nc for this. I am so worn down by DPs constant running commentary around the house. Its so petty and mind numbing that I have ignored it for as long as I can but its really getting me down. For example if I was sitting down with a cup of tea then I went to the toilet on coming back in the room he is there with the empty cup saying - what’s this? Have you finished with it? Ect. If I put empty the shopping on the side and fold the bag up to go back out to the car he picks it up waggles it at me again whats this ect ect. But me to him - if he leaves a cup and i am walking past i pick it up and take it. I don’t mention it. Plates on the side - I put in the dishwasher without comment. Shoes on the floor - I put in the shoe rack. I think that’s what we should do just have each others back? Yet yesterday I left my wet shoes to dry by the garage door and came back an hour later to find the shoes had been thrown 5 metres to the otherside of the garage. My toothbrush if I don’t put it in the pot gets thrown in the bathroom bin. Ect. He doesn’t work outside the house he is a sahd we have a 5 and 7 yr old I work full time 80 hours a week so yes I know sometimes am overwhelmed with work and all the mental load so can at times be absent minded. But I think his comments and reactions are extreme and unkind especially as I pick up after him without any reaction. My question is - should I start being like him to prove a point? Stoop to his level?
YABU - stoop to his level
YANBU - two wrongs don’t make a right