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Waiting for the right guy equals no baby

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Chiliconcarneplease · 03/02/2025 11:35

I'm going full force with this - I hate how many people on here say about waiting for the right guy before having a baby (you had a baby in your situation???) Etc but between 30 to 40% of women are expected to end up childless (involuntarily) because they were searching for the right guy.

We have to accept women having babies in less than ideal situations, or we're fucked as a race.

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MidnightPatrol · 03/02/2025 11:41

@Chiliconcarneplease i don’t think women want to have babies with men they don’t like / won’t support them etc. For obvious reasons.

The issue isn’t that they’re being told to wait, it’s that having a child is a huge commitment / financial responsibility and it’s difficult to get all these things to align while young enough to have many kids.

I think you’d probably see the birth rate go up a bit if housing was more affordable.

MadameCholetsDirtySecret · 03/02/2025 11:40

What data are you referencing in your post, OP?

Jumblebum · 03/02/2025 11:40

The amount of childhood trauma that goes on due to parental conflict is staggering. Please don't just have a baby with anyone.

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Chiliconcarneplease · 03/02/2025 11:40

OneLilacGuide · 03/02/2025 11:38

What the heck! No effing way. I’d rather be happy, single and childless than be with a shitty husband/father. Why are you encouraging women to settle?! We should be encouraging men to do better!!

Well, to be fair I'm 100% agreeing with you - we should encourage British men to do better.

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Didimum · 03/02/2025 11:39

What is 'waiting for the right guy'?

JandamiHash · 03/02/2025 11:39

Chiliconcarneplease · 03/02/2025 11:38

Yes

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So you would rather have a highly populated world with single mothers, children in poverty, fatherless children and traumatised humans all round, than have a slightly less populated world with happy, healthy prosperous people?

OneLilacGuide · 03/02/2025 11:38

What the heck! No effing way. I’d rather be happy, single and childless than be with a shitty husband/father. Why are you encouraging women to settle?! We should be encouraging men to do better!!

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Chiliconcarneplease · 03/02/2025 11:38

MidnightPatrol · 03/02/2025 11:37

So you advocate… women having babies with men they don’t like / aren’t going to stick around / can’t provide for a child etc…. Purely so they have a baby?

Yes

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JandamiHash · 03/02/2025 11:37

neverknowinglyunreasonable · 03/02/2025 11:36

Agreed. Under his eye.

May the Lord Open

MidnightPatrol · 03/02/2025 11:37

So you advocate… women having babies with men they don’t like / aren’t going to stick around / can’t provide for a child etc…. Purely so they have a baby?

KimberleyClark · 03/02/2025 11:37

What about the children who then grow up in less than ideal situations with shitty fathers? Do they not matter?

JandamiHash · 03/02/2025 11:37

Surely it’s better to have no baby at all than have a baby with a useless, lazy half wit destined to be a deadbeat of a dad?

neverknowinglyunreasonable · 03/02/2025 11:36

Agreed. Under his eye.