Worst thing your in-laws have ever said or done to you?

Not me but my own parents. When my Mum and Dad got married, my Nan was unhappy because my Mum wasn't a Catholic. At their wedding, she squeezed between them as they cut the cake and took the knife and cut it herself. There is a picture of this scene. I don't honestly know how my Mum put up with some of her behaviour!

Mil when I had a miscarriage oh it obviously wasn't meant to be,yes that's just the thing I'd want to hear.
Her mother said to me a couple of years ago well it's not as if you're family...we've been married 30 years! She's an wickid sour old bitch who no one visits anymore as she's just simply bloody awful.
She'd rather be on her own so that's the way it is

Oh mine never says things to my face, only behind my back. Her party trick is bad mouthing her kids and their partners to the others and causing no end of trouble over the years. It took me a long time to realise it was her exaggerating and down right lying about what others had said or done. She's been behaving like this since they were children, pitting them against each other. Consequently DH is terrified of displeasing her 🙄

I had a seizure after the birth of one of my DC and during my next pregnancy at a family event SIL used a flash camera and took a load of photos of me repeatedly as her vile DC said “that’s a shame, I thought you said that would give her another seizure and I wanted to see it”. A vile family and I wish my DC were not related to them.

Please please tell me you are NC with them now? What did your DH say?

My mil was very very rude about my mum. My mum died not long after that, and mil's last words about my mum were despicable. Can't and won't ever forgive her, though she has no idea I still hold onto this and we get on in most respects. But I can't get past it. So rude.

My FIL squared up to once when he was drunk because I laughed at something my BIL said and he thought I was laughing at him.

My MIL is usually nice but my SIL can be difficult and demanding throwing tantrums even as an adult. I put my foot down once when she was taking the piss expected DH and I to give up our time to always be doing stuff for her, DH was exhausted from work and she had given no notice and we already had plans. MIL turned quite nasty to me, backing up SIL even though she was being very unreasonable, saying to DH "blood is thicker than water" etc. Honestly its no wonder SIL can't make any relationship work long term and is miserable because she was pandered to all her life by her mother and I think it quiet suits MIL she is still single at 45. Its quite sad when you think about and somewhat toxic. I tend to keep my distance.

Invited them to come and see us two days after my Dad died. They declined because they were gardening. When my DH explicitly pointed out that I wanted to see them because of the circumstances, they said they still wouldn't come because they had their garden to do.

Mine aren't as bad as this, but MIL can be awful sometimes.

She once got angry at my chronically ill mum couldn't host a festive family event they were invited to because she was having a bad patch, and then that my 80-something grandparents wouldn't host instead (we didn't have the space at the time, and neither would my grandparents)

Another time she got mortally offended when she found out I hadn't also invited BIL and family over to ours for dinner with them (BIL and family did not mind at all), on the day, when I was in the office. And she demanded I invite them or they wouldn't come. I said, OK then, we won't host dinner because I can't add another 4 people at this notice. I think she really thought I'd do it - but that seemed stupid, one way or another she'd be in a foul mood that would make it miserable for everyone, so I wasn't putting everyone or myself through that.

Once she came over when I was 2 hours into tidying the house for some guests later, like literally had been wiping down the kitchen cupboards and stuff and was knackered; she took one look and said 'Aren't you going to tidy up before your guests come?' My husband had a word.

sorry this one made me laugh out loud. Was she a vicar? haha (guessing not)
(Think I did that with the cat when I was about 6 and had been to a christening)

Omg this reminded me of the scene in young Sheldon where his mum dose that with Georgies baby 😂

Oh and 4 wks PP after a very traumatic birth 'here are some comfy joggers for you to wear around the house.....sz20' 🤨

Nothing. Mine are lovely.

When my husband and I told his parents we'd gotten engaged after six years together his mother didn't congratulate us but simply asked 'How long do you expect that to last''. Happy to report we're still together, 17 years married, 23 years together and absolutely mad about each other still. It took until 3 years ago for me to go no contact but understanding and researching narcissism has made it easier to accept her behaviour and move on from it while maintaining no contact, thankfully I have a husband who supports me despite still taking care of his mother. Mind you, she also told me she adopted my husband and his brother because another lady in the area had adopted a daughter and got a lot of attention and praise, she wasn't joking, she wanted the attention so she adopted two children. Her husband was a good bit older and was an incredibly weak man who never stood up to her, the adoptions were in the late 60's and her husband was over the accepted age limit but they were 'pillar of the community' types so that was overlooked.
I could write a book about her.

'What the bride ate before the wedding' for reference size 14 me v size 26 MIL......

MIL is brilliant at backhanded compliments - telling me my food must only be nice because I must add so much oil and salt to it. And her son never got fat with her cooking because she adds no salt or oil.

Gave me a 4XL dress after DD was born (I was a size 14) and that it was ok, all women get fat after having babies and I will go back to normal.

Uncle in law: the water from India is so dirty and did my family actually drink it? You should see how beautifully clean the water is in [insert native country of said uncle in law]

Not really something she said but SIL (who was 37 at the time) was very touchy feely with my younger brother (just turned 17 but looked very pre-pubescent) and went on to graze her hands past his crotch. I saw it with my own eyes. SIL in general loves to be awkward whenever my family is around - stripped into her bra and knickers in the courtyard during one of our pre wedding events. Urgh just cannot stand her.

I have to say mine are nice (have a v bad relationship with my own parents)
When we bought a home together mil said Gil was disappointed we didn’t live beside them (I absolutely couldn’t as it would be too much)

but I know exactly how strained relationships can be from how my parents talk to me

My ex FIL said to me I would never amount to anything, I was home for the weekend from Uni. Also ex MIL asked one Xmas would I like a mince pie, when I said yes, she asked if I was sure because of the calories??

Ruined my wedding day and they weren't even in the same country! I felt so bad for my husband, he tried so hard not to get upset all day but mostly his mother, really ruined it.

Said husband was throwing his life away, I just wanted a visa (he's actually the one who decided to stay in the UK instead of us going back to his country), I was just after his money, I was evil and also the devil incarnate. Every couple of years she tries to get him to move back, even though she's mostly okay with me now, I still refuse to do video calls etc, I won't forget how she made us feel.

Great thread idea!

So many passive aggressive comments from mil!

When we told them I was pregnant.
"Was it an accident? And we assumed you couldn't have anymore" (I was 37 )

When we asked if DS and I could stay a night so dh could do some decorating.
Mil "Why don't you stay at home and decorate?"
Me "because I've got ds?"
Mil "he's better behaved when your not there"

After that one we took them up on their offer to babysit but I ended up on a night out so dh still did the decorating solo!

Lots of comments about dh earnings more and paying for me. And being too soft on ds.

My MIL baptised DD over the sink with holy water as we wouldn't have her christened

I don't know the exact wording she used, but DH asked MIL to leave after she and FIL cornered him with their Catholicism and insisted our baby be christened, 20 years ago now. A conversation they purposely didn't include me in (I was in the garden with baby DD wondering where everyone else was and then suddenly they appeared and got in the car and left!).

I do know that MIL told DH that if DD died she would go to purgatory/limbo and it would be my fault (note mine, not his) - I think that was the moment he asked them to leave. He's never fully recounted the full conversation to me because he was so angry and (understandably) upset at the time.

He's a good man - I always see examples on here of husbands not standing up to their mums in defence of their wives and children, and on that day he did, before I even knew there had been an issue.