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To be annoyed with DP for being sick on the floor?

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Bubble77bee · 03/02/2025 20:56

On the way home tonight my DP said he was feeling a bit sick. I sorted dinner for our DC then took them upstairs to do bedtime while he lay on the sofa. I have no problem with doing this when he is feeling ill. Just finishing bath time and I hear him retching downstairs. He’s being sick on the dining room floor. Thankfully it’s a hard floor, but I can’t believe he didn’t make it another couple of metres to a sink or toilet. He continued to be sick on the floor while I was shouting down the stairs to him to get to the downstairs bathroom. Now it’s all gone quiet downstairs so I’m guessing he is back on the sofa and there is still sick on the floor. There is no way I am cleaning this up. Am I being unsympathetic? Or AIBU to be annoyed at him for being sick on the floor?

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Bramblecrumb · 03/02/2025 21:58

I would have said you were not being YANBU but while having hyperemesis there has been a few times where it's unfortunately been more sick than I was expecting and I have vommed on that spot 😬

Coconutter24 · 03/02/2025 21:58

angelikacpickles · 03/02/2025 21:09

Did you miss the bit where I said "at least attempt to"?

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But he did attempt to get somewhere and failed

BeLilacSloth · 03/02/2025 21:58

When very very ill you just can’t help it. He’s probably mortified. Give him a bowl, blanket and some paracetamol OP.

FallOfTheHouseOfUtterlyButterly · 03/02/2025 21:57

Peaceandquietandacuppa · 03/02/2025 21:54

No way! I have been sick A LOT. I’m prone to food poisoning (just have to look at a dodgy prawn). I’ve had two pregnancies with terrible sickness. I’ve been sick on trains, on an escalator, at a train station, in a car. Do you know what I’ve never done?! Been sick on a floor. Because I’m an adult who will a) make sure I have some kind of vomit receptacle at close hand if I’m feeling poorly. And b) if I didn’t I would do my damndest to make it to the nearest sink. Which isn’t hard downstairs with a kitchen and downstairs loo that you have. It’s a joke.

So on the escalator you had a receptacle?

And he wasn't sick in the floor anyway. OP didn't bother checking on him before coming online to bash him

Whotenanny · 03/02/2025 21:57

FallOfTheHouseOfUtterlyButterly · 03/02/2025 21:44

Not my experience
I've just suddenly felt sick rise

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Oh wow, I've never known this happen! Whaddaya know, we are all different.

Also, love that OP started this thread and completely assumed everything.

He was sick in a bowl. Not a big deal, unless he hasn't poured it away and washed it out?

Rewis · 03/02/2025 21:57

So the working theory at this moment is that he felt sick and he actively decided to vomit onto he floor cause he couldn't be asked to get up and go to the bathroom/sink?

XenoBitch · 03/02/2025 21:56

Peaceandquietandacuppa · 03/02/2025 21:54

No way! I have been sick A LOT. I’m prone to food poisoning (just have to look at a dodgy prawn). I’ve had two pregnancies with terrible sickness. I’ve been sick on trains, on an escalator, at a train station, in a car. Do you know what I’ve never done?! Been sick on a floor. Because I’m an adult who will a) make sure I have some kind of vomit receptacle at close hand if I’m feeling poorly. And b) if I didn’t I would do my damndest to make it to the nearest sink. Which isn’t hard downstairs with a kitchen and downstairs loo that you have. It’s a joke.

If you are on a train and suddenly overcome with a sickness bug.... are you suggesting that people carry a bowl just in case?

FallOfTheHouseOfUtterlyButterly · 03/02/2025 21:55

I'd clear up sick for someone else. Sometimes the smells of the sick makes you sick again

But then, as I said above, I've cleaned up so much sick at work that at this point I'm immune to worrying tbh

Peaceandquietandacuppa · 03/02/2025 21:54

No way! I have been sick A LOT. I’m prone to food poisoning (just have to look at a dodgy prawn). I’ve had two pregnancies with terrible sickness. I’ve been sick on trains, on an escalator, at a train station, in a car. Do you know what I’ve never done?! Been sick on a floor. Because I’m an adult who will a) make sure I have some kind of vomit receptacle at close hand if I’m feeling poorly. And b) if I didn’t I would do my damndest to make it to the nearest sink. Which isn’t hard downstairs with a kitchen and downstairs loo that you have. It’s a joke.

Pebbles16 · 03/02/2025 21:54

DH is a complete emetephobe (not sure that's an actual word). He gets no bile warning and just throws up. And cannot clear it up.
It is a horrible but rare occurrence (although happened last week so fresh in the mind). In sickness and in health etc...
Sometimes shit/vomit happens, I'm not going to put him through any more hell than being sick.

Onlyvisiting · 03/02/2025 21:53

Devon24 · 03/02/2025 21:39

Honestly my dh would be bloody mortified if I was catastrophising over a bit of sick and ‘checking on him’. Adult men don’t need mothering! He can manage to puke by himself - clear it up by himself and rest - like everyone else in the world. Bloody hell.

As it appears he's just got a bug then sure. But people vomit for all sorts of reasons, some being serious ilnesses including heart attacks. So yes, as a bare minimum if I'd heard someone being violently and unexpectedly sick then a dead silence I would at least check ( verbally at the very least) that they were conscious and breathing.
And vomiting is horrible so even if it was just a bug if I cared about the person i would show some sympathy and ask if they needed anything.

FlowerUser · 03/02/2025 21:52

I was in a cinema when a woman got up feeling sick and then vomited rapidly. I thought it was disgusting until it happened to me and I couldn't make the loo. Norovirus can come on very quickly.

I would clean it up and give him a bowl or bucket.

Loub1987 · 03/02/2025 21:52

CustardySergeant · 03/02/2025 21:48

There's no sick on the floor. He used a bowl.

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Oh right I missed that, sorry! Clearly having comprehension issues tonight.

So he got sick in a bowl, what’s the issue?

BruFord · 03/02/2025 21:51

Glad he got to a bowl and now he knows that if he's feeling queasy and goes to lie down, it's best to put a bowl beside you just in case!

TumbledTussocks · 03/02/2025 21:51

So he’s no longer on the sofa but spewing 2 metres from the toilet?

That sounds like a reasonable effort to get to the toilet to me.

I’d choose kindness, care and compassion personally.

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CustardySergeant · 03/02/2025 21:48

Loub1987 · 03/02/2025 21:48

Getting sick on the floor - can’t be helped. Leaving sick on the floor - lazy and horrible.

There's no sick on the floor. He used a bowl.

Loub1987 · 03/02/2025 21:48

Getting sick on the floor - can’t be helped. Leaving sick on the floor - lazy and horrible.

XenoBitch · 03/02/2025 21:47

FallOfTheHouseOfUtterlyButterly · 03/02/2025 21:44

Not my experience
I've just suddenly felt sick rise

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Same.
It just came up with no warning. And I was not even ill... it was in a cadaver lab, and I thought I was fine. My stomach thought otherwise. No mouth sweats - just instant vom.
I have also had some sot of GI bug.... almost sprayed my classmates with sick. Made it to the corridor. Once it is in your mouth, you don't want to keep it in there.

The only time I had the mouth sweats has been when I have been drunk.

FallOfTheHouseOfUtterlyButterly · 03/02/2025 21:45

Devon24 · 03/02/2025 21:40

There are a lot of entitled men on here

Oh of course
We must all be men

Biggest load of BS on MN is "you don't agree with my baseless man hating so you must be a man"

TwentyTwentyFive · 03/02/2025 21:44

BobbyBiscuits · 03/02/2025 21:43

He should've known he felt queasy and armed himself with a suitable receptacle.
It's true it can come on very quickly. If he was trying to move towards somewhere safer/more sensible then it's clearly an accident.
I hope he apologised and immediately cleaned it up. At least it wasn't a carpet.
Make sure he keeps a bucket next to him until he's well again.

He did, he threw up in a bowl.

FallOfTheHouseOfUtterlyButterly · 03/02/2025 21:44

Whotenanny · 03/02/2025 21:39

Before you vomit you tend to salivate. That's the warning sign to get to a bathroom right away.

I'd be annoyed, too, but at least it wasn't on a carpet (what a plus, hey?).

Not my experience
I've just suddenly felt sick rise

FallOfTheHouseOfUtterlyButterly · 03/02/2025 21:43

Devon24 · 03/02/2025 21:36

She was WITH her children posting, she didn’t leave them to drown. Honestly it’s pathetic!!! He is a grown ass man not a baby!

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Don't post on MN whilst watching your babies in the bath. That's not stopping them drowning FFS

Your words are just toxic masculinity. Calling him a baby etc.

BobbyBiscuits · 03/02/2025 21:43

He should've known he felt queasy and armed himself with a suitable receptacle.
It's true it can come on very quickly. If he was trying to move towards somewhere safer/more sensible then it's clearly an accident.
I hope he apologised and immediately cleaned it up. At least it wasn't a carpet.
Make sure he keeps a bucket next to him until he's well again.

lilytuckerpritchet · 03/02/2025 21:42

I had food poisoning once, it was like my body ejected everything simultaneously. I literally didn't have time to move.

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