Worst thing your in-laws have ever said or done to you?

My FIL told my daughter when she was 8 or so that she was too big! She is now 18 and size 6 or 8...she was definitely not too big at 8 either. I was really mad about that comment.
He informed me that my shoulders were a bit wide and that I'd have to be careful! (Careful of what, I was never really sure)
I am a normal, average size, but my PIL are naturally very slim build so I think they have a skewed idea of normal sizes!

I would suggest that they didn’t ruin them but gave you photographic evidence of how horrible they are. I am sure you looked beautiful and your husband handsome - it says so much more about them.

MIL said the reason my husband was suffering severe depression was that I had lost a baby mid pregnancy some years earlier. She repeated it was all my fault.

I have never forgiven her.

My MiL telling me all about my Sil ( her other DiL ) toe nail removal saying how painful it has been when I had just come out of hospital to have a lump removed from my liver, it was an 6 hour operation and we were not sure what the out come would be. She didn't ask me how I was feeling /recovering. 🙄
I had always been the dutiful DiL weekly visits and telephoning her mid week , where as my SiL only visited high days and holidays.

My ex PILs were a mixed bag. They'd help us out with money now and then (much appreciated) but would expect effusive thanks for months or years afterwards. And they'd bandy it about too so the whole family knew.

Now and again they'd come.to stay at our house in the country for a holiday and to look after animals when we went away. Win-win One time, MIL tidied out my underwear drawer. 😳

Another time she decided our sofa needed arm covers so she used the big matching cushions to make them. Without asking. I used the cushions for back support when breastfeeding so I had to buy new cushions.

She 'weeded' all my seedlings one spring when it was too late to re-sow.

The worst one, to me, was FIL commenting that my daughter, who was a very healthy weight for her height, at around 2 yoa, was 'quite chunky' . I was so angry I told them that if they ever said anything about that again they would not be seeing the children again.

That being said, my own dad was a piece of work towards my son whilst spoiling my daughter, so they weren't alone in their weird behaviour.

SIL 1: (about an ex of now DH, but at time DP) "she was my favourite girlfriend he's ever had"
Ruined our wedding by waiting until a month before, during covid, to tell me that the make up artist and hair stylist she knew had stopped that line of work so she would no longer be gifting me this for the wedding day. Couldn't book anyone else so I now hate my wedding photos and think I look like shit as I'm not great at hair and make up but had to do my own. This from someone who has been married twice, both big weddings so surely would've known.

SIL 2: genuinely slagged me and my DCs off when she didn't know I could hear her.
Told me she had "always thought you were really thick but now I've spoken to you you're actually really intelligent"
About a breakdown I had years before "you've always been not the full ticket, you've got a screw loose" (when I confronted her on her nasty words about my DC).

SIL 3: lied to another unliked member of the family that myself and the three of them are really close to make her feel like shit when actually we aren't and I barely see them, and they regularly slag me to death.

All 3 jointly: actually argued in front of the family at a party, that DD wasn't 18 this year, she would be only 16.
They argued with me.
The person who gave birth to her.
With one of them there.

Fuck sake.

This is why I have fuck all to do with them.

OMG - what did your DH/DP say

I could write a book. MIL tried to break up my marriage the day after my wedding by trying to get my husband to leave me. Came home various times to overhear them on the phone with her telling him to leave me. After a few years of marriage she banned me from attending sister in laws wedding as she didn’t want me in the photos. I took an allergic reaction to getting 40 mosquito bites and swole up and she said I was being ‘dramatic’ by asking if they had any antihistamines. Then she decided she liked me after 12 years of marriage so i asked her why she was so horrible to me up until that point. She claimed it was because her son (my husband) was so horrible she wanted to spare me from a lifetime of misery so was wanting me to be single for my own good…. The woman can’t decide who to throw under the bus!! I don’t talk to her (made easier by her being in another continent) and would pass myself with her if I had to see her but she’s a toxic, dangerous person. Thankfully my husband sees through her but it took a while for his eyes to be fully opened.

Nothing to my face…. 😂
They know (as DH puts it) I’m a fiesty one!

Good thing you’re making up for them being lovely. What do you want, a badge?

It’s not a dig though is it. Surely no one of that size isn’t aware that they are plus size

When my now DH took me home to meet his parents, the only thing my FIL could say to him after I left was that I had nice teeth!

Have always been fortunate with PILs but I remember my MIL (at the time) telling her niece in law that I had stayed overnight (no issue). The niece in law said ‘oh wow, I’d never let some little slag stay at my house’. I actually laughed, only met her a few times but she was utter poison. Had been with my boyfriend for about 2 years at this point.

Decided her ds shouldn’t be married to me anymore and bought him a property to get him away from me. I’ve done nothing but love that man but she just never liked me.
Shame Dh can’t stand up for himself!

Remembered one my aunt told me about.
She said to her future MIL , who had 2 sons, "I hope I can be the daughter you never had".
Future MIL's response was 'I never wanted a daughter" !!

All MIL.
Im surprised she hasn’t had a baby yet, referring to my 16 yo daughter from a previous relationship
You’ve given my son TB when my partner got TB. He had it not me.
hes not talking yet because you must sit him infront of the tv all day, about my 18 month old
i remember you when you were 17 and you were a lot smaller, I worked in a shop way before I got with her son she used to come in
i don’t have a great relationship with my grandchildren because she won’t call me mum, referring to me not wanting to call her mum, because she’s horrible to me.
she also would watch my every move so she could criticise everything I did. My fave was why are you cutting their grapes. So they don’t choke. Ok but don’t stab him. He was miles away from the knife! I said I promise I’ll try not to stab my child!
I’m no contact now surprisingly 😂

My MIL sulked one Christmas Day because someone else had bought the pressie they had bought DD4 was happy with it thanked them and said something along the lines of “I’m so happy look what I have, I have two now I can have one at home and one at GP’s” anyway it was all my fault (nothing to do with me) and I kid you not she would not speak to anyone for 4 hours on Christmas Day, and turned her chair to face the wall and would not look at anyone, muttering nasty comments under her breath. It was at SIL’s house and I felt so sorry for her, both her DC’s had severe mental health issues and one ended up hiding under the table because of the stress. We never spent Christmas with them again, I just did not want to put my DC’s through that.

You absolutely could have said something and I hope you did eventually have your DDs back as it doesn't read like you did.

My ex MIL told me that job is morally wrong and she couldn’t possibly condone it.

Ex-MIL - on my wedding day many years ago, when I was 6 months pregnant.

After arriving at the reception from the ceremony she said to me “you look like a beached whale in that dress”. (It was actually a stunning Benjamin Roberts gown from the era, chosen particularly so that it would flow over my beautiful bump)

During the meal EXH’s sister came up to the top table and said to her mother - in earshot of my parents - the champagne tastes like cats piss. It was not cheap champagne and clearly wasted on her palette. My Dad firmly told her to go and sit down. How he kept his cool, I don’t know.

The list goes on when I recall that day but not surprisingly I left him and his awful family after 3 months.

I’ve since been blessed with a warm, caring, compassionate MIL who has been there for me even more than my own mother. She restored my faith in mother in laws!

Baby bump is now in her 20s and never met her biological father or his horrible family. I dread to think how our lives would have turned out if I still had that MIL!

Going to read rest of thread later to make me feel "better" that it's not just my PILs.
For context, both my parents passed away in the last 4 yrs, early 70s , both from cancer.
They were great GPs and adored and doted on our DS and DD.

My MIL once said about some acquaintances that they always raved about their grandchildren all the time. She said "we're not at all bothered". I couldn't believe she actually said this to me and DH!

Another time when DD was about 18months or so, not gaining much weight or bothered about food, I said I'd been reading a book for some advice etc. Her response was ' I never had time to read books!'.

She and FIL who are now in mid 80s are always clearing stuff out, gave us our wedding photo and photos of the kids back! Thanks then...

They didn't bother sending sympathy cards when my parents passed away.
It is a shame. Our kids basically don't have grandparents now. I last saw them over a year ago and have very little to do with them.

There are loads of other examples, but I have gone on long enough. Quite good to get it off my chest!

This thread and some of the comments highlight how insensitive people are towards those who have miscarriages

I’ve thought of another one… telling DD1 & DD2 that my beloved step dad who married my mum years be for either of them was born was ‘not your real grandad’. My dad was abusive to my mum and us, my stepdad was the dad I turned to for over 30 years until he died. MIL knew all of this and my daughters were primary school age. Yes he wasn’t a blood relative but he was 100% their grandad. I’m sure she thought I wouldn’t find out but it upset my eldest so she told me. Nothing I could say as it was the word of a 7 year old over MIL

Not IL’s but my uncle, who told me (after two miscarriages in the previous four months) that if I couldn’t cope with it I should’ve kept my legs closed.
Unsurprisingly we are now NC…

"I have always been so disappointed in all three of my daughters in law. I wanted the sort of girl I could talk about girly things with and who would take me shopping". This after I drove her all over the place shopping when she visited us in the USA and I was 8.5 months pregnant.

Also, a few days before my due date "I am sorry, I have decided I can't look after my 4 year old granddaughter when you go in to have the new baby. I wouldn't know what to do if she was sick or something" followed by "My DS will just have to stay home with me and her. I don't know why you want him there anyway. My husband never came in with me. I wouldn't have wanted it".

She was an absolute monster, I put up with her for 42 years, she made my life hell on so many occasions. Nobody mourned her when she died at 96 last year.