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A matriarchy would be better than a patriarchy for women?

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OutsideLookingOut · 03/02/2025 19:09

I don't just mean women in charge, for example when Margaret Thatcher was PM that wasn't a matriarchy - she upheld typical patriarchal systems. I mean in a world primarily shaped by women - some examples might be medical research using female bodies, women seen as the default human.

Would we fall into the inverse problems the patriarchy presents? i.e. the patriarchy can hurt men as well as women - they can't express emotions other than anger because that would be gay or feminine. I wonder if motherhood would be put on a pedestal (though patriarchy has done this forever without actually ever helping women), would we still have capitalism...?

Or would the world be a better place?

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Hollyhocksandlarkspur · 03/02/2025 21:51

Well maybe there’d be less wars for a start without all the ridiculous male egos in charge of dictatorships.

Leafy74 · 03/02/2025 19:57

There'd be fewer wars but massive world-wide row once a month.

BlueFairyBugsBooks · 03/02/2025 19:28

I really enjoyed it as a book. It was based on the idea of pendulum theory. So the women in the book took the world to the other extreme where men were oppressed.

The pendulum theory idea is that we go from one extreme to the other, as the pendulum swings. And then eventually settles in the middle.

I'm not sure it would ever happen though. And actually no society that is intrinsically unfair is going to be good.

OutsideLookingOut · 03/02/2025 19:19

BlueFairyBugsBooks · 03/02/2025 19:17

It's a (wo)man's world. By Stella Beake

Thank you! Going to check this out. What did you think though? Do you think men/boys must be oppressed? Will any ruling class oppress the opposite of them?

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BlueFairyBugsBooks · 03/02/2025 19:17

It's a (wo)man's world. By Stella Beake

BlueFairyBugsBooks · 03/02/2025 19:14

I read a book based on this idea a couple of years ago, I'll go and find the title.

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