Grandparent has put themselves down as primary carer on our holiday booking?

Babies under two don't get a baggage allowance......

Why not?

And you say “seeing as you have baby’s luggage allowance, I’ll drop all the nappies and baby stuff over to you to pack, thank you”

The 5 hour early thing would annoy be FAR more than the lead passenger thing and this is where i'd be argumentative, confrontational and a refusnik. As in, 'we are getting there at X time and we'll meet you at the gate, we are not spending 5 hours at the airport'.

It wouldn't even be a debate.

I’d call the airline for clarification. If he is indeed listed as primary carer for your baby, I wouldn’t travel unless it’s changed. If it’s lead passenger and MIL got confused then I wouldn’t do anything.

FFS come on, really 🙄

I flew weekly with my baby from a few weeks and this is not something to worry about - you just book in your infant and they sit on who ever's knee they are on - the airhosts won't check and as the parent, you will remain 100% in charge of their care.

Don't give it another minute's thought.

If he wasn’t expecting to answer that question maybe he didn’t know which of you or DH he should choose so put himself down as the lead passenger?

> He will also get her extra 10kg luggage allowance
I think we know why he's done it...

This may be a misunderstanding.

It should be easily clarified or fixed. Ask you DP to ask the PILs to forward you the full booking info. If FIL is indeed listed as primary carer, check the airline’s FAQs or T&Cs to see what that means in practice. If necessary, contact the airline for advice.

If there are implications, ask if it can be changed. In fact (unless it’s a mix up and FIL meant lead booker) if he’s definitely listed as PC, I’d ask to change it anyway, unless there’s a hefty charge and it’s unlikely to cause a problem. Better to have peace of mind and clarify to the airline who the actual PC is. Could it potentially cause problems if either party had to cancel or change to another flight?

As for talking to FIL about it, it depends on (i) what he’s actually booked and (ii) the implications of that. If it needs changing, you’ll probably have to speak to him to change it, as he holds the booking. But it needn’t feel confrontational. Just matter-of-fact for good reason.

In general, I suggest your DP is clear with his DPs about speaking to him, or you both, before they go ahead with booking things for your child, as you like to consider options and decide. Not at all unreasonable. They probably think they’re saving you the stress. Lots of overbearing people think they’re being thoughtful.

Where do you think AI gets its information from?

Probably just a tick box thing (if even that), 'are you the carer', yes, no more questions, no, a whole load of extra detail required. And as said above basically it's assumed the lead passenger is responsible (in a way) for all the people they book on.

Recently booked flights similar to this and you are asked who the baby will be sitting with, of course I put my DIL her mother and not be who has booked it! does seem odd thing to do though x

We’ve just booked with jet2 and I remember filling this section out.

OP is the flight with jet2 because it is a field on the booking form so you may wish to ask In laws to change it. I’m sure it makes little practical difference when on board but still, very odd not to put mum or dad as the babies carer.

I was teasing i doubt the op is gonna do that.

You could just tell your FIL that you are the primary carer and want it changed just in case of any issues, or you could call the airline and see what this means and get it changed. It will be easily resolvable, if it even matters.

I long for the day women get backbones. This should have been shut down immediately and immediately corrected.

No they aren’t. I’ve booked loads of flights recently with a baby. You have to specify who the lead carer is.

At seat booking it checks again because there are only certain seats you can choose for a lap child. It literally says ‘name of adult + baby’ and normally there’s no fee for that seat booking too.

Guessing you didn’t actually make the booking and are just going off what MIL told you.

Only on Mumsnet…

I would speak to the airline for clarification. We have recently been on a flight where nobody was allowed to swap seats, they even made an announcement about it and said it was due to ‘weight distribution’. It seemed a very weird reason as they wouldn’t have known anyone’s weight at the time of booking but absolutely nobody was allowed to change or swap seats. I have never seen this before so I would definitely check just in case.

I think this is right - you are not allowed to fly solo with infant twins because of this.

Which part of the OP makes you think it might be? And what has it got to do with where the baby sits on the plane?

Really was no need for your comment. Why would anyone think it’s an appropriate comment to make.

Never even heard that this is a thing, lol I'd be like here's baby see you later 🤣 in all seriousness though, sure airport/plane workers will see you are the mother and doubt they will separate you and if they do try just say your the mother end of.

When you check in you will have your baby with you so they will put the baby with you. I am assuming you will be packing a pram as well so they will be sorting that out for you. Of course the baby needs to sit with you the whole flight. If your PIL thought otherwise then they must be batshit insane. When my baby flew he needed to go on the boob to cope with the pressure and ears popping etc. can. Your Father in law supply that? Thought not!