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AIBU?

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To think she should help out without the attitude?

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BottomlessBrunch · 03/02/2025 21:28

Dd 18 in her last year of school takes my younger dd to school usually twice a week.
She drives past younger DD's primary so it's not out of her way and younger DD (age 10) gets out the car and walks in so it's not like the older one even has to park up and take her in.

Anyway she has an attitude about it and quite frankly treats the younger one as an inconvenience.
I've always said I don't expect her to play with her or be her best mate but I do expect her to treat her with respect and help out as part of a family.

Aside from this oldest dd works hard at school, has a PT job and pays for her car and insurance herself and am very proud of her but this is a frustrating situation.

Breakfast club isn't open at the time I leave for work and it's too far for her to walk safely at this time of the morning.
I don't ask older dd to help out round the house this is what I ask her to help with instead and I don't feel like I'm asking too much. I give her petrol money every month as a contribution as i am saving money on before school care.

Any advice - AIBU or is she?

OP posts:
Raindropskeepfallinonmyhead · 03/02/2025 21:30

I think yanbu.
If that is all you are asking of her she has had a result, not even going out of her way!! Hope she doesn't make it obvious to your 10 year old xx