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Will my daughter like Newcastle if she doesn't like Glasgow?

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feedmefudge · 04/02/2025 01:14

My daughter is keen to go to Newcastle Uni. We're in Scotland. She's an anxious girl and sensitive to her environment.
I was brought up near Glasgow and went to uni in the city. I'm very fond of the place. 18 year old doesn't like it at all and finds it rough. Sorry, I know that sounds so bad, but I'm unsure how else to express it.
I've never been to Newcastle but I get the impression it's a fun and lively 'party' city, similar to Glasgow. I just don't know if it's going to be for her and think she may feel more at home in a calmer place, eg York.
I know she sounds like a total snob, but it's just her anxiety.
Thank you in advance for your thoughts. And if anyone has ever lived in Newcastle or went to uni there, I'd love to hear from you Smile

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Bayonetlightbulb · 04/02/2025 08:47

KellyJonesLeatherTrousers · 04/02/2025 06:44

I know you’ve said it’s not the point of the post but honestly why would you choose to pay £30,000 in tuition fees when you don’t have to!

Ultimately your Uni experience is affected by first year halls, course content and the friends you meet. I would encourage her to focus on the campus itself and accommodation provision. It is easy to avoid the parts of a City you don’t feel comfortable in.

I obviously don't know the OP's circumstances but if a student is having to take out a maintenance loan anyway having to take out a tuition fees loan too isn't a very big deal as repayments are based on % of earnings not on how much you have borrowed and the compound interest is such that most people will never manage to close off their loan anyway.

BusMumsHoliday · 04/02/2025 08:45

Second all the advice about Lancaster. I think it would probably be the vibe she's looking for.

Is Keele too far South? It's a reasonable train connection to Glasgow via Crewe. Stoke is not the prettiest of towns but the "6-towns" structure means that none of the centres are massive. The people there are the warmest you'll find anywhere. There's lots of lovely countryside around campus and it attracts students who like to make their own fun away from big city centres, but still had great nightlife at the union when I taught there about eight years ago.

Nottingham, Warwick also worth looking at if the Midlands is not too far.

NeedToChangeName · 04/02/2025 08:34

Stirling could be a good fit, perhaps. They seem pretty hot on student welfare, campus has plenty facilities and green space. And amazing sports facilities. And close to Edinburgh

MyFlightWasAwfulThanksForAsking · 04/02/2025 08:31

I go to both cities often and yep I don't think you'd be a Newcastle fan if you don't like Glasgow.
I'm pretty streetwise but Newcastle city centre is the only place I've felt unsafe in recent years, due to drunk football fans. But it's not like it's the only city to have that problem and I guess if you lived there you would know where and when to avoid.

SpringBunnyHopHop · 04/02/2025 08:30

I live in Newcastle. I honestly don’t think it has the party vibe that it’s known for anymore.

While there is some amazing bars and restaurants it’s not a wild city plus if she wants quiet you can jump on the metro and head to multiple beaches. It’s a quick journey to Durham etc.

KimberleyClark · 04/02/2025 08:27

She might find Aberystwyth or Bangor to her taste, and not as far south as Exeter. Or possibly Swansea.

LuLuRN · 04/02/2025 08:27

What about Stirling? A beautiful campus, everything very safe & self contained?
Would you have to pay for uni if she went to England?

TemporaryPosition · 04/02/2025 08:21

Glasgow is rough now but I suspect everywhere is in decline, how about Stirling?

Swiftie1878 · 04/02/2025 08:20

I went to Stirling. Beautiful campus and excellent facilities. Could work for her, course dependent.

Marylou2 · 04/02/2025 07:05

Slowdonkeys · 04/02/2025 06:05

I would also recommend Lancaster.
Lovely city, small, not not rough feeling at all, just less touristy than York. Excellent university.

Yes to Lancaster! Also Durham, Warwick and Bath. Depends on how academic she is and what she wants to study. Could Oxford or Cambridge be worth a look?

RampantIvy · 04/02/2025 06:58

Newcastle is smaller than Glasgow, and the centre is more compact. The metro is great for getting about and to the coast. When DD stayed there to work after she graduated she lived at the coast for a year.

I visited her a lot Grin

99point6 · 04/02/2025 06:54

York's drinking issues are well known. However it is also a campus university and easy to socialise away from city centre.

namechanger986 · 04/02/2025 06:52

I would also recommend Lancaster. Gorgeous collegiate university on a self contained parkland campus ten minutes bus ride from the city centre. The colleges all have a really strong identity. 15-20 minutes to the coast, close to the lakes. Very safe. It’s a really lovely small city with a good range of bars/pubs a few clubs and loads going on. It’s a real hidden gem of a university.

Viviennemary · 04/02/2025 06:51

Newcastle is nothing like Glasgow IMHO. But she needs to visit it to decide if she likes it or not. Don't know anyone who dislikes Newcastle

TheyAreNotAngelsTheyDontCareAtAll · 04/02/2025 06:47

Slowdonkeys · 04/02/2025 06:05

I would also recommend Lancaster.
Lovely city, small, not not rough feeling at all, just less touristy than York. Excellent university.

I agree. And it's a quick train trip to Glasgow. And The Lakes!
Good luck with your search

KellyJonesLeatherTrousers · 04/02/2025 06:44

I know you’ve said it’s not the point of the post but honestly why would you choose to pay £30,000 in tuition fees when you don’t have to!

Ultimately your Uni experience is affected by first year halls, course content and the friends you meet. I would encourage her to focus on the campus itself and accommodation provision. It is easy to avoid the parts of a City you don’t feel comfortable in.

Fucketbucket · 04/02/2025 06:40

Stirling sounds like a good fit

Porcuporpoise · 04/02/2025 06:39

Lancaster might be worth a look. Campus uni, just outside town (not a city). Not too far away.

feedmefudge · 04/02/2025 06:37

Thanks again everyone. Really good advice and I appreciate you taking the time to post.
I should add that my daughter does enjoy a night out with friends. She's not a total drip Grin

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Luddite26 · 04/02/2025 06:33

York is not the naice place it once was big drinking culture on a weekend. Newcastle similar to Glasgow - and I love both cities - I would say your DD would find. Although I had a friend's dd who went to Northumbria Uni about 15 years ago crippling EBSA and anxiety but she managed it. Friendly people and she didn't go out drinking anyway. Glasgow would be the same find your niche.

Everywhere is a bit more run down now than it was in 2010 so she would be best finding the best course to suit her and finding the right feel.

feedmefudge · 04/02/2025 06:32

Sgtmajormummy · 04/02/2025 06:27

If you’re looking for pastoral support, Durham is very strong and students are given college rooms and therefore a readymade social group from year 1.
Underwhelmed by the academic side? I’d think again.

I didn't say she was underwhelmed by the academic side. More that she didn't get as much of a feel for the place as she thought she would.

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moose62 · 04/02/2025 06:30

My DC went to Newcastle uni...did a Masters so 4 years. Absolutely loved every minute of it. Great uni, great nightlife, good uni sports and clubs and very friendly mix of people. I paid the accommodation and I can't say it was much cheaper than any other uni but the beer was, apparently. A few if DC's friends went to Durham and spent every weekend in Newcastle!

feedmefudge · 04/02/2025 06:30

Quinlan · 04/02/2025 02:19

Are you sure she is actually cut out for uni?
If she finds Glasgow rough, she is going to struggle in just about any city, especially if she is going to go out at night at all. Doesn’t really matter what city you’re in; city night life is city night life. Glasgow has wonderful parts in the west end and city centre. She wouldn’t be hanging out in any of the places you’d maybe call rough. Same as any city.

Yes, she's cut out for it Smile
I do know what you mean though.
Living in Edinburgh has spoilt her a bit Shock but she fancies spreading her wings.
In fairness to her, the city centre of Glasgow has gone downhill a bit, especially around the stations (though it was always a bit dodgy there). My dad attends GA meetings in the city and even he feels intimidated around the Bath St area at night. He is someone who ADORES Glasgow and won't hear a bad word against it. He's always telling me how much nicer the people are in Glasgow Grin And he's not the kind to feel scared easily as he worked at Barlinnie prison all his days!

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Sgtmajormummy · 04/02/2025 06:27

If you’re looking for pastoral support, Durham is very strong and students are given college rooms and therefore a readymade social group from year 1.
Underwhelmed by the academic side? I’d think again.

Hopper123 · 04/02/2025 06:27

I live in Newcastle, both myself and my husband went to uni here and after working down south spent years working hard to get back uo here as we love it so much. It doesn't feel like many other cities do to us it doesn't feel grimy or massive and there is so much more than partying (yes people come from miles away for nights out here but she can totally avoid that if she wants. Beautiful peaceful coastline and beaches just a short metro ride away. Where we live we can walk into the city centre on a few mins but we actually pass fields of cows on our way in. Loads of countryside as well plus activities for sports/hiking along hadrians wall nearby, Durham just a short train ride away. Theatres galore. Airport on the doorstep. Honestly we feel like the best of all worlds here but it very much depends on what she wants definitely pay a visit and spend the day with her and see what she feels. I've never net anyone who doesn't like newcastle I'm sure there are some but I think the majority of people just love it here. P.s I was born in Glasgow and I would not want to live there no offence to anyone but def not my cup of tea x

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