Worst thing your in-laws have ever said or done to you?

Asking for alone time with my 8 week old and when told no went to my husband behind my back to try and get him to agree

Criticising my choice to breastfeed and making creepy comments

crying when they found out we were engaged

crying because they didn’t get to watch our intimate couples photo shoot on our wedding day

Telling all her friends my sons private medical information

making comments how I should give my husband money because he earns less than me (it’s 50/50 bill split and I work part time due to childcare)

screaming and shouting at us when we asked them not to visit one time when our son was a newborn after his vaccines and was poorly … apparently he’s their grandson and they can visit whenever they want

FIL asking DH to pick between me or him. We had 2 kids at the time. Not a hard choice for DH 😂

Repeatedly threatening to cut us out of the will - again, spiteful from FIL but didn’t have much impact on us as it’s a will - it should be FIL’s decision, do what you will, FIL. No idea if he’s actually cut us out, as he likes to use it as a threat, but I hope he has.

There’s more. Much, much more.

No. I wouldn't have a heart over that

My DGC would be even more precious

I do think there are an awful lot of unhappy middle aged and older people out there , be it bad relationships, feeling trapped, ill health, unfulfilled jobs etc - and they take it out on those closest, often the other women in the family- some real charming examples on here

These stories are so sad, but also very sobering. They debunk the myth that parents totally prioritise and love their children unconditionally. They obviously don't.

It's very clear that some parents care far more about themselves than they do their own children. In many cases it's apparent that parents simply don't love their children, not in a way that I would recognise love, anyway.

I know for a fact that my MIL loved her twin sister far, far more than any of her own children.

FIL and step-MIL have cut contact with us, including their young DGC.
DH explained to Step-MIL how it made him feel when she was shitty with him if he hadn’t contacted her frequently enough, and that he would like it if FIL made the effort to contact him sometimes rather than it always being her. They both took offence and now they’ve been NC for 2 years. DH very clearly left the ball in FIL’s court and they’ve not been in touch. It’s so sad.

My MIL (who disliked me) parked our then 9 month old in front of a blazing fire in a pram (May weather). DD had an overcoat and hat on too, with a blanket on top of her. When I picked her up, her hair and body were soaked in sweat.

My deceased parents in law were very good to me, always, as was I with them.

Used to nark me she used to refer to Husbands ex wife as her 'first daughter in law'. I did correct her ... she's actually your ex daughter in law!

Just remembered another, on the morning of our wedding FIL called to collect buttonholes that had been dropped off by the Florist at my parents (where I still lived). I was sat in the kitchen with my rollers in, listening as he told my dad that dh (to be) was extremely nervous and he didn't think he was going to turn up at the church. My dad went into a panic, planning what to do with all the guests if the wedding didn't go ahead, but I knew what FIL was like and I also knew dh, who'd really had enough of his parents by this stage, was desperate to marry me. My poor dad spent the wedding morning worrying what was going to happen, when we should have been enjoying our last morning at home together, looking forward to the day ahead.

I have a disabled DD, when telling my MIL i’m pregnant again she says ‘oh so you might have 2 autistic children then’ and ‘how do you feel about possibly having another c section?’ She’s so insensitive and invites to herself to everything I mention doing.

MIL:
Said to me week or so after my mother's funeral "You can come to us for mother's day because you'll have nothing better to do".
Pretended to be my late mum when I gave birth to DD in order to gain info from the hospital while I was in labour (somewhat successfully)
Decided that "as we were up anyway" when DD was newborn that she could ring us throughout the night (we muted our phones eventually) one particular night she rang hourly from midnight to 6am.
Wrote to our neighbours to tell them how terrible we were.
Visited the local Vicar to tell them how terrible we were.
Phoned friends parents to tell them how terrible we were.
Contacted Social Services to tell them how terrible we were.
Stalked us.
Made abusive phone calls to us.
Then complained to her CPN that we didn't have a close relationship with her and got them to write us a letter telling us to do better. Got pissy when we didn't reply to that letter during her regular phone call to DH.

No, she is not mentally well. She is much better these days but will still occasionally threaten to speak to my Dad about our behaviour (i.e. not pandering to her). I'm over 50, dobbing me in to an 'Adult' holds no water (and my Dad would back me any day of the week anyway).

Bloody hell 😳

It was what god wanted. After a miscarriage.

youre just not compatible.

your only breastfeeding to stop anyone else from being able to look after the baby.

My in-laws never once verbally acknowledged to me that my father had died (I was only 25) or expressed their condolences. Not even a simple 'Sorry for your loss.'

They also totally ignored that I miscarried our first baby (their first grandchild).

And they went on to be determinedly oblivious to the fact that my mother had died. Exactly the same when my brother died the following year.

Not. A. Single. Word. Spoken.

When they both died I didn't feel a scrap of sadness. I felt absolutely nothing.

My MIL offered to come and stay to "hold the baby so you can clean the house"

wth?

You're telling a woman who lost her husband, father of her children, to "have a heart" because she's sad that her children lost their father and their grandparents?

Are you for real?

Fuck me, that's one of the crueller and least empathetic things I've seen written down in black and white.

when my DD was 6 weeks old my exMiL said I was a useless mother because all I did was looks after 'that baby'

The day I got married my SIL and BIL (spouses of my DH’s siblings) told me that they had an “anti-MIL” club to chat and commiserate with each other when she was horrible to them and would I like to join!

A few years later she told me she wanted me to drive my DD the 5 hours to stay with her, but immediately leave myself as she didn’t want me there so I’ve not driven there since!

WTAF 😱

There's so many I don't know where to start. On telling her we were adopting after dh had finished chemo which had left him infertile, MIL "and what does (dh) think about the fact that you (me) can't give him a baby of his own?" Dh was absolutely disgusted and soon put them right. Then when we adopted our young child, dh, who was a teacher, was at home during the summer holidays and whilst I worked he looked after her. On learning dh was looking after OUR child, FIL commented "it wasn't fair that dh was having to spend his summer holidays looking after THAT
child ". However, I think the most upsetting was when my darling dad died and MIL and FIL visited me at mum's, as I stayed with her the week after he passed away. FIL proceeded to giggle his way through telling a "joke"about a widow who'd just lost her husband and the only thing she was interested in was selling his Merc. My beloved dad's Merc was visible through the window whilst he told it. He then told another" joke" involving a corpse of a man and the funeral director struggling to get his toupee wig on it. Me and my mum sat there in utter disbelief, whilst MIL giggled along with him, explaining he'd been told the "jokes" by his cronies at church!

My mil was staying with us and I was faffing around somewhere and realised she wasn't around. Went upstairs to find her in my bedroom having pulled out the drawer where I keep my underwear (which was untidy but the drawer had been closed) and was rearranging it!! and then had a go at me because it was untidy and asked why I wasn't embarrassed!! How I kept my cool I still don't know to this day.
Granny in law told me to my face that neither I nor my parents were good enough for her grandson and how we should be grateful they agreed to our marrying......

My DM is rude and without emotional intelligence. I'm sure her DiL finds her difficult but it isn't about her role as MiL it is just how she is and how her background was which impact now.

I am a MiL. ( 7 sons across our blended family) The easiest relationship of all is the relationship with my son’s husband. So relaxed, open, doesn't play anyone off, no perceived competition between our families and a real fairness in time and effort.

Granny-in-law told me in a room full of in-laws that my pregnancy must be my idea because my husband had always said he never wanted children.

When I went on Mat leave, MiL told DH to stop bringing me a cup of tea in bed because I wasn't working now so should get my own.

My Mum came to stay when my baby was a week old and my husband went back to work. It was winter and I didn't have a tumble drier so I asked my in-laws if they would dry some towels for me. FiL came over to collect them and announced that it was bad job when two women couldn't look after one baby! In-laws also told me to stop spoiling the baby by picking her up when she cried.