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Worst thing your in-laws have ever said or done to you?

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Springsunshine123 · 03/02/2025 21:52

Whats the worst thing your in-laws have ever said/done to you? Long list of mine include:
MIL telling me on our wedding day “Did not expect this to be this nice from you”
MIL asking me how much my jacket was and when replying £50 she said (god are you sure, wouldn’t expect you to fork out that much!)
trying to feed my 9mo lucozade
wanting someone to blow smoke into my 7yo’s ear to cure his earache
telling me it was my fault her husband was coughing…. The list of gems is endless…GO!

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TamborineGal · 04/02/2025 17:42

Sooooo many, but here's a corker (and typical)

Sitting at the dinner table at PiLs, chatting to my lovely SiL drinking wine. Humourless, fun sponge MiL reaches between us and takes our wine glasses to 'wash up'. Glasses were half full ffs.

Without blinking, I got 2 fresh glasses from the cupboard, poured some cold wine from the fridge and carried on the lovely chat.

30 plus years of this, gimme a medal 😬

TheNuthatch · 04/02/2025 17:42

Yes she's a real peach my MIL. Thank goodness she's no longer in our lives.

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Springsunshine123 · 04/02/2025 17:39

TheNuthatch · 04/02/2025 17:20

That's awful, poor child.
My MIL never looked after my dc after that. My SIL recently told me that years ago, my MIL went to visit SIL in hospital after she had her first baby. SIL was struggling to breastfeed, baby wouldn't latch on. My MIL heard, and promptly whipped out her own breast and gave it to baby, whilst telling my SIL how useless she was. There was a midwife in the room who gave MIL short shrift!

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😱😱 Eeewww

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Doloresparton · 04/02/2025 17:37

TheNuthatch · 04/02/2025 17:20

That's awful, poor child.
My MIL never looked after my dc after that. My SIL recently told me that years ago, my MIL went to visit SIL in hospital after she had her first baby. SIL was struggling to breastfeed, baby wouldn't latch on. My MIL heard, and promptly whipped out her own breast and gave it to baby, whilst telling my SIL how useless she was. There was a midwife in the room who gave MIL short shrift!

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Good grief.
That's beyond weird.

Wendolino · 04/02/2025 17:27

Sharptonguedwoman · 04/02/2025 08:34

I think anyone can baptise a child, following the same actions and words as a minister. (Not saying this lady was right to do so!).

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This is right.
I think the parents are supposed to want it though!

TheNuthatch · 04/02/2025 17:20

Doloresparton · 04/02/2025 17:12

@TheNuthatch
I was at an event a few years ago and was telling a woman, Anne,that I didn't know too well how lovely her 12 year old (autistic) dgs was as he'd been helping his dp's at a music night taking food orders to tables.

She replied that he wasn't lovely.
Apparently he should have shared his tips with his older brothers ( they were not helping.)

She then told us that when her dgs was little he was upset as his mum left him with her the dgm whilst she went shopping.
Anne told us she slapped his legs hard to make him behave.
I've kept my distance from Anne since.

That's awful, poor child.
My MIL never looked after my dc after that. My SIL recently told me that years ago, my MIL went to visit SIL in hospital after she had her first baby. SIL was struggling to breastfeed, baby wouldn't latch on. My MIL heard, and promptly whipped out her own breast and gave it to baby, whilst telling my SIL how useless she was. There was a midwife in the room who gave MIL short shrift!

Doloresparton · 04/02/2025 17:12

@TheNuthatch
I was at an event a few years ago and was telling a woman, Anne,that I didn't know too well how lovely her 12 year old (autistic) dgs was as he'd been helping his dp's at a music night taking food orders to tables.

She replied that he wasn't lovely.
Apparently he should have shared his tips with his older brothers ( they were not helping.)

She then told us that when her dgs was little he was upset as his mum left him with her the dgm whilst she went shopping.
Anne told us she slapped his legs hard to make him behave.
I've kept my distance from Anne since.

TheNuthatch · 04/02/2025 16:48

Nanny0gg · 04/02/2025 16:29

I cannot imagine anyone doing that

Even 'old school' doesn't explain it.

Was she like that when your DH was growing up?

And how was your DD for the rest of the holiday? Wasn't she traumatised when she saw them again?

Poor, poor little girl

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It took months to get dd back on track. We didn't see PIL for a long time, and then went NC. DD is now a young adult and wants nothing to do with her GP.
MIL is a horrible person. She is never wrong, never needs advice, always better at everything. She is bitter and angry at her children now having more important women in theirs lives than her. All of her children in law are now NC with her. As I said, I could fill this thread with some of the things she has said and done.
My theory is that MIL is the type of person who is an expert at everything. She could not bring herself to phone me and ask for advice, despite having no experience with ND children.
MIL never apologised or showed any remorse or emotion. She said dd was told she could come back inside when she stopped screaming, she didn't stop so she left her there. In MIL's mind, that is perfectly reasonable discipline.

Edited to add: Yes she was cold and went overboard with discipline when dh and his siblings were young. Never cruel though, just harsh and cold. He left home at 16 to get away from her.

Nanny0gg · 04/02/2025 16:29

TheNuthatch · 04/02/2025 15:36

I had the same reaction as I'm sure you can imagine. PiL just stayed in their room with the door locked. Probably a good thing as I would have ended up in prison otherwise!

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I cannot imagine anyone doing that

Even 'old school' doesn't explain it.

Was she like that when your DH was growing up?

And how was your DD for the rest of the holiday? Wasn't she traumatised when she saw them again?

Poor, poor little girl

TheNuthatch · 04/02/2025 15:36

Fernticket · 04/02/2025 15:34

I would have thumped your MiL. I wouldn't have been able to stop myself 😡

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I had the same reaction as I'm sure you can imagine. PiL just stayed in their room with the door locked. Probably a good thing as I would have ended up in prison otherwise!

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I would have thumped your MiL. I wouldn't have been able to stop myself 😡

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Springsunshine123 · 04/02/2025 15:22

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What the actual f£&k 😱😱😱 I want to give your poor dd a hug! What a vile vile person!

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DucklingSwimmingInstructress · 04/02/2025 15:11

Red0 · 04/02/2025 10:10

Oh and at the same time as telling my 3 y/o that I’d wanted to abort her, relishing in telling her how much more time they would get to spend together when I died (I had stage 3 cancer at the time) and how fun that would be

Pure evil.

Sincerely hope you are clear of cancer now. And her, come to think of it.

OneEdgyScroller · 04/02/2025 14:53

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Oh c'mon now. I am plus sized and I would be put out as well if MIL gave me joggers several sizes larger. Dont look so hard for reasons to be angry.

Nanny0gg · 04/02/2025 14:40

I must admit, I have no idea why some of you are still in contact.

OnlyThickBeans · 04/02/2025 14:34

Saggyknickers · 04/02/2025 14:32

The other thing thwy strikes me about these stories (aside from the fact you have nasty psychos for IL's) is that a lot of you have a dh problem.

If my IL's did/said even one of the more horrific things some of you mentioned neither dh or I would have anything to do with them again. I really don't understand why you would stay in touch with these horrors.

My DH is low contact anyway. He has stuck up for me before.

OnlyThickBeans · 04/02/2025 14:33

Nanny0gg · 04/02/2025 14:31

Age as it's apparently 'generational'

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I’m not sure I agree - MIL being bitches is a story as old as time. I have two boys so I desperately hope their future wives (or husbands, depending on which way they swing) doesn’t feel the same.

Saggyknickers · 04/02/2025 14:32

The other thing thwy strikes me about these stories (aside from the fact you have nasty psychos for IL's) is that a lot of you have a dh problem.

If my IL's did/said even one of the more horrific things some of you mentioned neither dh or I would have anything to do with them again. I really don't understand why you would stay in touch with these horrors.

Nanny0gg · 04/02/2025 14:31

OnlyThickBeans · 04/02/2025 10:55

Reading these I can’t believe how nasty some people can be.

I wonder what it is about the DIL - MIL relationship which makes them think they can be so rude.

Age as it's apparently 'generational'

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wickerlady · 04/02/2025 14:05

DancingCactusFlower · 03/02/2025 22:13

My MIL baptised DD over the sink with holy water as we wouldn't have her christened

You win 🤣🤣🤣

Oodlesandoodlesofnoodles · 04/02/2025 13:59

GiddyCrab · 04/02/2025 00:36

Where did she get holy water? Did she steal it from her church?

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You can buy it in little bottles from places like Catholic Church gift shops. I have a little collection.

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Springsunshine123 · 04/02/2025 13:49

thepariscrimefiles · 04/02/2025 13:44

WTAF! What is wrong with her? What did your DH say?

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This is so crazy, but my SIL did similar at family get togethers… not a single picture of me just “them” with my children. Dont mind me ill just pop these put of my hoo-ha for you to take feom me.

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thepariscrimefiles · 04/02/2025 13:44

OliveLion · 04/02/2025 11:15

My mil made a whole photo album of my tiny baby daughter (her only grandchild) and her daughter and my husband, heavily edited to imply they (brother and sister) were the parents. She had to actively chop me out of pictures to make the weird incest baby book. This was about 4 weeks post birth

WTAF! What is wrong with her? What did your DH say?

Nanny0gg · 04/02/2025 13:30

andyouwillknowusbythetrailofdead · 04/02/2025 06:34

Sorry, what's wrong with that? It sounds quite thoughtful, they wanted you to be comfortable? Or do you think of size 20 as grotesque?

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The OP is probably a size 10 and MiL was having a dig.