Husband leaving me and kids alone in foreign country

It is nice for him to go and travel and do and see what he likes. As OP is there to do all the menial life stuff with what sounds like, solo care of the children. And she had to go along with it really, to save her marriage.

You don't have to though OP.

There are scorpions and snakes in Spain but you survived there. You need to stop sleeping in the day and go out,

well excuse you jeez...

I cannot comment about Thailand as I have never been but suffice it to say, I wouldn't wish to stay anywhere less than 4 star.

However, I wonder if your concerns are disproportionate as you state the UK is riddled with knife crime. It isn't. It is rife in very specific places, jist as it is in Spain and France actually, not throughout the country. I spent 35 years living in South London, working for 10 alongside young people from some of the most deprived areas. They all knew someone affected by knife crime. It wasn't a factor in mine or my children's lives though.

I'd venture you'd be happier settling in a stable area and putting down some roots, rather than glamorising the concept of a digital nomad. If your DH is such an exceptional businessman get him to buy you and the dc a nice house somewhere that isn't riddled by knife crime.

@Hunnybunny235

firstly if you want to adjust quickly to the time zone you really to try your hardest not to sleep during the day.

sscondly, i think you are very unreasonable.
you have to agree with your husband the idea of the trip that is how many hours is he working, which activities is he participating in, which activities you do while he works, etc.

he is on “holiday” too albeit while he works. How can you begrudge him to explore? You also say he is treating you all. If you are that worried, you stay aaake while the kids nap. So we ee back to adjusting to the time zone quickly.

you are a mother and you said your children are your greatest priority. Then you REALLY need to model to them independance ans resilience. Start doing that by not putting pressure on your husband to work work where he doesnt want to. But do agree how long.

and really you are so lucky if you take it. This an amazing experience. Glass half full and all that.

i have travelled the world with my backpack and i have been shit scared a few times with noises and animals, but i grew stronger and more reailient. Would i do it again now at 48? No.
do I wish my kids have that experience. Abig fat yes you bet.

Yeah, OP I do think your previous posting history is relevant here. I am not one to usually advance search a poster, but in this instance this current post and all of your previous ones show a pattern.

Do you really even want to be there? Don't think about what it is your DH wants, do YOU want to doing all this travelling?

The more you post, the more it sounds like you think you should want this lifestyle because you’ve seen it on instagram, but in reality you are more suited to a diet of beige food and a semi-detached in the British suburbs. This would be an amazing lifestyle for someone who enjoys this sort of thing, but you clearly don’t so why are you pressing on with something you clearly hate that’s making you miserable? Not everyone is cut out for the lifestyle of “adventure and travel”, and you clearly are not so why force yourself to pretend when it’s making you unhappy?

Go home, take the man child to the cleaners, find a life that works for you. It doesn’t need to be like this. Do you have family you can stay
with til you find your feet?

You’re thinking of moving to the US to get away from knife crime in the UK? Erm…

This is the best advice.

“Two pairs of eyes are better than one when it comes to two kids and would love someone to be around to make sure they’re safe.”

That’s just not reasonable, OP, if your DH has to work. As for making more connections with the locals, just how many connections do you think you’re really going to make if you’re only there for a month and are moving around at that? Yes, there are snakes in Thailand - and you have to look out for them in the jungle, but like others, I don’t entirely understand why you’re living off the beaten track. As to your original question, YABU in not allowing your DH to go to internet cafés for his work - it would be like not wanting him to go into the office in the UK, if he’s a digital nomad. If you’re a SAHM, then he has to do his job while you look after the kids, and you can’t expect him to stay at home all the time.

What nice country would you like to settle in?

But you sound incredibly anxious and unhappy, rather than someone who thrives on a new climate, culture, language and set of challenges…

If you don't feel safe without your husband there then different accommodation would be better if you can afford it- it's makes no difference whether you are awake or asleep with the things you are worried about.

Since your that far from a beach, etc, isn't it better that he works where he wants when you're sleeping and be with you and the children when you're awake? Imo, it doesn't make sense for him to work when you're all awake at the same time.

Enjoy the experience though, I wish I had the funds and job to take mine travelling. Its an opportunity that not many people have!

Your thread title is very dramatic for your situation.

Your DH is essentially leaving you and the children to sleep whilst he goes to a cafe?

Looks like you are starting to get into the timezone now. Not sure why you chose to stay in a "jungle" if you have animal/ crawly fears. Once you get a beach resort you will love it. Thailand is my favourite place you just need to find some more child friendly areas.

I'm v jealous!

You're only there for a month - let your DH go out and about and see things. If you've been able to communicate enough with the neighbours for them to tell you about snakes, then surely they'll be able to help you in an emergency? They'll probably more helpful than your DH.

If you arrived a few days ago you should have adapted to the local time zone by now. Sleeping all day while your husband is awake all day doesn't sound a good idea & makes no sense to me. I've done long haul flights in the past where got zero sleep overnight and still adapted to the local time zone within a couple of days. And should be even easier for the kids as they can nap during the day but don't need to sleep all day! Not if you want them to adapt to living in Thailand.

I think you should sort out your sleeping patterns (after all, your husband had to do it immediately) and then a lot of the other problems would disappear.

If you were in Bangkok for two days, why are you still not operating in local time?

From what is sounds, you are no longer in Bangkok. So how long have you been in Thailand? 4 days?

YABU. Let him go and work where he works best. You're a big girl and don't need him to watch over you all sleeping. You don't need to be sleeping during the day anyway, work on changing that with your kids and it won't be an issue in a few days.