Worst thing your in-laws have ever said or done to you?

She told my DH it was only a matter of time before I broke his heart and he'd come back to her, because men always go back to their mothers.

Some truly terrible stories on here. Must admit, as mother to 2 sons, I’ve checked the thread to see if I’ve inadvertently upset either of their lovely wives (I can sometimes speak without thinking) but so far, so good! Although I never liked my DH’s parents, their behaviour was quite mild compared to some of the things on here…..first meeting with his parents, his father, in his late ‘60’s, thought it appropriate to squeeze my bottom……his mother always called me by his ex-wife’s name (evidently they didn’t even like her so don’t know why)…..they never understood that I had a professional career and thought it terrible that I continued to work after we had children ( my DP’s did the childcare)…..totally disinterested in our sons but doted on their other grandchildren…..treated my DH as an “outsider” in his own family although he was the only decent one out of all of them….not being given a wedding present by any of his family as he’d been married before and they’d bought him something then. A strange lot!

That my son wasn’t Autistic it was just because I was a shit parent.

I refused to take my newborn baby an hour and half away through country roads to watch her go gliding in the middle of a field. She was not happy and made it clear and when I wouldn’t budge bitched when I left the room to my husband. There’s loads more.

I can't stand underhanded nastiness like that. If you don't like me and don't want to gift me something, just say, then we know where the line is drawn.

Being called my partners ex’s name, more than once.
getting through cancer to then be told “you surprised me, I didn’t expect you to handle this well”

My pil came into some money. At this point we’d been married over25 yrs. my dh had two sisters and we had a dd. At Christmas they gave both sisters and our dd £1000 each. Nothing extra for me or dh. Two weeks after Christmas is dh birthday. Lo and behold, he gets £1000, my birthday, nothing! It was so clear that they didn’t want me to have a penny. Dh was livid and spent his money equally on us both and took great delight in telling his dp’s what he’d bought. Mil was livid and said we wanted you to have some money of your own to buy yourself something nice because you never have anything! Dh had just bought a Ferrari and I’d bought him a Rolex for chistmas. It wasn’t about the money, we didn’t need it. It was just done so nastily.

If I lost my child, I’m damn sure I’d want to hold on to the closest thing to them; their own child!

Fs 🤦‍♀️

Could write a book, but they are not worth the headspace

When we finally had our baby following years of loss and trying fil said I could stop being so reserved around them now I was a productive family member. That amongst so many toxic comments and behaviour.

I've told this on here before but MIL (before we were married) told me how glad she was that neither me or SIL are black. We were just having a normal conversation and she dropped that in.

Like others she also referred to herself as mum when DC1 was born. Dc even got a birthday card signed "mum" from here.

I've also had her take DC out of my arms to comfort them when they were crying.

Batshit

They didn’t, they were all perfectly fine. It was more “Oh our Caroline always had lovely big healthy babies! 10lb-ers they were!” Then looks down on and makes snide comments/presumptions about smaller babies (the mothers)

They may well have had gestational diabetes. A maternity related health condition and cause for sympathy rather than bragging!

I’ve just commented on another thread which reminded me of another gem from the MIL

DD was 5lb 6oz at birth - no reason she was small, but no concern. MIL decided that’s because I must’ve smoked throughout the pregnancy, as though there were no other reason for a baby to be small. She told a lot of her family the same thing. I’ve never smoked, never mind while pregnant. She proudly tells how her own DD had all 10 lb + babies though, as if that means that she looked after hers better whilst pregnant.

More like you should be saying to
Mil "what did you do to him!"

When I told
MIL that her precious child was an abuser she asked

"Well, what do you do to him?"

MIL called me lazy to my face because DC weren't potty trained by 3. They both have SEN.

Constantly harped on about how I was a wonderful partner and how I made her son happy . Then I found out she’d been surreptitiously facilitating situations where his ex would be there and I wouldn’t .
was extremely friendly with his ex seeing her every week (which normally is not a problem) but did her utmost to keep me a secret and make out that her son was alone pining over her .
telling his ex that he was just in a strop and she’d get them back together!

They’re so awful. Nothing is ever good enough for them or their darling son! It’s a shame because I’d like a good relationship with her but she cuts herself out by being mean.

Ah! That makes sense! I was thinking you had some epic spidey sense to be able to tell from looking at the syringe! But I guess you did have epic spidey sense to know to go and check!

Thank you @Sunburstclocklover yes, she’s a rotten old boot. I could write a book on all the sometimes thoughtless, but usually just horrible things she’s said and done over the years. Thankfully we don’t have anything to do with her anymore.

Nothing! They are so nice and I love spending time in their company.

Fil once called me by dh's ex wife's name but pretended he hadn't. We all had a laugh about that

Dear mumsnet HQ we need a shocked face and massive eyeroll emoji for posts like this!
This is my clear winner. Not that it's an enviable position. I feel so sad for Red0 that she and her DC had to experience that.
Some of these women are just batshit crazy.
Noticed a poster above complaining about being nasty about MiLs. By God some of them deserve the NC Imposed by families. I'm a MiL and I learned how not to behave by my own (long deceased) MiL who was vile but tame by some of posted examples!

We get ours mail order from Lourdes! You can get from other places too.