DH constantly making lewd graphic comments

Bipolar would make sense, he could be in a hypomanic state, ie not quite in a manic state but just bordering, my other thought was a dementia state called Picks disease which presents with disinhibited behaviour including fatuous speech. He really needs an assessment if you can persuade him, but he may well feel he's doing nothing wrong, either way I would be making plans to leave, it's an untenable situation at present.

I cannot stand twats and twattish sense of humour but that is not the case with you. You are married with a mentally ill person so what is the course of action for you. Did you know he is mentally ill when you married him ?

This guy is your husband , what was he like when you started dating him ???

Filthy Animal, his lewd comments make you feel uncomfortable, he should stop this straight away.
I have no respect for people like this, he may be depressed but this is no excuse to inflict his vile comments on you. He also needs to learn self control.

He is revolting
Some antidepressants can cause erratic behaviour/ hypomania which could be a factor so I'd tell him to see his GP
You might think he's a repressed catholic but I think he's a porn addict
It's absolutely not normal
What is his job? If he acted like this at work he would be sacked so I guess he can act normally ghere

What are you going to do when one of your kids repeats some of his inappropriate talk to others?

Well, we're all telling you this is NOT normal. And he clearly doesn't respect you or he wouldn't start his dirty talk when you discuss serious matters. Sounds like a teenager to me (an immature, rude one). How responsible is he in other domains ; does he work? Does he behave at work? With the children ?

How did this man ever make it to husband OP?

He should have been thrown back way before kids.

Have you tried telling him that you are utterly repulsed by this behaviour and if he doesn't stop you will divorce him?

Gross 🤢

Reminds me of Luke in Married at First Sight, who wrote a 'love' letter that included the sentence "When you were cooking I wish I got down on my knees and terrorised your bumhole".

"That will be £2.85 please."

"I want to plough..."

What’s the matter with you that you have to ask whether this is okay? It absolutely isn’t. Get your DC away from this revolting excuse for a man before they start mimicking him 🤮

It's going to go terribly well when your kids start telling their friends and teachers they're going to plough their sloppy minges, isn't it?

OP, this kind of behaviour is only associated with brain damage. Maybe somebody with bi-polar could be like it in the manic phase, but I've known a lot of highly manic patients (many in treatment for 'sex addiction') and none of them went around acting like Viz characters.

Since you asked, no, it's not normal and neither is it banter.

He evidently does use porn because that's where the violently misogynistic comments you're outlined come from.

It's very weird that you're putting up with it.

That's sick that he says these things in front of your children , poor kids. You owe it to them as a mother to put a stop to this behavior, what if one of them repeated what he says to you , in school or to one of their friends ?!

I couldn't stand that OP. He sounds like a horrible, suggestive , rude, filthy mouthed git .

This is so far beyond grim. (And there's no way he's got phrases like that without watching porn).

Everything would have slammed shut here long ago and he'd be out.🤮🤮🤮🤮

Porn addled misogynistic prick.

Absolutely disgraceful way to speak to your partner.

A man would only say that once to me, it would be over.

This sounds like bipolar and sounds like he’s not on the right medication. This is not normal. I would give him an ultimatum that he stops these comments and gets proper medical help now or you’re done. I’m so sorry you’re going through this.

If anybody said sloppy minge to me I'm not sure I could ever be in the same room as them again

'You may want to destroy my anus Bob, but is it worth destroying our marriage over? Quite honestly if you don't stop this disgusting language about me I will seek to divorce you.
And if you say anything inappropriate in front of our children again you will be leaving the same day'

Well that's what I'd say if I wanted to stay with him (which I wouldn't btw, he sounds gross and immature)

It is interesting that he does this more when there is something serious to discuss. He doesn't want to take or share responsibility for your family by the sounds of it.

What advice did you receive last time?

Your children deserve to not be exposed to this sort of unacceptable behaviour op, the longer you stay the more normalised it becomes and then you are equally to blame.

You need to take action here, sooner rather than later please.

I'm not clear about the timeline but: you have children, he refused a follow up appointment for bipolar, and every time he talks to you it's revoltingly sexualised? You say he's lost his libido but this endless drizzle of sex talk means that something is going on.

This is absolutely not normal, sounds like both a MH problem and he's being a turd with it. None of the possible explanations justify his behaviour or make it safe and OK for you or for your children. It's quite disturbing.

You have children. You need to think about protecting them from all this, as well as yourself.

Well stop playing along and tell him what a revolting pig he is

Where are all these vile men coming from lately?
Were their fathers the same?

Utterly gross.