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Fatphobia

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GutsyShark · 03/02/2025 09:56

My Instagram algorithm keeps showing me “plus sized travel” etc clips saying things like it’s not my body that’s wrong it’s the airlines whose seats are too small, claiming this is an example of fatphobia.

Mostly Americans so we are talking about people who are severely obese, not just slightly heavier than they should be (like me!).

Im not looking to judge, I get that this a complex issue but AIBU to think this is such a dangerous mentality?

It’s the same as Iif there was a pro smoking or pro sunbathing without suncream movement is it not?

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Goodweekincoming · 03/02/2025 10:14

I agree. I see so many people who are very overweight saying that they are in fact very healthy, no health problems, very fit, big boned, low metabolism, heavy set, fat genes etc but insist they are as healthy if not healthier than the average person.

You can and you should love the skin you are in but to be grossly overweight OR underweight is nothing to be celebrated or deemed acceptable. It is NOT healthy.

Hats off to all of those who are very overweight and trying to do something about it. It is not easy. I know some people have medical issues which cause weight gain and I feel so desperately sorry for them because it is out if their hands and that must be soul destroying.

Snackler · 03/02/2025 10:13

I wouldn't say the airlines are demonstrating 'fatphobia', ie fear or disgust of fat people. They are probably focussed on maximising their profit margins by making the seats as small as possible.

An airline offers a seat measuring eg 30cm x 30cm on an aeroplane for the price of £X. This is the product/service on offer. But if the product doesn't suit you because you need more space than 30cm², what should you do?
I can't think of any circumstances where flying is a basic need. But travel in general is, and bus/train seats are scarcely bigger. So if travel is a basic need, to what extent should we legally force private companies to amend their products/services to cater for the needs of all members of society? Forcing eg Ryanair to offer XL seats at the same price as standard seats is akin to forcing Sainsbury's to sell gluten free bread at the same price as normal bread.
Is this what we want as a society? Every single thing artificially levelled up? Many small businesses would struggle with this if applied across the board.

Crushgrape · 03/02/2025 10:04

There is a lot of “love your body no matter your size” movement at the moment which is great, but I do think there is a point where promoting a morbidly obese or unhealthy underweight body is damaging.

I myself have come across the “love the skin you’re in” influencers who are very, very overweight and show themselves eating everything and anything in sight. They’re extremely overweight and I do feel this is promoting an it’s ok to be extremely unhealthy attitude.

On the other side I also feel the same about the “what I eat in a day 800 calories to keep a size 0 body” unhealthy and damaging too.

I think it’s important to love your body, but we need to remember to love our body is to fuel with the right foods and not expect a flat stomach etc, just like a balanced lifestyle.