Worst thing your in-laws have ever said or done to you?

My mil made a whole photo album of my tiny baby daughter (her only grandchild) and her daughter and my husband, heavily edited to imply they (brother and sister) were the parents. She had to actively chop me out of pictures to make the weird incest baby book. This was about 4 weeks post birth

@ Nannyfannybanny

“I didn't even get to sit at the top table with DH. His brother sat one side, kid the other who refused to move.”

And neither your new DH nor your mother moved the kid? I jolly well would have done had it been my daughter ousted from the top table at her own wedding! Outrageous behaviour. (TBH, your DH doesn’t come out of this very well, unless he moved and sat with you.)

i suspect my ex MIL did that too! 🙄🤣

Don’t be ridiculous. You are looking for something to take personally there.

If she’s a size 10 and MIL is giving her a size 20 then how is it OP having a dig at plus size women?

I’m a size 22. We all know the clothes are big.

MyMIL dies in 2005 and I do miss her in many ways - she was hard going though - I remember when we were moving from 6 miles from them to 100 miles away and in front of me hissed at my DH 'I expect this was all her idea' - my H took her outside and explained it was actually his choice .

My MIL is awful to all the DIL (DH has 5 brothers so there’s plenty). It’s a common theme that she doesn’t like them. The family has divorce rate well above the average and I joke how bad they are at marriage, MIL thinks marriage is totally sacred and yet doesn’t seem to have made the link between making more of an effort with her DIL, latest DIL to leave the family (by divorce) didn’t see MIL for 3 years because announcing their divorce…

She criticises all our parenting, is totally misogynistic, believes women should take the bulk of the parenting and look after the children whilst the man works but also have a glowing corporate career and not let that slide. I’ve often said to DH I’d love to sit her down and get her to untangle what she says and ask how exactly she thinks we should live our lives.

Parents - maybe, emotionally abusive bastards, but that's for another thread. Brought me up well for myself, though.

In laws nothing - wouldn't dare. Simple.

Not in-laws but my mum.
Said to DH "Course, we're lucky living here, we didn't get all the blacks and asians like where you live".
DH is mixed race. She knows this and has met his family.

Reading these I can’t believe how nasty some people can be.

I wonder what it is about the DIL - MIL relationship which makes them think they can be so rude.

DD is in her 30's now and, as far as I know, the last time she saw her dad's mother was in 2018 when DD's dad finally married the OW after 17 years. DD is getting married herself in a few months time and her dad's mum is only invited to the evening reception (she wasn't invited to any of it initially but DD didn't want the drama that would have created). DD was quite young when I divorced her dad so any contact would have been on his time not mine as I haven't spoken to /seen the witch since.

What the hell!!!

I've had a few over the years - after my Mum died 'It's probably for the best as she wasn't going to get better' (not her place to judge). When we told PIL that we were expecting 2nd child (after quite a long gap as I don't seem to get pregnant very easily) 'you're not really a family until you've more than one child'. DD2 turned out to be autistic amongst other things and with incredibly challenging behaviour at times but apparently she was 'always fine' when she was with them. Yes, because she masks and comes home and lets it all out! Also described her as fat when she was in the room. In the next breath, she'd offer her another biscuit! Arrgh!

My mum did exactly the same with both of mine.

Gave a thumbs up emoji to my husbands message announcing our engagement. Waited until we visited them to celebrate it, to say that he must be desperate for a visa to marry me.

Some gems from my ex boyfriend's parents.

• said I would never amount to anything
• said I was only with him for their money
• blamed me for how drunk my boyfriend was on his birthday - I wasn't even there!
• his mum would ask if I was pregnant any time I had any form of appointment
• invited me on their holiday and the complained I was around too much
• complained that my boyfriend paid for "everything" because he'd paid for our lunch at Wetherspoons - as a thank you to me for taking him to London and paying for everything
• his dad pushed me aggressively after shouting at me because his son was drunk - again, I hadn't been with him but he'd called us both to go and get him because he was "lost"

We were together between the ages of 16-19 (me)/18-21 (him)

Do you still have contact with her? She is horrible in so many ways. Saying that to a mother who has had 4 late term losses is despicable and the obvious preference for boys over girls would mean that I wouldn't let her have any contact with my daughter.

Oh and after I had surgery to remove an ectopic pregnancy and fallopian tube the questioned the diagnosis because her observation was I wasn’t in enough pain when she saw me and should have been in more pain 🤣

My MIL holding my newborn said “I’ll pass them back to [DH’s ex wife name]”

MIL had my step DD whilst I went to hospital, urgently, because my bloods were being monitor for a pregnancy of unknown location (turned out to be a ruptured ectopic) on my return, we told PIL the sad news that there was no baby. Suspected miscarriage. She said “it’s not the end of the world” and proceeded to wave photos of DH’s exW newborn baby in my face. That was really upsetting. She said “have you seen exW’s baby aren’t they doing well”.

When DH got a house she told him not to move “a woman” (we’d been together 18m at this point) in there because she’d “take it all”.

When DH announced our engagement, three years after being together she said it was too soon and similarly refused to acknowledge my first pregnancy because we weren’t yet married. I was just a bit fat.

I'm a mil. My dil is amazing and we get along great. I learnt how NOT to be a nasty in law from my in laws.

Another absolute doozy my (now thankfully ex), MiL came out with after I had given birth to a healthy girl, following 4 LTMs all of which were boys...." I would have preferred a grandson, but at least you managed to keep this one alive".

Lol where do I start! My MIL over the years has said many a thing that I've questioned myself why say that. She told me once my husband never knew if our relationship was going to go anywhere, I mean who does when you first meet someone (some ok) but why tell me. What was her point? She questioned our finances when I took a big redundancy, what business was it of hers. Asked me if I was doing right by my children raising them vegetarian. Told me my husband's ex was the daughter she never had. That's great I had a wonderful mum. The worst for me was when I told her my Mum was end of life status and was a matter of time, her reply was "do try and cheer up". Needless to say I am civil for my husband and family but there is no love there for me towards her.