Worst thing your in-laws have ever said or done to you?

MIL manages to upset everyone at every single opportunity.

When I first met her she said - your not (husband's) type, you're too pale.

MIL asked me to go with her to buy her outfit for my wedding day.

First port of call was a very swish boutique in our small market town. She tried on a few outfits and one particular outfit looked fabulous and I told her so. She went quiet when she saw the price tag. Both the boutique owner and I were trying our hardest to get her to buy it. She didn't - her excuse was that 'she didn't want to outshine the bride on her big day'. To which the boutique owner replied, 'your daughter in law to be could wear a big black bin bag and still outshine you'.

We ended up in C&A in a large city centre (that dates it) where she bought a dress for £19.99. Her shoes and hat were from a market stall. The outfit which we had all liked was £300 and it was more than I'd paid for my wedding gown (she didn't know that).

Other 'compliments' were 'the black widow is here again' (me).

'That lipstick looks fluorescent' - it was clear lipgloss.

'I wouldn't make my son eat that muck' - I was making pizza dough and had just spent a small fortune on gourmet cheese and meats.

'You and your father could be twins' - meant to be derogatory.

'Let's go home and get warm' - she said to FIL when the darn parkray fire had gone out and I couldn't get it relit while H was at work. 'That's going to be nice, (her son) coming home to a freezing cold house when he's been at work all day.' I'd only just got in from work myself and was busy preparing a meal rather than concentrating on the fire (which powered the central heating).

There wasn't a day went by without criticism and snarky comments. I was glad when FIL divorced her and she went to Lanzarote with her new boyfriend and her divorce proceedings. My children were 3, 5, 7.

She doesn't know my children. She'd booked a cheap last minute holiday and went away the day before my first child was due because she told me that all first born children were at least two weeks late and she wanted to look tanned in 'her baby photos'. He was born the day she went on holiday. She told me I was inadequate at breastfeeding as her second son (BIL) had put at least a pound on every week while she was breastfeeding. H had been formula fed.

When she visited relatives back in the UK she would walk past my children in the street because she had no idea what they looked like. She took no interest in them whatsoever. She came back to live in the UK a few years ago and expects us to drop everything and run after her. It won't happen - she alienated our children all on her own. She gossips to anyone who will listen about how she doesn't see her grandchildren and great grandchildren. Her great grandchildren are frightened when they see her as she is loud and overbearing.

She threw my husband out of the house when he was 15 because he swore at her because she hadn't washed his best jeans. He's hardly said a word to her in the intervening 47 years. I went out of my way to include his family in our lives because all my family are very close.

She is barely tolerated - my son who was an avid Harry Potter fan pointed out, when he was small, that she was like a dementer - who sucked all the joy and life out of everyone. I couldn't have described her any more accurately.

FIL married a wonderful lady - we see them regularly and socialise with her wider family. FIL won't say much against his ex wife - just, she's a very bitter woman.

She made her own choices - now has to live with them.

This really pissed me off at the time.

Once in a generation visit from family in Australia, huge family party organised by in-laws, never stopped blabbing on about it to DH. But, my DH was abroad for work when they came from Aus to UK so he couldn't make it, in-laws never thought to invite me though as obviously I was only ever a +1.

That was the end of me bothering my arse for them.

my now ex MIL sent my ex wife to be an email listing all the things wrong with me and why she shouldn’t marry me
in hindsight given how it turned out she was probably right 😂😂

There are no words. I am so very sorry.

“Aren’t you over that yet?”

MIL three months after the death of my daughter.

She had asked me why I wasn’t back at work. I tried to explain I didn’t feel strong enough as I still cried when I discussed my daughter and I couldn’t face dozens of work colleagues some of whom might not have known why I was off.

“You’re lucky you don’t have 5 kids to buy for” SIL’s snap remark to me the day after my daughter was buried - the week before Xmas. She was complaining about how she had so much Xmas shopping to do. I hadn’t been paying enough attention to her complaining and she was annoyed.

Oh, I dunno, I can't quite remember. But it was probably something related to my weight.
Not seeing them again after the divorce was such a bonus!

My husband's daughter, shortly after he died and before the funeral was even organised: "Well, I don't know what you think - but I think that when you're gone, you're gone."

No, I hadn't brought up the topic of the afterlife (or otherwise) and this was on the phone. I can't remember whether this was before or after she said she wasn't coming to the funeral. (It was during lockdown and she didn't want to risk her health.)

What the actual fuck! Thats horrendous

Im so sorry

I had suffered a miscarriage and was undergoing genetic testing it turns out I am a carrier of a genetic condition. We told family and Father in law said to DH ‘you should trade her in for a younger model’

Where did she get holy water? Did she steal it from her church?

My mil asked my parents ‘when is she (me) going to stop all this nonsense - she’s damaging the children’

Referring to us marking what should have been our daughter’s first birthday but she had died at three days old. My youngest child was too little to understand but my eldest wanted to mark her sisters birthday too.

When i first got with my partner his mother and father kept calling me his ex’s name but an ex from 20 years before.
And his father said that he will never love me like he loved her
(They broke up when they were 17)

His father is a narcissist and is still trying to brake us up 10 years later

Tonight I overheard my MIL tell my stepson that she loves him and his brother (my other stepson) more than my 2 daughters, who are also her grandchildren. This has been increasingly obvious in how she treats them, taking DSSs on days out regularly, having them for sleepovers, buying them new clothes and gifts and never doing any of this for our DDs but tonight I actually heard her tell him that and I've been shaking with anger since trying to work out what I should do.

the evening before our wedding - having dinner in a restaurant with maid of honour, husband (to be), best man etc - MIL said “I don’t know why you two are getting married - she’s (me) only marrying you for my (her) money!”
She didn’t/doesn’t have two pennies to rub together!
It hasn’t really improved….but her self importance is still a topic of conversation

They lost their child! Have a heart. I don't agree with abandoning a grandchild (like my inlaws did to my DD...) but grief does weird things and no parent should ever have to bury their own son/daughter. I wouldn't be able to go on living, I know that much.

Invited SIL to our new house. Gave her a tour and she kept saying her mate's house is so much bigger and more expensive.

Also then she invited us to a pizza party to announce she's cutting us from her will, everything will go to her friend's daughter, as if we ever wanted anything from her. I still believe she takes pleasure in seeing if we felt hurt 🙄 I hope she realizes now we honestly couldn't give a shit.

After I was widowed my in laws disappeared, to the extent my primary aged child asked me what they had done to make their GP's hate them.
When challenged GP's said they needed to be in their 'bubble'- my response, what without his children!!!
NB this was pre COVID & so not that kind of bubble

Well MIL told me I should have an abortion when I was pregnant with DS because DP would be a shit dad and I’ll end up single and alone (they didn’t get on) funny thing is when DS came along she absolutely loved him, he was the best thing since sliced bread in her eyes 🤭

On telling my MIL that I was pregnant,she said dismissively 'Oh, you'll probably have a miscarriage'.

2 weeks PP: "When will you start wearing make up again? People will start thinking you're ill"

I was in one part of the hospital miscarrying while a relative on my husbands side was also in the hospital having a baby. We didn't tell anyone until it was all over and I was home. My mother in law said to me:

'Oh to think you were in the hospital together! Did you message them and congratulate them yet?'

I will never forgive her.

I grew up without a mother & MIL once asked me the weirdest fucking question & I'll never forget it.
'Were you ever taught not to wipe back to front?'

She also accused me of helping myself to her alcohol cupboard, when I was 7 months pregnant.

We are/were long term NC with DH parents (both, although they were divorced and hated each other). FIL died a while ago, MIL now lives within a ten mile range of us but we haven't seen her in twenty plus years.
Far, far too many things to write on here sadly, and most are very identifying, but one was when I worked for MIL when I was in my late teens before I met DH. I broke my nose over a weekend and she was with enraged with me when I was upset at work (I still turned up in agony but really struggled). She took me by the arm and over to the GP surgery across the road where they confirmed that yes, I had broken my nose and needed to go to have it checked at hospital and to take some time off. She'd thought I was lying and still tried to make me go straight back to work from the GP. She even tried to make the GP tell me to go back. Was incredulous when I said no.
She also turned up at my front door when I'd called in sick with horrendous flu. I couldn't even get out of bed. My dad answered and had to physically stop her from marching in to check I was actually ill. She tried to make him say when I'd be back.
She was a very difficult women who could be kind and thoughtful but also an absolute fucker. You never knew which one.
There are much worse things that I can't tell.
I met DH through her and we are still very happily married years and years on despite the difficulties!!!! I always say I must bloody love him to have put up with them!