one. I don't really care if I'm not eating it.

Absolutely not!

I do all the cooking, DP hates it, I'm veggie so we eat veggie. He eats meat when out instead and manages fine. Occasionally if it's a special occasion or I'm cooking for a crowd I'll cook meat, but he isn't bothered enough for me to do it more than that.

I'd tell your DH he can do the cooking if he's that arsed. Although I'd also find someone who can't conceive of a meal without meat in it incredibly childish.

I cook meat for my whole family and I am vegetarian. I do not taste it, so have to be careful with seasoning.

I accept eating meat is a choice, just like I do not choose to.

I imagine they are happy to eat veggie at home if it doesn't involve them having to cook.

They would surely cook more meat themselves then, or bring it up? I think in this modern age there’s so many different foods, from so many different cultures, people have a much more sophisticated palate than the old fashioned meat and two veg of our grandparents era. Even meat eaters eat a lot of veggie food by choice now, my husband often chooses veggie when we eat out, and it’s definitely not because of me, as I respect his choice to eat it if he wants to.

I’m a life long veggie. However, partner eats meat and children being raised as meat eaters. We do 50/50 cooking and both cook mixture of meat and veggie. I do wonder if we spoke to the partners of those saying my husband loves veggie food whether they would voice a differing opinion.

Those who eat meat don't need to eat meat at every meal
Those who don't eat meat, never eat meat and rarely want to cook it

Surely it's fairly obvious? Veggies are against meat, meat eaters aren't against eating veggie food and eat veggie food anyway.

I think YANBU

I’ve been vegetarian since birth as my parents are vegetarian, and I’ve brought my daughter up the same, obviously putting a lot of research into her diet as a child. She’s now an adult and still vegetarian and it’s an important part of who we are. However my husband has always eaten meat/fish but was very supportive when I said I wanted to bring her up veggie like I had been. At home he’s also happy to eat our veggie food 80% of the time for ease. I don’t expect him to cook my veggie food and if he had wanted meat/fish for every meal, we’d have just cooked separately every night. However if he cooks meat for himself that’s obviously fine, but he wouldn’t expect me to cook it for him, and personally I wouldn’t do it as it’s quite revolting to someone who’s never eaten it. Also, I’d probably end up giving him food poisoning as I don’t have a clue how to cook meat/fish and didn’t even see it prepared in my childhood home.

I’m veggie, DH and both DS aren’t. I’d say 2-3 meals a week are meat, the rest vegetarian but that’s through a combination of choice (lots of veggie pasta dishes etc) and trying to reduce our meat consumption as a household. However, I do cook them meat - it isn’t their choice that I’m vegetarian and as I do all the cooking and work part time compared to their full time, I don’t feel it’s fair for them to start cooking when they get home.

No, I don’t. If he wants meat or fish he cooks it himself. We’re both fine with that.
Most of the time we have vegetarian meals together and he’s fine with that too. He probably has fish or meat once every 1 or 2 weeks.

I feel theres something quite entitled about the comments on here.

If a veggie came to my house for dinner id be expected to cook them something veggie. But if i went to theirs theyd reguse to have meat in the house?

Ur veggie so want ur husband to eat veggie as u do the cooking. If he was doing all thr cooking and only cooked meals with meat would that be ok? It wouldnt.

It feels veggies want everyone to accommodate their food preferences.

I've been vegetarian over 40 years and have no idea how to cook meat or fish, neither will I handle it or wash up a pan with juices or blood in it. I'll make salad, veg etc and DH cooks his own meat or fish to go with it. He almost never eats a meal without it.

My son's partner is vegan, my son is not but he shops and cooks for her and now eats a lot of vegan stuff that he wouldn't have done otherwise so he doesn't always have to cook two different meals. Luckily he is a good cook. She never cooks.
I think she's incredibly lucky to have found someone so accommodating.

Yes, I do. And for the kids too. I worked in a meat factory for a while when I was saving up for uni, I served all manner of meat and fish based meals as a waitress, as long as I do not have to eat it I don't mind what anyone else does and I'm fine cooking it. If it bothered me that much I wouldn't have married a meat eater!

I think YABU. My husband is a meat eater and I am not. I cook him meat. It's my choice, not his, to be veggie so I will cater to his needs and in return he's very respectful of mine (making sure when we go to parties and stuff there's something I can eat, making sure if we go to his friends for dinner they're aware etc etc). I will say I'm a life long veggie so not great at cooking it but he doesn't complain.

He's great for being happy to just eat veggie food though, as well. Does not complain at all - he's just there for the taste, not necessarily whether it's meaty or not!

Hi OP

I think YANBU but….

I can understand his POV if you have continued to cook “his” meals during your marriage because that was your agreement.

If you were thinking of returning to work, I would be making a new agreement!

As a compromise, can you cook quite “samey “ meals of pork/beef/lamb chops and chicken done in roasting bags that he opens himself and puts on the plate?

Would that limit the smell getting into your hair/clothes but still provide your DH with the meat that is so essential to him?

I’m a vegetarian too, but have cooked for relatives - once in a blue moon!

i wouldn't tolerate this. i love meat, and i want to eat it whenever i want including in my own home.

If my DH was a veggie he'd have to cook for himself, i can't remember the last time i had a dinner without meat.

Pretty much the same as you OP.

Will happily stick some nuggets in or even grill a burger or whatever but I don’t want to actually have to prepare it.

yes i’ve cooked meat dishes for my non vege husband and one daughter. But as i don’t taste it when I'm cooking it i have no idea if it tastes good- so he prefers to cook the meat himself most of the time 🙂

I'm vegan and wouldn't have a meat-eating partner, thus avoiding the issue!

If you agreed to cook his stuff and now find that problematic, you need to either renegotiate or put up with it, unless it's enough of an issue to end the relationship.